To want fiance to get rid of his cats

You work from home but had to clear out of your office so that he could have a gaming room.
It's a rent free house. hmm.

That aside I think you have reasonable grounds to ask him to consider rehoming the cats. He got them knowing you would both want to live together and that you are allergic to cats. He's had them for two years, as opposed to five years. He's moving into your home, which happens to be rent free.
He's already insisted on higher utilities bills to accommodate his gaming.
The house is too small for 3 animals. etc.

No one wants to rehome pets.. but sometimes the situation is tricky and one has to think what is the best for both the owners and the pets.. After a few weeks of continuous allergy... would you start to resent them.

Is there a third way... given that you eventually plan to buy a house together - does he have a family member/friend who would be willing to have the cats until you do, so that he could keep in touch with them and eventually have them back?

I would never expect anyone to give up their pet to live with me, I wouldn’t respect them for it either, I’d try to make it work, or go our separate ways. Maybe some sort of Catio the cats can access from the house to retreat to

YABU this is so depressing. His cats have less value than your dog? Personally I wouldn’t be getting involved with anyone if their pets weren’t compatible with mine 🤷🏻‍♀️

ERROR: Cannot merge lifestyles.

Looks to me like you'd both be better living seperately at least for the time being, or at worst seperating if you cannot make the relationship work under these terms.

We have 4 dogs and 3 cats. They largely ignore each other but have been togather for years. Dogs and cats can settle together. That said, our cats go outside and they are allowed upstairs whereas the dogs aren’t so they have quiet spaces if they want it. Could his cats be allowed outside? I think living in the new house would be very stressful for them if not.

Need to buy a place together. Him moving in to 'your' home never a good idea as will always be your home, he may feel never his

I think he needs to move on and find someone less selfish, who has a heart and loves cats! Just my opinion!

I have severe allergies. To everything. Think EpiPen if I look at water type of thing. I’m on 6 antihistamines a day and an immunosuppressant. I have asthma and eczema. I wanted a dog. I told my partner I would need a hypoallergenic dog. My partner got me a dog for my birthday. It is not hypoallergenic. Have I suffered? Yes. But it is manageable. Extra hoovering, sweeping, bathing him etc to limit the amount of hair and skin that I come into contact with. I can’t cuddle him really and we need to wash every fabric he touches.

many people can live with a pet allergy you have to make adjustments. You can tell your partner what will need to be done daily/weekly so you’re more comfortable. It’s hard work and I do get frustrated sometimes, but my partner loves him so much so I don’t want to be the reason we rehome him. So I just have to get on with it and take many more meds (nasal sprays and more inhalers).

So if you take the allergies out of the question what is left apart from you don’t want him to bring his cats? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Bloody hell - can not believe the hard time you are getting! First of all, he got cats even though you were (nearly) engaged and had a dog plus you turned out to be allergic to them! If your child was allergic everybody would be telling you he should rehome the cats yesterday. Being from an atopic family, I know it is no less serious that it is you that has the allergy. You also have a child with additional needs so if you are unwell and/or the animals fight it will be a nightmare. Of course he should rehome the cats!

Poor cats. They are family and living animals.

Also dobermans have a strong prey driven, it may not end well.

Why on earth have you got a Rottweiler at the same time as having a kid? Absolutely mental.

You’re a little late to the party. The crazy cat ladies have spoken… and so we should! 😼

Well, there ya go.

Either live with the cats or live apart, but don’t ask anybody to do something you aren’t willing to do yourself.

Probably already been said but if you think your dog is near the end of its life then wait till the dog dies before you move in. Although your allergies probably make that incompatible altogether so I’d just keep living apart for the next fifteen years really. Cats get very attached to their owners. They deserve the security they have.

Breaks put the popcorn and waits for the cat ladies to post

I couldn’t live with animals I was allergic to. I can’t believe that you’re focussing on all the other issues but are happy to just pop daily antihistimine pills for the next 10 years 😳

Agree
Would you consider rehoming your dog. ?
somehow I think not

You have made every excuse.your dog is only 6 nowhere near the end of his life.you said you had a cat before and rehomed it.pets are for life.please don’t make anyone get rid of their beloved pets.please stay in your own home.

I wouldn’t live with cats if I was allergic. Taking antihistamines daily can’t be good for you in the long term. Is your child definitely not allergic?

What absolute nonsense! You clearly don’t know the first thing about cats if you believe this.

Very selfish. Despite what you are saying, it is pretty obvious you do not want his cats in you home.
It doesn't matter how long you have had either of the pets, they are loved pets.
He's giving up quite a bit already. What are you willing to consider for him?

Well, looks like he has to choose between: having his own place, his two cats, his own life and; you, with your Rottweiler, your ASD child, your allergies, your demands that he exes his pets.
Hmmm. Difficult.

Cat owner here. If someone asked me to give them up, I would send them packing quite frankly. They are my babies and I love them like children. I’m sure you must love your dog, and his cats are no less important or loved than your pet.

Cats are actually a much smaller responsibility than dogs and are largely self-sufficient. But you don’t just give up a responsibility because it doesn’t suit you. There are hundreds and thousands of cats in rescue centres all over the place, so yes, YAB massively U, which I think you probably already know. I would delay moving in together as well. If you can’t accept him with his pets, you aren’t ready to live together. I appreciate that you have an allergy, but this is your problem and yours alone. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but it bugs me no end when people just suddenly decide they no longer want their animals. It’s massively cruel. They have done absolutely nothing wrong and do not deserve to be kicked out because of you.

If I were him, I’d tell you to shove it. It sounds like he’s setting himself up for being henpecked for the rest of his life. 🏃

Taking aside the dog, how were you planning to cope with living with 2 cats if you're allergic?

By using the term "get rid" you don't seem to be particularly empathetic to your fiance, or his pets.

I actually couldn't date someone who was allergic to cats