To not give any devices to child off school

My thoughts too.

You sound like an evil stepmother 😂 So send her in with her potential big to pass to the “friendly neighbour” You’re assuming the kids lying, maybe she’s not, My kids sometimes try pull it on me aswell so I know it happens but perhaps she just needs a day, school can be overwhelming sometimes, maybe something going on that they would rather avoid like conflict with friends, bullying, opposite sex crushes that someone found out or whatever or sometimes teacher issues or struggles with work, adults have days aswell we’re they need to self regulate and take a day off from the world, it happens, she’s coming into her teen years and life can be really difficult with hormone changes at that age. Imagine you maybe having an extremely bad day, somethings really worrying you and you get diarrhoea with the anxiety and then someone who apparently loves you, goes out of their way to be a real c*nt to you altogether 😏

When my kids are too sick to be at school they can watch tv in the living room or read books or rest in bed. No tech allowed for the duration of the school day.

This!

There are varying degrees of illness an upset tummy dosnt need hours of bed rest.

If she’s old enough to be left alone for 3 hours she’s old enough to choose how she spends that time.

You either trust your child is genuinely ill or you don't. Not this halfway house where you aren't convinced she's genuine so you deploy a sort of "punishment" just in case.

Let her watch tv. Put a film on for her and let her relax.

Crikey OP! You are massively overthinking this. If you’ve believed her enough to allow her to stay off school, and you’re comfortable leaving her home alone for a few hours, then leave her to it! If she’s got parental controls on the TV/I pad and you usually let her use them unsupervised, then I’d allow her to use them whilst you’re out. She might spend the whole time watching tv/youtube and kill a few brain cells, but it won’t have any lasting impact.
I think we’ve all been there where we want a chilled Friday?! A couple of times in 2 years is hardly a pattern. Let her chill and enjoy her day off.

She’s got diarrhoea that’s it, if you have diarrhoea do you tend to sleep the whole day?
OP think what you would do yourself if you were in the same situation, people on here (with the exception of a few) banging on about screen time when kids are off school sick yet when they’re sick themselves they’d tend to chill out on their phones, iPads, watch tv etc …….,hypocrites 🙄

If my son was off school sick he was either on the sofa or in bed resting watching TV, I never let him have any other technology as I didn't want to make the day off school 'fun' & I didn't let him online after school either. I had a friend year's ago who was always off school sick but was allowed to play out after school (this was before phones & Internet etc), she has struggled to hold down a job her entire life & I think I always feared that could happen with my son.

FFS!
Why do people insist on punishing their children when they're sick?

You sound really mean. Poor kid.

Let her watch telly

Let her stay off, she’s clearly got an upset tummy. She’ll be fine while you go for your appointment but why would you limit her screen time? Is it because you secretly think she’s faking and don’t want to ‘reward’ that? Or do you generally not like screen time? I think it would be a bit draconian to not allow her any especially as you’ve said yourself you think she is most likely telling the truth. Surely you have parental controls to limit the things you don’t want her seeing?

You're making far too much of a big deal over this. She's sick; let her stay home and watch TV.

As for always 'choosing' to be sick on your day off, maybe there is an element of this - maybe she wants to be looked after when she's feeling under the weather and she knows you're there to focus on her when you're not working.

What’s wrong with leaving a 12yo at home for three hours?

You can takeher ipad but how on earth will you stop her watching tv once you leave the house?

Either you think she's well enough to go to school or she isn't. Even if she doesn't watch TV, being bored at home is still going to be preferable to being bored at school so it's not a disincentive to be off sick again.

If you have good reason to believe that your child is faking their sympotoms to get a duvet day because they can't be bothered with school, limiting the day to quiet, boring activities is a good idea. If they are normally a good attender and are genuinely sick, let them do what they want, they will want to go back when they are well enough.

Kid off sick - rest, recuperation and whatever they need to feel better.

Really not the time for micro managing the IPad.

When my boys were sick I would always set them up with a pillow/blanket on the couch and let them watch TV/Netflix etc. I do know some people who were really militant about making their kids stay in bed all day with no form of entertainment if they were sick. I always thought it was a bit mean though, I like to mollycoddle mine if they are sick haha. Also I know if I'm sick myself I like a distraction, not to just stare at the wall.

They are now teenagers and it hasn't led to constant sickies, my 18 year old works fulltime and hates taking days off, my 15 year old loves school and has to be really sick before he wants to stay home.

I guess some people rule with a stick and some the carrot!

Surely if they're 'trying' then you say no to a day off and cajole them in to school. If they are poorly and at home, why do you need to punish that?

Mine are older teens now, all very good attendance rates through school and uni and their jobs, and I always allowed screens for sick on the sofa days.

Sounds like you are annoyed she's unwell on your day off and you're trying to punish her for it.

You either believe she's ill or not, if you think she is then you need to accept the inconvenience.
You'll be gone and for a bit, let her watch some TV at home while she rests like most people do when they're off work/school.

Poor kid, it sounds like a prison not her home.

You don't believe she's ill, or do so reluctantly.
You leave her at home for 3 hours at the age of 12, that'll make her feel like she matters to you - not!
Youre denying her any sort of relaxing past time.

Unbelievable!

If I’ve got a stomach bug I will probably lie on the sofa watching tv. I don’t understand not allowing it. You either believe she’s ill, in which case a bit of tv is fine. Or you don’t, in which case send her to school.

Yet here you are on a frivolous Internet forum ?

Op you are being ridiculous not "allowing" even the TV whilst you are out is ridiculous you should have sent her to school if you thought she was lying.

I couldn’t get my kids, when fit and well, to spend the day in front of the telly or a tablet if I tried. They might watch it for a bit but they’ll soon get distracted and play and want to go out. In fact it’s unusual for them to want to watch TV/rest all day - it’s a good indication they are actually ill.