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Aibu about this strange woman

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Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:17

A woman frequently walks around, and if she spots anything left outside someone's house that's clearly meant to be free, she takes a picture and posts it on Facebook to "advertise" it. Several of us have already asked her to please stop doing this, but she hasn't. What do we do?!

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Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:40

Oh no, the cardinal sin! Drip feeding! Sorry I didn't add every single piece of info. I thought this was a forum, you're supposed to converse

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bigboykitty · 01/05/2025 11:39

It's ridiculous behaviour, OP, but I think you'll have to find another way to give stuff away, because she's not going to stop, although it's massively inappropriate.

MrsPlantagenet · 01/05/2025 11:38

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:34

Tell that to the angry bloke she once reserved an item for, who banged on my door and screamed at me for "wasting his time"

Do I still have to put up with that, because after all, no one knows who's house it is.

Drip feed-tastic.

Chellybelle · 01/05/2025 11:37

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:34

Tell that to the angry bloke she once reserved an item for, who banged on my door and screamed at me for "wasting his time"

Do I still have to put up with that, because after all, no one knows who's house it is.

I find that hard to believe and if it's true you just drip fed because you didn't mention that. Putting items outside even with all good intentions is classed as fly tipping, anyway. If you're not happy, go to the charity shop, sell it or take it the tip. Problem solved.

Ylylyll · 01/05/2025 11:37

Take stuff to the charity shop then and stop dumping it outside? How often are you doing this it’s become a problem??

MrTiddlesTheCat · 01/05/2025 11:37

She's allowed ti take photos and post them. Your options are to accept it or don't leave stuff out.

PaintYourAssLikeRembrandt · 01/05/2025 11:36

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:34

Tell that to the angry bloke she once reserved an item for, who banged on my door and screamed at me for "wasting his time"

Do I still have to put up with that, because after all, no one knows who's house it is.

That seems like information that would have been in your op, if it were true.

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Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:34

Tell that to the angry bloke she once reserved an item for, who banged on my door and screamed at me for "wasting his time"

Do I still have to put up with that, because after all, no one knows who's house it is.

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MrsPlantagenet · 01/05/2025 11:33

Why are people leaving stuff outside their homes? Perhaps she thinks she’s doing a community service? I can’t see the harm.

Freeasa · 01/05/2025 11:33

Atarin · 01/05/2025 11:32

How would people know it’s your address? Does she tag you in a post?

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Yes I’m really confused as to what the danger is here too. It’s not like she’s giving any information that isn’t freely available by someone walking down the street. You seem totally paranoid.

PaintYourAssLikeRembrandt · 01/05/2025 11:33

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:29

It really is! She's TAKING PHOTOS OF OUR HOMES!!

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Unless you're shagging against the window or something there's not really an issue, anyone can see your home on Google maps anyway.

Chellybelle · 01/05/2025 11:32

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:26

Again, yes we do, not often but I don't want my address posted on Facebook?!

It's not really though is it? She's not putting up your name and photo with the address. To people seeing it, it's just a random house on a street. If anyone turned up, they'd either take the item or realise it's gone and walk away.

hazelnutvanillalatte · 01/05/2025 11:32

She's not saying who lives there. You are leaving things out for people to take and she is letting people know. People who walk past can also see your house...

Atarin · 01/05/2025 11:32

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:26

Again, yes we do, not often but I don't want my address posted on Facebook?!

How would people know it’s your address? Does she tag you in a post?

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Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:32

She's one of the admins on the group.

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ThejoyofNC · 01/05/2025 11:32

Does the group not have admins?

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Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:31

Yeah and I for one blurred my home as I didn't permit Google to do it either

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DitzyDerbyBabe86 · 01/05/2025 11:30

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:29

It really is! She's TAKING PHOTOS OF OUR HOMES!!

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So did google for google maps.

FuzzyPuffling · 01/05/2025 11:30

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:29

It really is! She's TAKING PHOTOS OF OUR HOMES!!

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So do Estate agents, Google mappers, historical societies etc etc...

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Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:29

FuzzyPuffling · 01/05/2025 11:28

No, it's really not.

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It really is! She's TAKING PHOTOS OF OUR HOMES!!

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Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:28

FuzzyPuffling · 01/05/2025 11:28

So she posts " 1, High Street" with a photo of an abandoned hoover, for example?

Maybe she doesn't like the pavement being cluttered up.

Surely everyone knows there's a "High Street" with numbered houses on it?

Really not sure of the problem here. Don't like it? Don't put crap on the pavement.

Um, where did I say it's on the pavement? It's on the end of our property, not blocking anyone.

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FuzzyPuffling · 01/05/2025 11:28

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:27

I shouldn't have to, this is psychopath behaviour surely.

No, it's really not.

OnlyFannys · 01/05/2025 11:28

Apologies if I'm missing something but what's the harm in your address being on Facebook? Addresses are public anyway unless she is putting your name and other details alongside it?

FuzzyPuffling · 01/05/2025 11:28

So she posts " 1, High Street" with a photo of an abandoned hoover, for example?

Maybe she doesn't like the pavement being cluttered up.

Surely everyone knows there's a "High Street" with numbered houses on it?

Really not sure of the problem here. Don't like it? Don't put crap on the pavement.

user3879208717 · 01/05/2025 11:27

Follow her home, then take the tat you’re giving away and dump outside her house?

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