to ask friend if she is going to pay my teen for cat sitting

Op blame DD when see her* sorry too push you but dd really wants to buy something with her payment can you pay her please its absolutely shocking she's not paid her yet.

It can still be a learning experience for DD. Tell DD one of you should have agreed payment in advance and brainstorm how to ask for it now, politely but clearly.

20 visits would be around £300 for a pet sitter company. She is crafty asking teens to do it all the time. Wonder what she paid the neighbours kids 🤔

I think that the OP's text saying how much the girl enjoyed it, may make her think it was a favour.

You should have discussed it beforehand. She must have assumed you were doing her a favour. There's a lesson there.

I would say on Friday. Would you like to give me cash for Anna, or did she give you her bank details for a transfer.

How much would a cattery have been?! As well as the stress of taking the cats there? She sounds like a CF. There have been some good suggestions on texts to send. I agree with getting this sorted before Friday....

Oh also no one’s mum has ever asked me about cat sitting rates in advance before - I’m not saying they shouldn’t have but I don’t think it’s a particular fail on your part not to have done, don’t feel bad.

Have your teen send her the bank details to pay, or you send them. Say you're happy to take cash on Friday for her instead if preferred. Then the ball is firmly in her court of giving money or explaining why not. If she decides not to, then you'll know her character.

Your friend is really rude. I’m a cat sitter and for those 2 visits I’d be charging £22 a day so she’s saving lots of money by not paying your daughter. Especially bad as you’re travelling to get there, it’s not even particularly close by. I’d text something like, ‘Looking forward to seeing you tomorrow. Daughter (name) has asked if you’ll bring along her wages for cat sitting. There’s some ….. (whatever) she’s got here eye on 😊. See you then. ‘

How much do you pay her?

This covers it perfectly. I have a local teen do mine but she lives a 2 minite walk away. Always leave the cash in am envelope for her.

I like the pp suggestion that you pay your daughter, and try to recoup from your friend. I know it's awkward, but just be direct. "I think you forgot to pay Izzy for the cat sitting".
You've indicated how much your daughter enjoyed it - maybe she thinks she did the girl a favour?

To reassure you, I’ve had lots of teen cat sitters and used to do it as a teen myself and from both sides wouldn’t expect to discuss payment in advance because it’s so obvious this is a job you pay for.

I would usually leave cash or transfer on the day of return (£10 a day if it’s someone living on the same street - our cat feeding routine is very simple! - but more if it was someone with some journey time too). And more if I’d asked for bins putting out or plant watering of course.

There was one occasion where I forgot to transfer the money immediately though - I hadn’t forgotten completely but there was an awful lot else going on and I hadn’t done it. The teen texted me a reminder after a couple of days - I felt awful, apologised and paid immediately of course and added a bit extra!! I can’t remember exactly how she worded it but it was just something like ‘have you been able to pay me yet?’ I respected her for asking!

£100 for cat sitting? Pardon my ignorance, but is this really the going rate?
That would be a good side hustle.

But you’ve said she doesn’t normally pay you when you pet sit, so I’m guessing this is where the misunderstanding has come from. You really needed to be clear up front that your DD was expecting to be paid . I think now it’s just going to create bad feeling

If she asks dd again in future she could say “sure I would love too, my rate is £X per hour” type of thing

If it's awkward maybe give your DD £20 and text friend to tell her you've done that so she can choose to either give it you on Friday or can treat you to lunch when you meet up.

People like her don't get embarrassed.

Do ask... it is rude of your friend to have expected your teen to help without pay..

Jane,

I hope this is an oversight and not a misunderstanding. Kate and I had both assumed that the cat visit and plant watering would be paid. She made 20 visits to your house. I regret not raising this before you went away, but Kate agreed on the reasonable assumption that this would be paid. Her bank account details are : ... or you can bring cash on Friday.

I hope you understand
Me

Are you going to text then? It’s obvious the best way is to text before you meet on Friday to give your friend a chance to bring the money. If you don’t text you are making an awkward situation even more awkward

She’s not paying. You’ve already messaged her a couple of times. It wasn’t discussed before hand. You sound a bit silly asking now. Pay your dd. To me £20 would be fine. She fed a cat and you even drove her there and back 😂 Pay her yourself and remember this for next time.

I pay teens to cat sit. I pay them £10 a visit. And leave the cash for them in advance. Your friend is an absolute CF.

I had a similar issue lately - for a much larger responsibility for DD. She did eventually get paid after a chat but the amount was ridiculous so it won’t be an arrangement that is happening again unless fair payment is received upfront. I’d worry why she asked your dd instead of the local teens who she normally pays. Definitely call/message in advance of the meeting.

Ignore my response, I like the response above