to ask friend if she is going to pay my teen for cat sitting

Say nothing. See what happens. It will be a lesson one way or another

How rude. A text prompt is required.

I would get your teen to message her & say “here are my BACS details I prefer a transfer as I will just spend it too quickly if I have cash & am keen to save. Thanks so much & let me know if you need help in the future.”

Thank goodness I have friends and family who don’t take the pee.

Lol because they are making it up. They won't give the name of the company and no viable business would feed your cat, play with your cat, empty and take out bins, turn lights on and off, tidy up, water plants and feed fish, petrol and travel time for £10 a visit. And even if they have somehow found a charity that provides this service for peanuts, its irrelevant, cat sitters do not charge that little. And theyve referred to op as money grabby for wanting her daughter to charge the going rate.

My dd who was 16 was only asking £5 a day for 3 visits a day for 5 cats and my friend decided to find someone who'd do it for free. We lived in the same road.

Teenagers obviously wouldn't have insurance and the other overheads that a person doing it professionally would have.

It isn’t anything to do with rate per hour though. It is going rate payment for a service and age has nothing to do with it. Round my way a professional cat sitter charges £12 per visit but she does a lot more than just feeding the cats such as sorting post, watering plants which we don’t need. We agreed £15 for 2 visits for my daughter’s friend as she lives closeby. I wouldn’t pay her any less than that as it wouldn’t be fair.

That’s what I would do. I would just say btw this is her account and total. We live in London and pay my daughter’s friend £15 a day to come twice to feed and play with them a little bit.

Oops sorry, I see this is now resolved!

I think if you paid her teen to look after your pets last year, surely she will be paying your daughter - as long as she is aware that you did so?

£5 a visit sounds absolutely fine to me. My teen's been working at above NMW since 16 and I think she'd be happy with that.

I see the help I give to my teen with lifts etc as something I give for free, not something my friend would need to pay my teenager for.

Well, you can ask for payment but frankly she doesn't have to give it. Though if I was her of course I would have arranged it with you up front. So it's partly your daughter's fault for not being assertive and saying 'how much are you paying' or stating how much she charges.

If she wants to do pet sitting it would be good to consider what she would consider acceptable pay. And stick to that.

This woman seems pretty tight if she has paid others before though?

our dog goes to the most amazing sitter - fully insured, licensed etc for £15 for 24 hours. I live in an expensive part of the uk. £10 a visit is crazy money to me!

It does sound like she thought your daughter was now old enough to cat sit without having to pay someone but I'd be absolutely demanding petrol money (I'd pass onto her) at a minimum

Glad she got paid, I think £100 is fair enough price for doing that as a teen.

No need, mate. No need.

Why would she do that? She's already done cat sitting and been paid well.

Why do people expect professional amounts of money for casual cash in hand teenager jobs? If they want more than a bit of pocket money, the need an actual job. Yeah, agree with this.

I think the water is muddied, so to speak, by the fact that this is a friend and there's an element of doing favours for each other and the fact that your DD is a teenager, not an adult. Professional pet carers can charge more, are subject to higher standards/liability and it seems rates vary.
As a teenager I would be pleased with £100. She can negotiate a better rate next time if she wants to do it again (doesn't seem too taxing or time consuming tbh!) or ask for a travel allowance for buses or your petrol

Learn to be awkward up front
Next time you get asked:
"I'm sure she would, it's £20 a day for 2 visits"

When you meet up with your friend perhaps mention that your daughter is looking for odd jobs like cat sitting or dog walking for some pocket money

I would not say that as cash was not part of any discussions so a bit strange to wedge it in like that.

She should have made it clear when asking - a lump sum or so much per day.
We pay a neighbour’s teen dd to water pots and refill bird feeders when away, but are very clear about the daily rate and dh usually gives her half in advance,

Thank you for so graciously pointing that out.
Do please accept my sincerest apologies for missing OP's update.
So very sorry to have upset your weekend.

That's plenty. And to be honest, I wouldn't have been giving lifts. Surely a 5 min drive is walkable for a teenager? Why do people expect professional amounts of money for casual cash in hand teenager jobs? If they want more than a bit of pocket money, the need an actual job.

There is no going rate for favours for friends surely, and there aren't any "clients" involved here- unless your 15 year old teenager has somehow set up a registered business and is properly insured to enter 'client's' homes and care for their pets then it's all a bit daft surely - this is simply a cash in hand job for a child to do, same as washing a car or similar.

If you've decided on a specific rate then that needs to have been negotiated beforehand. It will have been apparent beforehand where she lived in relation to you and it's up to you to decide whether that works out on an all-in basis (including the petrol and time you spent) as being something you are willing to do or to work out whether it is actually worthwhile - nobody was forced into this.

As they're 15 then presumably it won't be long until they can get a salaried job to earn money so I wouldn't place too much importance on any of it any further than there already has been, she has been paid, notes for next time.