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Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

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SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:08

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

OP posts:
Elasticatedtrousers · 02/05/2025 19:00

BoredZelda · 02/05/2025 18:52

Oh wow, and they did it so quickly. They must have been really thorough when considering this. And on a Friday afternoon too. It’s almost as if they wanted to shut it down for the weekend. 😂

This really is EXACTLY what they have done! And very effectively judging by OPs ‘celebrations’

HornyHornersPinger · 02/05/2025 18:59

SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:03

Half of mumsnet right now 😂

Meanwhile, I’m sipping champers enjoying my victory.

No, you're enjoying the attention. I'd wager that there are real issues with your personality, probably caused by some form of neglect as a child which has turned you into this narcissistic attention-seeking lunatic as an adult.

ChkChkBoom · 02/05/2025 18:58

ballettap · 02/05/2025 18:48

Did anyone post the link? I really cannot be bothered reading 16 pages to find it, but I'm super nosy and want to know why people are so against the OP.

I think the first thread has been pulled. There's a screen grab (of the opening post from that first thread) on this thread somewhere. The teacher made a sexually explicit comment that most women would consider an unbefitting diss, but the OP seems to have decided to take it as a compliment 😂

(edited to say the first thread IS actually still on the go, linked a few posts up)

Ethelflaedofmercia · 02/05/2025 18:58

Total sad act

Strictly1 · 02/05/2025 18:56

SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:08

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

Gloating is not a good look. I still think your actions were OTT.

Apologies for quoting the OP.

WigglywagglyWanda · 02/05/2025 18:56

SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:04

In hindsight, maybe I should have taken him up on his kind offer.

I’d have ate him alive!

Yeh you do sound like you eat your young.

Tiswa · 02/05/2025 18:56

Here is a question @SophEll were they the headteacher when your kids were there

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 02/05/2025 18:53

SophEll · 02/05/2025 17:42

Fortunately, the HT in this instance disagreed.

I may have no DC at the school now, but I’ve plenty of friends who do. He would be very silly to repeat his mistake!

Jeez. You really rate yourself don’t you?

BoredZelda · 02/05/2025 18:52

Oh wow, and they did it so quickly. They must have been really thorough when considering this. And on a Friday afternoon too. It’s almost as if they wanted to shut it down for the weekend. 😂

WigglywagglyWanda · 02/05/2025 18:49

fattytoadboy · 02/05/2025 17:39

I bet they have a penis beaker.

Filled with bleach

ballettap · 02/05/2025 18:48

TheChosenTwo · 02/05/2025 13:23

Please can someone link to the original thread?
On face value there’s a pervy teacher somewhere who’s had a smack on the wrist and nothing else but reading responses there’s definitely more to it!

Did anyone post the link? I really cannot be bothered reading 16 pages to find it, but I'm super nosy and want to know why people are so against the OP.

JasperTheDoll · 02/05/2025 18:47

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 18:45

Was you made redundant

Maybe she was sacked for inappropriate behaviour and that's why she's so obsessed with trying to ruin someone else career.

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 18:45

SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:22

I had a long and illustrious career in the corporate world - so much so, I can now pick and choose my work on a consultancy basis.

Was you made redundant

SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:45

Cherrytree86 · 02/05/2025 18:31

are you on your second bottle yet OP?

We’ve polished off bottle number one and are weighing up a trip to the local post dinner.

OP posts:
dairydebris · 02/05/2025 18:42

SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:04

In hindsight, maybe I should have taken him up on his kind offer.

I’d have ate him alive!

No OP. You're a keyboard warrior who was too timid to say anything at the time and who has since been trying to make up for that feeling of inadequacy.

Or a troll.

HuffleMyPuffle · 02/05/2025 18:40

SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:19

Give over - there hasn’t been a single identifiable thing given!

I said incorrectly hounded

Ffs learn to read

Incorrectly because people like you make it their mission to make others miserable.

iseethembloom · 02/05/2025 18:40

SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:22

I had a long and illustrious career in the corporate world - so much so, I can now pick and choose my work on a consultancy basis.

So illustrious that you chose not to do it anymore. 😂😂😂

Justmovehousethen · 02/05/2025 18:39

Cherrytree86 · 02/05/2025 18:31

are you on your second bottle yet OP?

She’s getting ready to go back to da club to try her chances again.

HuffleMyPuffle · 02/05/2025 18:39

SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:16

Good luck - I’m self employed!

Hello, is that SophEll's boss?

I'd like to complain that they made sexual comments and referenced work at the same time.

spicemaiden · 02/05/2025 18:36

I think this thread should go in classics - Most Unhinged section.

ChkChkBoom · 02/05/2025 18:34

iseethembloom · 02/05/2025 18:09

“There’s no way some of the old bags on here would be propositioned on a night out” writes @op

Wait - hang on a second - you sound as though you were flattered by his attention. You actually took it as a compliment that you were ‘propositioned on a night out’, didn’t you?

Mental af

And it was the type of maximum disrespect proposition that your common garden chancer reserves for the munters (ie those they think will be desperate/grateful enough to take them up on) 😂

Cherrytree86 · 02/05/2025 18:31

are you on your second bottle yet OP?

fattytoadboy · 02/05/2025 18:27

I think there are a few possibilities here.

  1. none of this ever happened.
  2. it did happen but op didn’t escalate the complaint to the levels she claimed and she’s just having a bit of fun winding us all up.
  3. it did all happen, in which case her own comments and attitude have outed her. It’s obvious that it’s all a big game to her and if this thread really has gone as far and wide as pp suggested she will have lost all credibility with the school and probably anyone else who can identify her.

In any of these scenarios the teachers career is no longer going to be any jeopardy. If she ever did go back to this school all they’d need to do is repeat her own silly words back to her and tell her to stop wasting their time. I just hope someone is keeping a log of all the batshittery she’s posting before she sobers up and has the threads removed.

The sad thing is that the teacher was clearly wrong to make the comment but I would say the op’s attitude, smugness, vindictiveness and pathetic vendetta is much worse than an offhand comment by a pissed up man.

andweallloveclover · 02/05/2025 18:23

SophEll · 02/05/2025 18:03

Half of mumsnet right now 😂

Meanwhile, I’m sipping champers enjoying my victory.

The only crying anyone is doing is through laughter at you and your hollow victory 😂

Because, let’s face it, we all know the school did fuck all and just told you they had to get rid of you. Your victory is meaningless but if it makes you feel better then you continue to kid yourself that you have had a productive day. 🙄

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