To not give any devices to child off school

Fuck there's some weird parents around.

Exactly! I find it really odd that so many parents think being ill means lying in bed in silence staring at a wall for eight hours. I very much doubt that’s what any of them do when they’re sick!

Either you think she’s pulling a fast one, in which case you send her to school, or you trust her to know that she’s not 100% and let her have a chilled out day on the sofa with the TV.

This. All of this. When I'm ill all I want to do is lounge around with the TV, blanket, and snacks. And thats exactly what I let my DC do when they're poorly too. We have to give ourselves a break! In every sense of the word.

I see both sides here - if she is going to be alone I'd personally allow some tv/ a film = but even a sick child I don't allow hours of ipad/ tv

unfortunately I've seen in both my kids that if being too sick is just a lovely day of tv, they will fake it !

The only time I would ban mine from tv / electronics is if I thought they were faking it!

TV but no gaming.

Do you have just regular TV?
A few hours of Jeremy Vine, Antique Auctions, Dull quiz shows and Loose Women won't be too terrible.

If you think she is genuine and you have to leave her on her own, there really is no reason at all for refusing to leave her with screens for that period. If you want to consider cutting down their use the rest of the day, fine.

Its different for children and adults because an adult weighs up missing work (impact on colleagues, possibly losing pay, impact on reputation and possible chances of promotion etc) and thinks about whether a day off sick is worth it.

Children don’t have that balance, they generally see being off school as wholly positive.

Yes, let her chill at home. However she wants to. Jeez. What is the big deal? 🙄

Also limiting screen time for a 12 year old ? How on earth are they going to learn to self regulate ? 3 or 4 maybe but 12 ?

As an adult who battles screen addiction many of us never will and its better to delay exposure to it as long as possible to allow young people to develop other hobbies and interests.

My parents were strict about being off school, we had to be at deaths door to be off but even they wouldn't have banned the TV (pre internet). Thats just weird, whats the logic?

So she generally goes to school, gets on well but is ill? If that's the case why would you say no screens? Or you think she's lying in which case she should go to school

Our kids know if they are off school they will be resting in bed or on the sofa. No screens, they can read if they want to (both book worms anyway). They are expected to sleep and rest and heal.
Same when I was a kid.
In the evening we might watch a gentle movie
It isn’t a punishment, it’s just if they come to me and say they need to be off they understand what the day will look like and I firmly actually believe rest and sleep is the best healer.
Luckily I have healthy kids who are rarely off. I’d probably relax a bit if they had chronic illnesses or broken bones etc.

Ds used to message his teachers asking for any work he will be missing to be sent to him, ie slides or worksheets as post covid the school had the tech set up to be able to do this in secondary.

He too had loose bowels at times and was absolutely not a shirker. He would breeze through the work as he had access to his computer. He also watched some fun stuff too.

Either you think she is taking the piss and therefore should be in school, or if she is ill you can dictate what it is she watches on the ipad ie something related to her school work, a film or whatever. I don't see why someone would be punished if they are ill and off school.

Yes i wouldn't give screen time. She's old enough to read or draw, listen to music etc. There's a lot of value being bored, better that she is bored and keen to get back to school.

On a separate point, in early teens i used to get loose bowels a bit around my period. Has she started/could she be? It can be daunting the first time you have your period to go to school where you can't always get to the bathroom fast - if relevant its worth a chat about all the different options around (period pants etc). If it is period related you don't want to start a habit of avoiding school when its your period.

This makes absolutely no sense. You want to punish her for being off ill?

This

I would say that while you’re out she can watch TV / use iPad if she wants, as there’s no point banning something you can’t enforce. But my usual rule is bed, boring food and a book for DC who are off sick from school.

I would be flexible if after a few hours they perk up, and suggest they go in for the afternoon. I genuinely think sometimes after a bad night with tummy ache or whatever they do need a bit more sleep and then are fine.

I agree, I don't either.

More awareness now on how 'pull' factors like screen addition have a role in school avoidance, its not just 'push' factors - ie it's not just what schools are doing, it's the fact that home is where their addiction is!

Obviously not saying your child is ... you're clearly careful.

Surprised at the responses- you'd normally get lots of people telling you how cruel depriving a child of screens is, or that it's no big deal.

So you were lucky enough to be healthy, well done you? 🤨 Not sure what the relevance of TV is to this, especially as you say you didn't have one anyway.

I really don’t understand the mindset of “sickness means no screens”. When I’m sick I love nothing better than curling up on the sofa or in bed with the TV on in the background.

Hmm where we were I'll from school we had to stay in bed. No tv( didn't have one anyway") certainly no games etc A bit of quiet reading

Don't think any of us has more than a few days in total off school once we were past 7 and never had Sickies much at work either.

Worked in our families case

Also limiting screen time for a 12 year old ? How on earth are they going to learn to self regulate ? 3 or 4 maybe but 12 ?

She will never self regulate.
Screen addition is a problem for millions of people the world over - including adults who grew up in the pre internet age.