To not want to share a room at age 27?

Depends if your paying the same as the other adults who are not sharing

It’s one week with a family member, hardly the end of the world. If it’s such a problem then rent an Airbnb nearby at your own expense. Or don’t go.

I mean literally loads of people, hen weekends would be a good example, share rooms with friends on trips to save money.

@TheHerboriste Stop melting. 💪🏼

Accomodations are about more than "bedspace." It's about peace, privacy, quiet, not having to be within a few feet of someone one doesn't know very well, while sleeping/dressing/grooming.

I don't see this as an issue. Presumably most of the time you will be with the family. It's just sleeping in the same room. If you value the family get together then it's a no brainer. I suspect I'd have to share a room if the family went away to a hired house for the week-end. And you can reverse the digits in your age and I am still a lot older than you. If I want to spend time with family then I accommodate glitches. As do others - maybe your cousin doesn't fancy sharing with you but has decided to put up with you (and possibly your moaning about sharing) for the sake of the getaway. Or had you not thought of that? You hadn't, had you.

Many of the posters here are obsessing as to whether or not the OP is helping to pay for the villa. They are the ones making it about money.

To me, a decent host ensures that everyone is happy with the arrangements.

But they aren't, in anyone's opinion but yours and 2 others on this thread.

Every member of the family has one bed space. Some a single bed (we presume) and some as half of a double bed. Everyone has equal share of the living areas, kitchen, garden etc.

“And we aren't all such needy paupers that we have to accept sub-par accommodations just to get a "free" getaway.”

Is it all about money or is it about family time together in a place with memories?

Family member isn't so "kind" if they are treating some members better than others.

And we aren't all such needy paupers that we have to accept sub-par accommodations just to get a "free" getaway.

Depends how close relative she’s. I will have no problem to share the room for a short period of time even with my brother and we are 35 and 37 years old now.

Sleep on the sofa.

The fact you have not answered the question about who pays speaks volumes. A kind family member is organising and paying for a holiday. I bet they are catering as well. When you have your own family and are struggling to find a suitable holiday let in budget you will have a better insight. It is totally normal to share at any age.
Go, enjoy, help clearing up, cooking etc and be grateful for the time with your family.

Hotel nearby or a small rental?

When they get older and you realise you don't have much time left together, you will want to go on holiday with them.

I'm sorry but YABU. It's only for a week. Even if you can't stand whoever you are sharing with, it's not like you are going to have the whole summer together.

I would honestly think nothing of sharing a room with my sister or cousin (and have done many times. Sometimes even in the same bed!) but we’re very close. I suppose it depends on your relationship with them.

Sharing a room, especially for a week on holiday, is not an issue. People do this everywhere, especially if they are relatives and of the same sex. Sharing a bed can be uncomfortable and perhaps disturbing to each other!!

I mean why not? I travelled around the world for years and lived in hostels and shared a room with up to 14 people. 🤷 You can get ready in the bathroom and no one sees anything. If you don't want to share you can get yourself accommodation close by or rent a campervan.

Why are so many of you incapable of expressing an opinion without insulting the OP? That's the true sign of someone with a weak argument.

Do what Liz did in Motherland, take a tent!

Its a holiday rental....there are times in life when you just have to settle and adjust. You sound precious?

I don't think you're being unreasonable, but noe do I think sharing with a relative of the same gender is particularly unusual or unreasonable. I'm much older than 27 and have shared a room with relatives and friends lots of times.

Ultimately, you can express your preference but not force others to agree to it. If they don't, you get to choose whether it's a big enough deal to not attend over.

I agree that it might be worth you sourcing a suitable property and offering to pay the increase in price, that might get more agreement.

In my family it's me or DH who ends up on the sofa <shrug>. If there aren't quite enough beds to go round then kids are on air beds in their parents' bedrooms. So yes I have contemplated it, and I think we are fine.

The obvious thing is to have a room charge instead of a bed charge and then everyone can decide for themselves. Seems super obvious to me that it’s very different to share a room with your partner who you have chosen a life with as opposed to being told you are sharing a room with a random cousin who happens to also be single. But I’m not close with extended family at all so maybe I don’t understand.

anyway, Op is an adult and can just say no thank you if it doesn’t work. At any age, 27 or not!

@TheHerboriste @mrsm43s

It’s interesting, because my DH’s single sister is prioritized in his family. We always have to gather at her house because she refuses to use a dog sitter…the rest of us are expected to though, plus always paying the traveling costs.

She also doesn’t like to cook so we have to prepare food or get takeaways/eat out when we’re there. I’d love to host Christmas one year, but she won’t come and my in-laws won’t leave her alone. Before anyone suggests otherwise, she’s NT, a successful professional with a nice house, car, etc. She’s nice but stubborn, and doesn’t always consider the effect of her actions on other people.

So not everyone neglects single people, sometimes it’s the opposite. 🤷