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Aibu about this strange woman

107 replies

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:17

A woman frequently walks around, and if she spots anything left outside someone's house that's clearly meant to be free, she takes a picture and posts it on Facebook to "advertise" it. Several of us have already asked her to please stop doing this, but she hasn't. What do we do?!

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balloonraces · 01/05/2025 12:00

I hate when our neighbours dump shit outside their house, or when certain neighbours dump their shit on the grass opposite our house!! It’s pure laziness and makes the place so untidy

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Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:59

StepAwayFromGoogling · 01/05/2025 11:56

Don't be ridiculous

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How is that ridiculous, we don't have them in Romania

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Profhilodisaster · 01/05/2025 11:58

You both sound a bit crackers tbh.

MoistVonL · 01/05/2025 11:58

She isn’t doing anything wrong. She’s not saying “Hey everyone , @Buitenlander lives at this address with her partner, two sons and a pet ferret.”

She’s taking a photo of stuff to give away and alerting people to a Facebook group where to find the free stuff. You as the householder don’t need to interact with anyone about it. She’s behaving legally, there is no invasion of privacy.

If you don’t like it, don’t leave your crap out to avoid paying to dispose of it.

JuneySunshine · 01/05/2025 11:57

She's trying to help people find things they might want, that you're bunging outside hoping someone will pick up to save you a trip to the tip/ charity shop etc.
If you don't want her to do that just do something else with your stuff.

StepAwayFromGoogling · 01/05/2025 11:56

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:41

We don't have tips where I live.

Don't be ridiculous

Outlookmainlyfair · 01/05/2025 11:56

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:34

Tell that to the angry bloke she once reserved an item for, who banged on my door and screamed at me for "wasting his time"

Do I still have to put up with that, because after all, no one knows who's house it is.

That is next level! Photos annoying and invasive. Ignoring you and taking photos around you wired and rude. Reserving things leading to you being abused is wrong on every level.

EnhancedVampireEyeballs · 01/05/2025 11:56

Oh and anyone can take photos of your house. Why on earth would you think they shouldn't? Everyone who walks past it can also see your address, oh the horror.

Defunctlyric · 01/05/2025 11:54

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:34

Tell that to the angry bloke she once reserved an item for, who banged on my door and screamed at me for "wasting his time"

Do I still have to put up with that, because after all, no one knows who's house it is.

Yes. That didnt happen.

EnhancedVampireEyeballs · 01/05/2025 11:53

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:40

Oh no, the cardinal sin! Drip feeding! Sorry I didn't add every single piece of info. I thought this was a forum, you're supposed to converse

Yes, and people are conversing. Hence all the posts to which you have been replying. Is that not a conversation? Or did you mean people are supposed to agree with you?

Anyway, your shouts, and this bloke who screamed at you... Sounds pretty loud round your way.

Digdongdoo · 01/05/2025 11:52

If you're leaving stuff on the street often enough for this to annoy you, you are the problem. Take your old shit to the charity shop instead of dumping it on the pavement.

KarmenPQZ · 01/05/2025 11:51

MrTiddlesTheCat · 01/05/2025 11:46

Nonsense.

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Agree. I do think councils have to provide something

BeRoseSloth · 01/05/2025 11:51

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:29

It really is! She's TAKING PHOTOS OF OUR HOMES!!

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You can take photos of anything you can see from a public area. Do you expect people to close their eyes as they walk past your house?

KarmenPQZ · 01/05/2025 11:50

Just put your stuff on a bit of pavement away from your house? We have a spot at the end of the road where people put this stuff.

or post a pic of it to the Facebook page and say ‘DM for collection details’

people are allowed to take photos of houses.

Strangeworldtoday · 01/05/2025 11:50

Just don't leave stuff out. How much stuff is left out in your street every day that this id a problem. Maybe she doesnt like the street looking like the local tip and wants to do thisbto ensure it is cleared quickly. I wouldnt like this either tbh. If someone puts stuff out round here they always post it on the local group to ensure it is cleared quickly and its very few and far between. Not every day.

Veryverycalmnow · 01/05/2025 11:50

I agree with others that if you're bothered you should take the item to a charity shop. If things are frequently left outside houses for people to take she might be wanting to speed up the collection of items to stop it looking messy and cluttered or maybe she does seem a bit odd and this has become her hobby but it's pretty harmless.

MrTiddlesTheCat · 01/05/2025 11:46

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:41

We don't have tips where I live.

Nonsense.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 01/05/2025 11:46

user3879208717 · 01/05/2025 11:27

Follow her home, then take the tat you’re giving away and dump outside her house?

read that too quickly... "follow her home and dump outside her house"

cramptramp · 01/05/2025 11:46

Follow her home and take a photo of her house. Post it on numerous fb pages. Or put stuff you want rid of outside her house.

BobbyBiscuits · 01/05/2025 11:45

You can't stop her from stating there is an abandoned hoover or whatever in the street outside x house. Anyone who's walking past can see it's there, and the fact the house actually exists is public knowledge. It's a postal address file.
She's not saying your name or any other personal details?

I guess just put the stuff not directly outside your own property?

How often does it happen? Maybe more people are doing it as her posts are getting stuff shifted quickly?

I can't say I'd be that bothered and if I was then I'd stop dumping things outside.

Original poster
Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:44

Sure, sure.

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Chellybelle · 01/05/2025 11:43

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:40

Oh no, the cardinal sin! Drip feeding! Sorry I didn't add every single piece of info. I thought this was a forum, you're supposed to converse

Not when it's an essential part that could change the outcome. But if it was true you would have written it in your OP, no doubt.

MrsPlantagenet · 01/05/2025 11:41

How is this even an issue? You can stop it happening, easily.

This

Original poster
Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:41

We don't have tips where I live.

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MissUltraViolet · 01/05/2025 11:40

So take the stuff to the tip, take it to a charity shop or list it on marketplace/local free group so you can tell whoever wants it your address in a private message.

How is this even an issue? You can stop it happening, easily.

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