Husband’s compulsion to constantly touch me

This is the last of your threads that I remember. It is absolutely chilling.

Our responses are the same as last time @HairyPeachy . He’s vile.

No. Don't bother "asking" for a separation.

Put your plans in place to leave with the DC and then do it. He doesn't get a say and you should in no way ask for his agreement on the plan. It's time for you to do the right thing for your children and yourself.

Call Women's Aid if you need help putting together a plan.

Well she says that she has posted about this before in the first post. so I'm guessing you are correct.

If you won’t leave for yourself will you at least consider it for your children? Because right now you’re teaching them that consent doesn’t matter, someone’s boundaries are there to be crossed and abusive behaviour should be tolerated.

And why haven’t you told him to leave?

OK, just read your other posts.

Stop being so passive. ‘Making excuses’ and ‘running away’ are not enough. If you won’t leave him - which you bloody should, he’s a vile abusive creep - you at least need to set an example to your kids and stand up for yourself.

Posting repeatedly with this “Oh, silly DH and his touching, I suppose it’s nice that he fancies me but what is he like” stuff and then ignoring all advice is a waste of your time. What the fuck else can people say? You’re married to a horrible man who doesn’t respect you, gropes you in front of his teenage kids who are clearly disturbed by it, and he’s aggressive and volatile towards your son. Frankly, I suspect your kids really dislike him. Do something about it or don’t, but just moaning on here over and over again is a waste of time.

Why are you allowing your son to be treated this way? And to see inappropriate behaviour? You have a responsibility to protect and prioritise him. Get your husband to move out for a trial separation (hopefully one that'll become permanent!)

I'm not sure what anyone can say that hasn't been said in your last thread.

This isn't acceptable treatment for the dogs in our household much less a human. Seriously, my 4 year-old knows better than to treat a labrador the way your husband is treating you.

You need to understand that this adult man likes that he's touching you in ways that upset you. It brings him pleasure to watch you be uncomfortable and squirm away but ultimately submit to what he wants to do to your body. Explaining over and over how much this upsets you or why you don't like it and asking him to please stop is counterproductive; what you need to decide and communicate to him now is what you will do if he chooses to continue this behavior.

Anyone who keeps touching you in any way when you’ve told them not to is an utter shitbag. He KNOWS you hate it and he keeps doing it because he thinks he owns you and doesn’t let you have bodily autonomy. Grim that he does it in front of the kids.

It’s particularly worrying that he gropes you sexually when you don’t like or want it.

I’m fairly affectionate with my partner and I would say pretty relaxed about being touched by him (although not by anyone else) but I would I detest what you’re describing. It’s making me feel suffocated and claustrophobic just reading about it.

I think at this point I would thinking about leaving him, but if not I would be way, way beyond “Oh, stop it, I don’t like it” and would be yelling “DON’T FUCKING TOUCH ME” in his face.

Was he weird and creepy and vile before you got married?

What do you want from this thread that you haven’t got from your previous threads? Don’t expect people to say he’s not a repulsive sounding weirdo?

you’ve posted multiple times about him. Are you just venting or do you actually want to do something?

edited to add - I now recognise all this and I remember you slowly drip feed more and more outlandish stuff that he apparently does

sounds a strange dynamic all round

Your child is feeling uncomfortable in their own home.
I’m pretty sure adults being overly sexual, saying inappropriate sexual things infront of kids/teens is some kind of abuse. It’s very scarring.
I have horrible, disturbing memories of my own father licking his lips and my mother in a sexual way. And saying inappropriate things regarding sex with her. Absolutely disgraceful- we are low contact now, not because of this, but it didn’t help.

And the storming off… emotional blackmail.

What do you feel like your options are here?
You’re right to find this horrible.
Whats the solution though ..

I’m pretty sure we all told you before, this is abusive and it’s control. It’s very, very sinister.

I’m sure you included some really, really concerning details in your last thread.

Why are you posting again? Are you expecting different answers?

There is no way I could continue a relationship with a man like this. He is completely ignoring your lack of consent . The comment about having the “ right” to touch his wife is so misogynistic and abusive. And I would be very worried about the effect it’s having on your DD.
What are you actually doing to stop this from happening. I hate confrontation but would be absolutely furious with my dh if he behaved like this . He would be left in no doubt about the consequences of acting in this way
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Agree.

I think a short, sharp reminder that you are in fact a separate and completely alive and real human being is in order here. He clearly sees you as a convenient warm body he can do as he pleases with.

If he comes up behind you, stamp hard on his toes with your heel if he touches you.
Full frontal - knee him in the groin.

This is sexual abuse. You have the right to defend yourself. If you want this to stop, he needs to experience direct and very unpleasant consequences.

Also, why are you working in the kitchen while he moons around with nothing to do?

Does your kitchen have a door and can you get a lock fitted so you can at least cook in peace?