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Said something really shitty at work and now scared

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Tdhggd · 30/04/2025 22:57

Please be kind, I’m not in the right frame of mind. I was chatting to a colleague today and usually it’s just casual low key topics like our kids, weekends etc. nothing too political. He’s a religious guy who goes to church, I’m not from a religious background at all but have recently felt there’s something missing and would like to visit a few religious places. I asked his advice and I told him I’ll be open to visiting as many places as I can apart from one (I won’t say which ones content to cause a meltdown). In my head it was just a throwaway comment I don’t really even think I meant it in truth it’s just something that came out. I’m worried now incase he mentions it to someone. It’s a very diverse workplace. Truthfully I have nothing against this religion but in my head I was trying to say I wouldn’t go as I don’t think I’d even be allowed to enter as they very strict. I don’t care what people think of me but I don’t want to hurt some of the people I consider my friends, I don’t want them to hear this and think I’m racism riwards them. I feel like such an idiot saying this and obviously will be more articulate in my explanation. How likely is it he will tell others?

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AnnoyedAsAllHeck · 03/05/2025 16:18

Tdhggd · 30/04/2025 23:50

I’m not getting involved in people’s agendas. I’ve had some good tips on here and yes I will take my kids to places I feel will welcome us. I don’t need to be talked down to like I’m stupid about dressing modestly I think I know how to dress in different places at my age! Thank you to those who for the non judgemental advice. Good night x

Honestly, you seem very rude. You really don't want to find a sense of community. You just figure some church will let you bring your children to their activities for free, as long as you don't have to be a member, attend church or be religious.

Where I am from, it's called "freeloading".

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