Just a rant.
My Mum frequently tells me how well she is able to manage my children, in particular my eldest who can be a bit of a arsehole (very strong willed, opinionated, defiant). She will say “it’s the tone you use” and when she views my kids have having been complaint for her will say “see this is how you do it.”
She seems to forget I grew up in her house and my eldest brother was so unruly, he used to jump out his bedroom window if he was sent to his room, I remember very clearly being locked in my Mums room with her whilst he smashed up the house, he punched holes in walls. He hit my Mum frequently. She used to speak about a child we knew who was sent to a children’s home for being out of
control and feared my brother was following the same path.
Now I don’t have a particular problem parenting, it’s tiring sometimes, but I feel we are doing the best for our son who is getting on well at school etc and has solid friendships - there are no real concerns other than he can be a pain in the arse at times and is the harder of my children to parent.
AIBU to get really pissed off at her rose tinted wisdom? All us kids have turned out ok - but she was no perfect parent who’s nailed it all. In fact she made some really critical mistakes - like believing a pedophile was gay and so giving him the perfect opportunity to abuse me - I cannot believe her stupidity now I’m older. They never got my brother any help and looking back he had some undiagnosed needs I’m sure would have made things easier if he was supported.
This view she did it all right and I would benefit from her infinite wisdom, which is generally “just say no like I did with you kids” yeah right that worked…!
#endrant.