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Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

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SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:08

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

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SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:22

iseethembloom · 02/05/2025 18:19

Of course you’re self employed, @SophEll

You’d have difficulty with normal social interaction. I suspect that managing relationships with colleagues would be challenging for you.

I had a long and illustrious career in the corporate world - so much so, I can now pick and choose my work on a consultancy basis.

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iseethembloom · 02/05/2025 18:19

Of course you’re self employed, @SophEll

You’d have difficulty with normal social interaction. I suspect that managing relationships with colleagues would be challenging for you.

SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:19

HuffleMyPuffle · 02/05/2025 18:13

I'm regretting allowing this to get to 3 threads before realising what an insane and disturbing troll you are

(Although there were a lot of misconceptions I felt needed addressing before)

I sincerely hope no male teachers now get incorrectly hounded by parents because they decided they must be the person made up here

Give over - there hasn’t been a single identifiable thing given!

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SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:16

JasperTheDoll · 02/05/2025 18:07

This is definitely trolling, or the start of pissed ramblings. Be careful what you say, we might have to report you to your employer! For someone who thought she had been through a traumatic ordeal and thinking someone telling her they wanted to bend her over a desk was sexually graphic and rapey, I highly doubt you would eat him alive. Infect I feel sorry for your downtrodden husband. I'm sure he'll enjoy a bit of PornHub when you pass out later though.

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Good luck - I’m self employed!

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Justmovehousethen · 02/05/2025 18:13

This is the thread that just keeps on giving.

Absolutely mental.

Never have I ever wanted a) confirmation this is true b) the identity of the @SophEll more in my entire life.

HuffleMyPuffle · 02/05/2025 18:13

SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:03

Half of mumsnet right now 😂

Meanwhile, I’m sipping champers enjoying my victory.

I'm regretting allowing this to get to 3 threads before realising what an insane and disturbing troll you are

(Although there were a lot of misconceptions I felt needed addressing before)

I sincerely hope no male teachers now get incorrectly hounded by parents because they decided they must be the person made up here

Misak · 02/05/2025 18:12

I'm going to throw a spanner into the works of the head teacher suggestions for the film. I vote for Ruth Jones.

iseethembloom · 02/05/2025 18:09

“There’s no way some of the old bags on here would be propositioned on a night out” writes @op

Wait - hang on a second - you sound as though you were flattered by his attention. You actually took it as a compliment that you were ‘propositioned on a night out’, didn’t you?

Mental af

Ilovetowander · 02/05/2025 18:08

Definitely troll given latest comments or a loon!

fattytoadboy · 02/05/2025 18:08

I don’t know what’s worse. Someone who genuinely behaves like this or someone who’s made the whole saga up. What’s more tragic? I can’t decide!

Teanbiscuits33 · 02/05/2025 18:08

So now you’re claiming it’s some sort of flex getting propositioned by someone you previously tried to claim was a danger to both women and children, a perv and a creep because the thread isn’t going your way? For one thing, most women don’t view that sort of thing as a victory so you can keep your new found smugness over that.

Any man with any sense chatting you up would soon back off when they realise what a nutcase you are 🤣 he was pissed, remember? Men would shag anything when they’ve had a skinful so don’t flatter yourself 🤣

Secondly, telling other women to get over themselves? Christ alive woman, you are seriously not normal

ExtraOnions · 02/05/2025 18:08

So they are jealous of your “appalling sexual harrassment” .. they want to be objectified and harrassed, as it caused you so much distress ?? What an odd thing to say.

(btw your comment seems to have been deleted before I could finish replying .. for those who missed it the OP was accusing people of being jealous of the behaviour of the teacher)

BTW, great response from the school, all they have said is that they dismissed your complaint too early, not that they dismissed it wrongly. They would still (and will) dismiss it .. I doubt they will even mention it to him.

JasperTheDoll · 02/05/2025 18:07

SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:04

In hindsight, maybe I should have taken him up on his kind offer.

I’d have ate him alive!

This is definitely trolling, or the start of pissed ramblings. Be careful what you say, we might have to report you to your employer! For someone who thought she had been through a traumatic ordeal and thinking someone telling her they wanted to bend her over a desk was sexually graphic and rapey, I highly doubt you would eat him alive. Infect I feel sorry for your downtrodden husband. I'm sure he'll enjoy a bit of PornHub when you pass out later though.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 02/05/2025 18:05

You realise they probably have not done anything, or even spoken to the teacher about it, right? They have fobbed you off by saying what you wanted to hear. What 'victory' have you had, exactly?

SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:04

iseethembloom · 02/05/2025 18:03

Trying to make light of it now, just when I thought @op could not be any weirder.

@op You really haven’t been gunning for a light-touch approach in your previous posts but now you’re having a bit of a laugh about it, huh?

Maybe you could have employed your wonderful sense of humour at the time and met the teacher’s comment with a clever put down?

You come across as a very strange person.

In hindsight, maybe I should have taken him up on his kind offer.

I’d have ate him alive!

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SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:03

Half of mumsnet right now 😂

Meanwhile, I’m sipping champers enjoying my victory.

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iseethembloom · 02/05/2025 18:03

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:35

DH did suggest a roleplay scenario, the dirty bugger. I’ve not had that many glasses yet!

Trying to make light of it now, just when I thought @op could not be any weirder.

@op You really haven’t been gunning for a light-touch approach in your previous posts but now you’re having a bit of a laugh about it, huh?

Maybe you could have employed your wonderful sense of humour at the time and met the teacher’s comment with a clever put down?

You come across as a very strange person.

HuffleMyPuffle · 02/05/2025 18:01

SuperTrooper14 · 02/05/2025 17:59

You're calling me silly?! With the crap you've churned out over the last two days? Give me strength.

I'm not joking about the FB teacher group discussions either. MN put your second thread on their FB page and it has spread far and wide. He knows who you are in real life. He'll know these threads in which you've incited people to call him a rapist and paedophile is about him. You're not bulletproof just because you've used an anonymous name on here, you silly woman.

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I'm actually more worried now that OP is a troll

This teacher never existed

But people are going to read this and start going "oh I bet that's DD's teacher, Mr Bloggs, he gives those vibes."

JasperTheDoll · 02/05/2025 18:01

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:56

Oh get over yourself you silly woman. No wonder this place gets the rep it does!

The only person who needs to get over themselves is you. You are a fucking lunatic.

fattytoadboy · 02/05/2025 18:00

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Yes I’m sure that’s exactly why most people find you to be a prize dickhead.

SuperTrooper14 · 02/05/2025 17:59

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:56

Oh get over yourself you silly woman. No wonder this place gets the rep it does!

You're calling me silly?! With the crap you've churned out over the last two days? Give me strength.

I'm not joking about the FB teacher group discussions either. MN put your second thread on their FB page and it has spread far and wide. He knows who you are in real life. He'll know these threads in which you've incited people to call him a rapist and paedophile is about him. You're not bulletproof just because you've used an anonymous name on here, you silly woman.

HuffleMyPuffle · 02/05/2025 17:59

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Oh

Now that really shows how you did not give a fuck about what he said at all and just went on a crusade

Or you're a trill who is having the best day

HuffleMyPuffle · 02/05/2025 17:58

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:56

Oh get over yourself you silly woman. No wonder this place gets the rep it does!

Yes

Because of batshit people who are either hard-core trolling or harassing and threatening a man

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:58

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CBC12345 · 02/05/2025 17:57

Aside from your smugness - the worst part of this is that you’ve taken time away from people who are there to provide an excellent education. They shouldn’t be pandering to your need to prove a point. So yes, ridiculous stories like this do contribute to the teacher shortages - bat shit crazy people