To want fiance to get rid of his cats

Good point

You sound awful. Maybe he will break up with you and solve the problem.

I feel sorry for your partner.

The only relevant info is that you are allergic.

You can't live with cats so you need to both decide what you are going to do.

You read that she’s not currently living with him, yes?

Why do I click on these threads 😭

It sounds tough op and I think he has to rehome them if you are to stay together - assuming your allergy is that bad and he's tried everything like brushing them, vacuuming regularly etc.

I wouldn't want to be with someone who would be willing to rehome in this situation though, and I wouldn't want to be the reason why 2 cats are returned into an already bursting at the seams rescue. I'd feel so guilty, I just couldn't.

So i guess if i was either of you id have just accepted youre not compatible.

I am very pet orientated though and have treated all my pets as companions and have cherished them all dearly. I spent a small fortune on tests trying to work out why my dog developed little bald patches behind her ear, side and back near her tail before me and the vet worked out it was me stroking, tickling and scritching her so often that caused it 😭 there's no way I'd rehome a pet for anyone.

I wouldn't expect them to adapt. But I would accept that living together and perhaps the relationship was not realistic.

My cats would come first. I made a lifetime commitment to care for them.

I think it suits her to be allergic to them now she wants rid. She's coped well enough the last 2yrs popping an antihistamine

Why does he need a gaming room? A bit childish, surely? You keep your office, he keeps his cats. Rotweiller will be ok.

Do you really want him to move in? He will have more private space in your own house than you will. Presumably he'll be living there rent-free, too?

I voted YANBU and had to laugh when I saw 88% disagreed, thinking he has the right to bring his cats to live with you when he knows you have a dog.

Nearing the end of its life? The dog is middle aged. Stop making excuses. It sounds like it's your way or the highway. Your living arrangements are just not compatible at the moment so you should consider living separately for now.

Why do you have a Rottweiler with a small child?

YAB completely unreasonable about the cats.

Agreed. If I were him I wouldn't be committing to this relationship. Hell would freeze over before I'd accept pressure from someone to rehome my cats.

Even though the cats are house cats - I don't think it's too late to introduce them to the outside world. They can be outside with your DH on a cat lead initially and it would be better for them. The vet or some cat charity might have more advice.
The allergy can probably only be helped with anti-histamines although you may find that as you live with the cats that you become de-sensitised.
My GD seems to have an allergy to cats so when she stays over she takes anti-histamines - she adores the cat so copes with it so she can fuss and play with it. She grew up with cats as they were already in the house when she was born - seems funny that an allergy developed later on.

Do you think it suits her to be allergic to these cats?

YABU to expect him to regime his cats. If you feel your dog is near the end of its life then I would suggest postponing moving in together until this happens.

Have you considered where they might be re-homed OP? They'll be a bonded pair so need to go together. Rescues are jam packed with unwanted pets so that's really unfair to create an extra burden on purpose there.

Are you going to at least attempt to source a good suitable alternative? Or are they just getting chucked in a carrier and off to the rescue they go? Because you don't sound like you give a shit... What with your "allergy", and your old (not old) dog needing to come first 😒

Disgusting- these are cats are your partner’s family, bonded to him as is your dog to you. Cats who don’t deserve to be turfed out because it suits you.

You lost me with "he wants a gaming room", and is happy for you to lose your office for it. WTAF? Is he 9????

YABVU he is taking on presumably your child as you said you have a child with additional needs and will likely be helping to co parent and ur "playful" dog and u won't even give the cats a chance. Of course when the dog and cats first meet the dog will be a problem initially but with time and the right introductions and management they will in time likely be okay together. U of course by the sounds of things will use any opportunity to get rid of them from the get go

Well I agree with you. He’s moving into your house and you are allergic to the cats. I am allergic to cats too and no way on earth would they be coming into my house. He needs to rehome or stay renting. No way should you suffer long term because he has them.

Rottweilers don't generally live after about the age of 10

I think you are underestimating how long it takes cats and dogs to get used to each other. I have a GSD and 2 cats. One cat was here before the dog, 2 years ago, then the other cat has come in last year. They are only now able to be occasionally in the same room - and it's not relaxed for any of them. The cats roam the whole house while dog is only downstairs - meaning they have the respite of upstairs (they don't like each other much either, but tolerate). Is fine for us as they have their own spaces and house is quite big.

If I were him, I'd consider rehoming the cats privately, because your allergy will not go away. All our pets came to us this way (one cat when owners divorced, one when owner moved back home where parent was allergic, dog when owner was dying), it's not the end of the world for the cats, it may be better. But I wouldn't do it through a charity because that's not what they are there for imho.

People always talk on here as if rehoming is the worst possible thing, but I think you do have to consider what is best for all the animals and humans involved.

For the humans - I wouldn't want to live long term with an animal I was allergic to.

For the cats - I actually think it might be kinder to rehome than to move them into the downstairs of a house with a child and dog (are there any quiet rooms they could escape to?)

I love cats but I also think they can adapt. My friend recently adopted two 12 year old cats (after the elderly owner died) and they were relaxed and affectionate at her place within a week.

Don't live together, the cat's shouldn't be effectively abandoned to suit YOUR expectations.

He didn't know you were allergic when he homed them so tough!

People like you make me really disappointed.