Anyone getting fed up of people posting about their ‘wholesome weekends’

It doesn’t bother me.
‘Wholesome’ is just a buzzword to mean a quiet and calm weekend, usually in nature or a weekend spent with family doing cute family things. I don’t really know why that would annoy people.
How do you know it’s fake? Were you there in person? If it makes people feel good putting a few pics up, It’s not hurting anyone is it?

Sure, have a moan about it, but as another poster said, it’s not that deep.

But.... You're doing the exact same? Sniping and criticising anyone who has an opinion....?

Yeah, it’s gross.
so many people on mine talk about having the most amazing weekend, how they’re so lucky blah blah.

How many people actually live in the moment and have time to really appreciate what’s going on around them?

All these people have really young kids. There’s nothing wholesome about your kid kicking off and crying over everything all weekend. It’s all a load of shit with everyone trying to portray a perfect life to everyone.

It’s always the ones that post a tonne of stuff like this that split up as well!

Rant over. I just find it sickly. Just have a nice weekend and not tell everyone?

I have an Instagram friend who does this. I worked with her a few years ago and she did nothing but complain about her husband and her mum (who had no interest in her, or her young children at that time).

And yet nowadays every post depicts their perfect life, dog walks in the countryside with the kids, with her parents, multiple photos every week of meals she has cooked and cakes she has baked.

Friend had quite an unstable childhood and her mum wasn't interested in the children until recently (presumably now they are older and easier) so my theory is that friend is determined to have (or at least project) a perfect, wholesome and stable family life. She is a lovely person so I don't mind the photos at all but I know others who have said it's all very 'look at me and my perfect life.'

@Starlight1984I’m on the thread because I genuinely find it fascinating that so many grown adults feel the need to snipe and criticise about how other grown adults choose to spend their time.

Why does anything matter? It's an opinion on something in the public domain.

I don't suppose trans issues affect most people in their day to day life. But people still comment and voice their thoughts on it. Harry and Meghan don't have an impact on anybody's life but people still talk about them and have opinions on them. A random MNer posting about a car blocking her drive doesn't affect a single other person on this website but plenty of people will comment and give advice.

It's a forum to talk about things - important or not - so maybe take your own advice and scroll on if you're not interested?

Never read one of those posts.

Okay - but why does it matter?

Just block/scroll/move on instead of sniping and sneering about it constantly.

As they say, it’s really not that deep.

People get wound up because humans are programmed to notice fake things and be wary. For example when David Walliams smiles and it never reaches his eyes. It makes you feel uncomfortable and discomfort makes you irritable.

We can tell the difference between someone taking a great photo by chance and a curated one narrating the story for you. I do not like being influenced into seeing a particular version of someone. And yes they are inviting you to believe they are better than you.

The heavy handed ones usually make me feel the opposite. There are countless documentaries backing up the fact that many of these families who try too hard to look perfect are actually fucked up and sometimes even abusive.

If you’re really enjoying your weekend you’ll actually be living it, not worrying about camera angles, filters and the wording of the post.

Agree. But the irony of these posts (and what the OP is getting at) are the polar opposite of wholesome, quiet or free. As what they are actually doing is spending the whole weekend on social media. What looks like a simple video of someone going about their "quiet life" is actually hours and hours of staging, filming, changing lighting, editing....

Seems to me like “wholesome” is a rebrand of “quiet” or “free”.

In a way this is good, makes a change from everyone feeling like they need to be out out and doing expensive stuff all the time.

But would be better if people felt they could just admit they had a quiet weekend or a low spend weekend without feeling the need to call it “wholesome”

You don't have to "follow" anyone to see these posts. I literally follow about 3 accounts on TikTok but you see them when you are scrolling through. And people are allowed to have an opinion on them.

Yes.
A smutty video would be more interesting.

I don’t follow people like that but I know they exist. I just have an opinion about them that’s all. It doesn’t mean I follow them though.

I agree the posed/performative posts make me roll my eyes but why do you follow those people? Why are you friends with them?

I'm mostly friends with people who have a similar sensibility to me - we'd all find that stuff a bit cringe so none of us do it. But even outside of that social circle, I'm only friends - IRL and on social media - with people I actually like. So if they did that I might roll my eyes but it wouldn't stop me liking them, I'd accept it as a character foible. And it wouldn't annoy me to the extent of bitching about it on the internet!

I know the kind you mean but I just don’t get why people are so wound up by them.

I know what you mean exactly! The ones who are out for a "wholesome" walk in their immaculate outfit and walking boots, carrying their takeaway coffee with their immaculate little dog (usually a cockapoo or dachshund) 😬

Yes! The performative ones and the ones I am ones I am on about. The only people who use wholesome are the ones who are overthinking their social media post to try and make it look perfect.

A fun and happy weekend camping is different to a “wholesome” weekend camping. One is natural and the other is cringey bollocks.

Apparently when we could all afford actual Sunday Newspapers and the perfect Saturday or Sunday morning involved lying in the sofa drinking (home made) coffee ‘with the papers’ there was a ‘thing’ where people felt depressed and inadequate because their lives didn’t match the Interior Decor / Fashion / Recipes / Restaurants / Holiday Cottage recommendations of Saturday Guardian Ot The Observer etc.

I don’t think people are talking about those kinds of posts. It’s more the performative/ posed and hashtags ones done for likes. Not the natural ones. I love seeing people out on their SUPs, up a hill, wild swimming etc… but I hate the obvious posed /edited ones done for social media rather than the actual experience itself. I hope I’m explaining it!

Maybe take a break from the Internet, it doesn’t seem to be making you very happy.

Quick photo of your coffee in bed, #wholesome. Congratulations, you're an influencer 🤣

No no. They’re probably telling the the truth about what they have done. But it’s not been “wholesome”. It’s just been easy and it’s gone their way. Good for them. Nothing wholesome about it though.

If someone posted about what an exhausting/ fun and happy weekend they have had I would see that as more genuine. “Wholesome” is just 🤢.

This!!!

We wake up on a Saturday, one of us goes to make a coffee to bring up to bed, chill for an hour or so, get up and take the dogs for a big walk, come home, DH makes breakfast whilst I start cleaning the house. After breakfast DH goes out into the garden (or does stuff in the house if the weather is shit), then a walk into the local village mid afternoon with the dogs. Maybe a coffee or glass of wine somewhere. Back home to make dinner, chill out and either read or watch a film. Never have I thought it was wholesome - it's just a weekend 😂

Maybe I'm missing a trick though!