to ask friend if she is going to pay my teen for cat sitting

I woukld ask her outright when she is going to pay your daughter otherwise if you leave it she may think it was a freebie. Nip that in the bud now.

Send a text and say
‘I hope you had a lovely holiday. Teen DD was happy to earn some extra cash & liked your cat’

£10 a day is reasonable.. people only charge £20 a day for having a dog stay at their house 24/7 & that includes a walk

I agree. My former pet sitter who now visits my house to fill the outdoor bird feeders and check on things when I travel charges £20 per single visit. More if she visits and walks multiple times in a day.

When I had a woman move in to care for my small dogs when I traveled, I paid her £100 per night, plus food, snacks, spa stuff, etc. It amazes me how people try to be so cheap when it comes to the care of their beloved pets.

She gave her £10 a day (£100 in total). I don't think that is a lot for 2 visits a day with travel but teen was happy enough with it. I will make sure she sets her terms next time. I think £10 a visit is more appropriate if the house is not in our neighbourhood.

Unless your daughter has public liability insurance, business insurance and is a registered business then she’s not entitled to get paid

Thank you for so graciously pointing that out.
Do please accept my sincerest apologies for missing OP's update.
So very sorry to have upset your weekend.

10 days, twice a day. How on earth this 'friend' doesn't think this requires some sort of monetary 'gift' is beyond me. What a pisstaker! 😡

So women are to undervalue themselves in order to keep society lubricated?

Did the phone friend voluntarily offer a discount, or were they expected / assumed by you to provide the service for less than market rate? There’s a difference.

So many posts here asserting that it’s ok and even financially savvy to undervalue and underpay young women. Because they should be thrilled and happy at the opportunity to be of help. Pretty appalling.

Then people scream and moan about how “women’s jobs” like caregiving and teaching pay less than “men’s jobs.” Gee, where do you think that baseline is set?

How silly. If teenagers want professional incomes then they need to arm themselves with the relevant skills and experience and pay the necessary tax and insurance bills. Or they could get a regular salaried job.
Expecting casual cash in hand work for unskilled teenagers to pay the same as an experienced professional would charge is daft.

So many posts here asserting that it’s ok and even financially savvy to undervalue and underpay young women. Because they should be thrilled and happy at the opportunity to be of help. Pretty appalling.

Then people scream and moan about how “women’s jobs” like caregiving and teaching pay less than “men’s jobs.” Gee, where do you think that baseline is set?

Next time tell the girl to investigate local market rates for this service and charge accordingly, requiring an up-front deposit and prompt payment. Including the cost of commuting.

Hmm. A professional offering this service will have insurance, pay Income Tax and NIC and poss Corporation Tax too. Half the going rate for a teenager is more than fair.

Also doing favours for friends and family is part of the grease that keeps society moving freely. When she was a teenager my DD's friend's dad repaired her smashed phone screen for just the cost of the replacement screen - significantly less than it would have cost her to get it mended in a shop. Are you suggesting he should have charged her for his time and expertise?

Absolutely not unreasonable!! We accidentally got a rescue cat just under 18 months ago and I was loath to send him to a cattery when we went away as I thought he would feel abandoned again! Asked around and found out that local professional cat sitters charge around £14 a day to come in twice and feed/play with your cat! We decided the best thing to do was to ask my teen daughter’s friend to cat sit for us and we pay her £8 a day. For that she comes in morning and evening, feeds and changes water bowl for the cat, plays with him, empties litter if needed, and feeds the two rabbits we have in the garden. She loves earning the money, and for me it means that I don’t feel bad asking her as it’s a mutually beneficial arrangement. I would never expect someone to do this for free!

Hi, a good friend of mine asked me if my teen wanted to cat sit for her while she was abroad for 10 days over Easter. My teen said yes and we assumed that it would be paid as I know she has paid other teens in the past. She lives a 5-10 min drive away so I drove my teen twice a day for 10 days to feed her cats and take care of some other house sitting stuff. She is now back from the trip and has sent a text message thanking me and my teen but no mention of pay. I wish I had asked before she went! My teen is 15 and keen to earn extra money which is why she accepted this job. Would you bring it up to the friend? I feel very awkward about it! Her teen pet sit for us a year or so ago and I left her some money in an envelope.

Hi, a good friend of mine asked me if my teen wanted to cat sit for her while she was abroad for 10 days over Easter. My teen said yes and we assumed that it would be paid as I know she has paid other teens in the past. She lives a 5-10 min drive away so I drove my teen twice a day for 10 days to feed her cats and take care of some other house sitting stuff. She is now back from the trip and has sent a text message thanking me and my teen but no mention of pay. I wish I had asked before she went! My teen is 15 and keen to earn extra money which is why she accepted this job. Would you bring it up to the friend? I feel very awkward about it! Her teen pet sit for us a year or so ago and I left her some money in an envelope.

I would have thought if she planned to pay she would have mentioned it when she made the arrangement.