to ask friend if she is going to pay my teen for cat sitting

Definitely send a te t before you meet.
Very rude that she hasn't paid her already.

Spell out that tou drove and it was 20 trips.
I baby sat for a women who never had money on her, always had to call back, it bugged me.

As soon as another regular gig fell into my lap I was too busy.
None of my friends would do it so she was often stuck.

Basic manners to pay up promptly.

Why don't you try messaging
"Hi Marion
Looking forward to seeing you on Friday.
Just a quick ask, can you bring Betty's cat sitting money when we meet - she's got her eye on some stuff she wants and is keen to order/go and get it!
Mary x

I’d do this, but add, ‘let me now if you need her bank details to pay her…’

I would text in advance and say “do you want us to pop round to pick up DD’s payment for pet sitting or if we are meeting on Friday perhaps you could bring it then?”

For goodness sake OP, just send a text today.

You are saying money is tight, but would rather compensate your dd - and be out of pocket - than confront this head on with a text 'btw friend, how do you prefer to pay dd for the 10 days of cat sitting? Ofc she will be very happy with cash, but I can send bank details too if easier for you. See you tomorrow!

Nobody likes awkwardness, but you need to advocate for your dd's commitment to your friend and her cats. Not shirk away because it makes you feel uncomfortable.

We give our teenager neighbour £70 a week for keeping an eye on our cat. She only has to pop in once a day because cat has a dry food dispenser and insists on only drinking pond or river water!

I like the suggestion to send a text saying Hiya! Sorry, I forgot to send you DDs bank details.

Can you just send a text and say your DD has asked when she is getting paid as she wants to put the money aside to save for holidays etc.

"I just realised I forgot to send you DC's bank details for payment! It's:
Name
Sort code
Account number

Cheers"

I think you paid quite a lot for her child.

Mine has done similar for £3 a go... Still works out reasonable after 20 visits!

Obviously an adult cat sitter would charge more, but we always use trusted sitters for a long stay which are cost just over £100 for a year ( but they do stay in your house).

Do this 👆 Be really breezy and say that you’re just letting her know the bank details and the total is £xx, daily rate of £xx.

Text her: looking forward to seeing you on Friday. DD just reminded me she hasn't had her cat sitting money from you yet - could you bring it on Friday and I'll pass it on. Thanks xx

I think if your daughter writes and says would you like my bank details - ten pounds a day for two visits a day and sends it to her she will find it hard to refuse and you can stay out of it .

What is this? I had multiple cash in hand jobs at 15 (in the 1990s), including working for friends/colleagues of my parents as well as jobs found through adverts. My mum was not involved in pay negotiations. Your DD should have sorted this out for herself in advance. Step back!

OP please meet this head on and teach/show your daughter not to become a walkover. Help your DD to recognise her worth and show that discussing money/payment is normal.

When you meet your friend say to her that your DD thought xyz payment was reasonable and perhaps make a joke about not charging her for you driving your DD there and back. If your friend doesn’t pay then I would be making it clear that your DD won’t be doing it again. Also speak up if your friend only offers a paltry amount.

Remind her otherwise it will sit over you for life as I silently seethe over people who have done me over.

the going rate is a tenner a day and my kids drop by briefly twice a Day to feed cats. Ten pounds an hour to dog sit. Of course she should pay a minimum of a tenner per day.

£3.75 per visit so £7.50 a day which she is v happy with.

She’s definitely a knob for ripping off a teenager. Who does that? Especially when she’s had to be driven there. I’ve used a couple of teenage girls to babysit for my DD and feed my cat when we’re away. I raise the rates in both scenarios because they’re really embarrassed to raise it with me… and I get that because they don’t know me very well. For the record I pay £10 a day… the “professional” I’ve used charges £18 at peak times I think… less at other times. I would probably say “ oh I forgot to give you xxxxx bank details for the transfer or were you going to give her cash”?

Text her this

“Hey friend, feeling a bit awkward raising this but DD has told me she didn’t find the envelope with her payment for cat sitting.

Would you mind having another look in case it’s slipped down somewhere?

Looking forward to catching up on Friday!”

You need to step up for your daughter.
Don't text, don't wait until the end of your meet-up.
Myself and others have given you tips on what to say. It isn't hard

Agree
as you did it as a favour last time , she’ll expect the same from your dd.

No friend with a pet would expect this for free.

That's a dreadful way to impose on friends.

Op do as above, make friend pay her even if she had no intention too.

I pay 15 a day for cattery where cat sits in small cage and gets fed and petted. Unfortunately our one teen cat sitter goes away a lot I pay her alot when she's here because it keeps my cat in the comfort of her own home!!

Hi,DD is so excited to buy something with her money are you going too pay her cash or bank transfer don't fill silence and wait for her to respond. If she's got the gall to suggest it was for free say oh no DD will be devestsed.... she's so proud she's actually working and doing a job??

Again let it hang

If you can accept doing a job, it's not awkward to bring up the topic of payment and rates. You really should be teaching your child to never accept doing work before a discussion of payment and amount having taken place first. It'll prevent her from being taken advantage of and underpaid in future jobs.

DD1 cat sat for one of our neighbours when she was about 16. Neighbour made a big thing about paying her, and gave her £10 when she came home! For two weeks!

You might just tell your friend, DD was hoping there was some cash coming her way for the pet sitting. Did we get that wrong? You mentioned paying other teens in the past so we assumed it…

If you're meeting her, you could just tell her that DD was hoping to get paid for it. Maybe point out that DD is saving up and that other people have been paid. Maybe even mention that you had to drive her over! Your friend should get the hint if she'd just forgotten.