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Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

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SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:08

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

OP posts:
SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:56

SuperTrooper14 · 02/05/2025 17:55

In the light of OP's newest threat to set her friends on him, I hope by now the teacher has been alerted to the discussions about these threads going on right now in teacher FB groups (my OH is in some) and is thinking about what action he can take against OP in real life. I'd start with a restraining order.

Oh get over yourself you silly woman. No wonder this place gets the rep it does!

OP posts:
SuperTrooper14 · 02/05/2025 17:55

In the light of OP's newest threat to set her friends on him, I hope by now the teacher has been alerted to the discussions about these threads going on right now in teacher FB groups (my OH is in some) and is thinking about what action he can take against OP in real life. I'd start with a restraining order.

Figgygal · 02/05/2025 17:54

Still plenty of people on this thread thinking you're off your rocker but you interpret things how you want.

Oh and you've still been fobbed off
embarrassing

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 17:52

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:42

Fortunately, the HT in this instance disagreed.

I may have no DC at the school now, but I’ve plenty of friends who do. He would be very silly to repeat his mistake!

She had no choice you were digging

Teanbiscuits33 · 02/05/2025 17:52

The most shocking thing about this is the fact you have friends. You must be an absolute nightmare to be friends with, and either they will be agreeing with you to keep the peace because they haven’t got the confidence to pick better ones, or it’s a case of ‘birds of a feather flock together’ and they are equally as batshit as you, in which case their opinion doesn’t count for a lot 🤣

Justmovehousethen · 02/05/2025 17:48

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:42

Fortunately, the HT in this instance disagreed.

I may have no DC at the school now, but I’ve plenty of friends who do. He would be very silly to repeat his mistake!

Sorry Al Capone 🙄

StripyHorse · 02/05/2025 17:48

SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:16

For anyone unsure on the voting:

YABU - the school should have responded more strongly.

YANBU - it’s a reasonable outcome.

Just to clarify I voted YABU - not becuase I think the school should have taken stronger action, but because I think you are unreasonable for persuing this.

I am sure I am not alone.

ChkChkBoom · 02/05/2025 17:48

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Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update
Ilovetowander · 02/05/2025 17:47

SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:08

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

Sadly good teachers are leaving the profession. I think the HT was wrong and suspect that many HT would not have acted in that way. I think your vitriolic postings demonstrate a somewhat combative approach and the last posting referencing your husband was inappropriate which makes me wonder about your behaviour when you met this teacher - of course we only have your word for your behaviour/body language etc .

HuffleMyPuffle · 02/05/2025 17:45

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:42

Fortunately, the HT in this instance disagreed.

I may have no DC at the school now, but I’ve plenty of friends who do. He would be very silly to repeat his mistake!

  1. Yes, if he said it to a CURRENT PARENT it would be different
  2. Threats again OP?
JasperTheDoll · 02/05/2025 17:44

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:42

Fortunately, the HT in this instance disagreed.

I may have no DC at the school now, but I’ve plenty of friends who do. He would be very silly to repeat his mistake!

Again with the underlying hint of threats. You really won't rest until this man is hung, drawn and quartered in the playground will you.

The head didn't agree he politely said off you fuck you complete lunatic in the most professional way he could.

HuffleMyPuffle · 02/05/2025 17:44

CallMeFlo · 02/05/2025 17:42

Promise this is the last update??? Promise??

I doubt it

I'm waiting for the one where the Minister for Education gets in touch based on this thread and OP is now in charge of executing judgement over all teachers

Catlover77 · 02/05/2025 17:43

You’re hilarious OP! By the way, that is not a compliment. I am not sure you can ‘read the room’ but batshit has been mentioned once or twice, so that should give you an indication

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:42

Ilovetowander · 02/05/2025 17:40

This is how one school responded, the face remains this happened outside the school in a private place and you are not the parent. Yes the man was inappropriate but it was in my view not relevant to his employment. Teachers like the rest of us have a private life. Hope that he was/is a superb teacher and leaves that school to one where the management have more common sense.

Fortunately, the HT in this instance disagreed.

I may have no DC at the school now, but I’ve plenty of friends who do. He would be very silly to repeat his mistake!

OP posts:
CallMeFlo · 02/05/2025 17:42

Promise this is the last update??? Promise??

Ilovetowander · 02/05/2025 17:40

This is how one school responded, the face remains this happened outside the school in a private place and you are not the parent. Yes the man was inappropriate but it was in my view not relevant to his employment. Teachers like the rest of us have a private life. Hope that he was/is a superb teacher and leaves that school to one where the management have more common sense.

Muffinmam · 02/05/2025 17:40

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:35

DH did suggest a roleplay scenario, the dirty bugger. I’ve not had that many glasses yet!

Gross. You are gross.

fattytoadboy · 02/05/2025 17:39

WigglywagglyWanda · 02/05/2025 17:15

Is she pished on the champagne yet?

Fuck me if that's her sober the drunk version will be even funnier.

Picturing the scenario later

Op being pished on champagne decides to allow her other half a bit of hows your father....provided he showers with boiling water, keeps the lights out and stays utterly silent.

Oh and has another shower afterwards

Edited

I bet they have a penis beaker.

Muffinmam · 02/05/2025 17:39

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:35

DH did suggest a roleplay scenario, the dirty bugger. I’ve not had that many glasses yet!

You’re trolling.

Member869894 · 02/05/2025 17:38

There is something about your manner and attitude that really makes my flesh crawl.

SuperTrooper14 · 02/05/2025 17:38

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:35

DH did suggest a roleplay scenario, the dirty bugger. I’ve not had that many glasses yet!

Oh, so now it's funny when your husband is suggesting it? Guess that makes him Pervy Dad. 🙄

HuffleMyPuffle · 02/05/2025 17:37

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:35

DH did suggest a roleplay scenario, the dirty bugger. I’ve not had that many glasses yet!

Did he suggest he'd been a naughty teacher and you were the HoG who had to punish him 🤣

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:35

DH did suggest a roleplay scenario, the dirty bugger. I’ve not had that many glasses yet!

OP posts:
JasperTheDoll · 02/05/2025 17:35

HornyHornersPinger · 02/05/2025 17:33

I hope that's the way the teacher says it actually happened, whether true or not...

Would be totally believable due to the OP's actions

She's definitely displaying the behaviours of a rejected woman.

HornyHornersPinger · 02/05/2025 17:33

JasperTheDoll · 02/05/2025 14:32

I'm starting to wonder now if this was actually the other way around and she tried to chat the teacher up, was rejected and is now a woman scorned. Stranger things have happened.

I hope that's the way the teacher says it actually happened, whether true or not...

Would be totally believable due to the OP's actions

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