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Aibu about this strange woman

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Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:17

A woman frequently walks around, and if she spots anything left outside someone's house that's clearly meant to be free, she takes a picture and posts it on Facebook to "advertise" it. Several of us have already asked her to please stop doing this, but she hasn't. What do we do?!

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Kalikaa · 01/05/2025 12:53

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:24

She's posting our addresses. It's one thing to put it outside for random passers by it's another to have someone sharing our addresses on Facebook? She takes a full picture (sometimes stepping into the road to get the whole house and garden in) and writes the exact address on public posts.

Anyone walking past your house can see it....

This seems a little unhinged to be honest

Swiftie1878 · 01/05/2025 12:40

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:59

How is that ridiculous, we don't have them in Romania

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Don’t know what the laws are in Romania, but if you are being hassled by ‘customers’ from this FB page, I’d contact the police.

Biffbaff · 01/05/2025 12:36

Why was the man banging on the door to retrieve the item when you left it outside at the end of your drive?

Chocaholic37 · 01/05/2025 12:32

@RummlyWell, it’s not that unusual to be fair. There are lots of people on MN who are British but are expats in other countries, or live in the Uk but are originally from other countries and spend some time there.
For example I’m originally from another EU country (not far from Romania actually) and have a house there as well as the UK. We spend the summer and Christmas holidays there. I still post on MN and I’m a member of local Facebook groups in both my country of origin and my town in the UK.
Anyway, I agree the OP’s problem could easily be solved by not leaving stuff out. If I want rid of something I put it on FB groups or Marketplace.

menopausalfart · 01/05/2025 12:16

I suppose she dislikes seeing crap put out. She must know that she's upsetting people, and this way, people will stop doing it.

fgwcam · 01/05/2025 12:14

Message the admins and tell them to stop posting photos of people's homes with stuff left outside.

OrangeCrushes · 01/05/2025 12:14

Her behaviour is slightly weird.

However, it doesn't sound like she's doing anything wrong or illegal.

I think you just need to adjust your behaviour accordingly.

2dogsandabudgie · 01/05/2025 12:13

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:59

How is that ridiculous, we don't have them in Romania

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Well perhaps that's something you could campaign for. Out of interest where do all unwanted, broken items go? Are they just fly tipped somewhere?

Digdongdoo · 01/05/2025 12:09

blueleavesgreensky · 01/05/2025 12:05

Why are so many people hard of thinking in this thread. The OP has made it clear that the things are left on her property near the front. Not out on the actual pavement. Are people being intentionally thick today? Maybe it’s the heat.

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Still an eyesore though. If my neighbours were regularly leaving stuff outside their house I'd want it gone ASAP too. Driveways full of old crap is hardly nice to look at is it?
OP can arrange the disposal or collection herself if it's that much of an issue for her. Although, not sure how that would be possible from her secret house.

Rummly · 01/05/2025 12:08

Have I got this right?

Somewhere in Romania there’s a woman who walks around taking pictures of junk left outside houses, for posting on a local Romanian Facebook page. This place in Romania has no rubbish tips. A Romanian man ‘reserved’ some of the OP’s junk - on Romanian Facebook? - and got angry when it wasn’t there.

If that’s all correct, I have no comment to make except that MN’s spread across Europe is truly impressive.

Profhilodisaster · 01/05/2025 12:08

balloonraces · 01/05/2025 12:06

Op you have had a bad attitude from the start of this thread. You’re not going to get anyone on side being that way. Stop leaving junk outside tour home and get rid of it a different way? If you have no tips is your country not overrun with rubbish?

To be fair I think Romania does have a waste problem.

SuzieBishop · 01/05/2025 12:07

Pretty easy solution here - stop putting it outside your house.
Put it on marketplace for free.
Sorted.

balloonraces · 01/05/2025 12:06

Op you have had a bad attitude from the start of this thread. You’re not going to get anyone on side being that way. Stop leaving junk outside tour home and get rid of it a different way? If you have no tips is your country not overrun with rubbish?

MoistVonL · 01/05/2025 12:06

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 12:02

Oh really do you then post it online with full info

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Sometimes - “love the gorgeous cottages here in Tobermory”; “gorgeous example of Bauhaus home” etc.

An address - and just that - isn’t private. You are leaving unwanted stuff out in the hopes it will be taken. She’s increasing the likelihood of that happening.

blueleavesgreensky · 01/05/2025 12:05

Digdongdoo · 01/05/2025 11:52

If you're leaving stuff on the street often enough for this to annoy you, you are the problem. Take your old shit to the charity shop instead of dumping it on the pavement.

Why are so many people hard of thinking in this thread. The OP has made it clear that the things are left on her property near the front. Not out on the actual pavement. Are people being intentionally thick today? Maybe it’s the heat.

DOCTORCEE · 01/05/2025 12:05

She’s probably keen to get the junk off the pavement ASAP and sees this as a good way of doing that.

BoredZelda · 01/05/2025 12:05

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:34

Tell that to the angry bloke she once reserved an item for, who banged on my door and screamed at me for "wasting his time"

Do I still have to put up with that, because after all, no one knows who's house it is.

Scream back at him for wasting yours.

Stop putting stuff outside your house.

blueleavesgreensky · 01/05/2025 12:02

balloonraces · 01/05/2025 12:00

Romania ?? Seriously ? Another drip feed op! I think you’re just making shit up as you go along now

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I don’t think it’s unusual not to disclose what country you live in when it’s not wholly relevant to the OP. If I was posting from NZ about this, I wouldn’t think to mention that fact. Because it would not affect the point if the post

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Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 12:02

MoistVonL · 01/05/2025 12:02

I’ve taken photos of houses when I saw a paint colour I liked, when I saw an ornamental tree I thought would be ideal and needed to identify the type, when I thought the architecture would interest my friend and when I’ve been on holiday and seen picturesque buildings.

Anyone can take a photo of a building. What on earth are you frothing about?

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Oh really do you then post it online with full info

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Cookiecrumblepie · 01/05/2025 12:02

I would actually find this woman quite helpful to shift stuff.

MoistVonL · 01/05/2025 12:02

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:29

It really is! She's TAKING PHOTOS OF OUR HOMES!!

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I’ve taken photos of houses when I saw a paint colour I liked, when I saw an ornamental tree I thought would be ideal and needed to identify the type, when I thought the architecture would interest my friend and when I’ve been on holiday and seen picturesque buildings.

Anyone can take a photo of a building. What on earth are you frothing about?

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Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 12:01

balloonraces · 01/05/2025 12:00

Romania ?? Seriously ? Another drip feed op! I think you’re just making shit up as you go along now

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Irrelevant

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HiddenInCubeOfCheese · 01/05/2025 12:01

Surprised by the answers here.

I think that’s properly nuts behaviour and it would piss me off too

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 12:01

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balloonraces · 01/05/2025 12:00

Buitenlander · 01/05/2025 11:59

How is that ridiculous, we don't have them in Romania

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Romania ?? Seriously ? Another drip feed op! I think you’re just making shit up as you go along now

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