Husband’s compulsion to constantly touch me

Besure to contact 101 to tell them you are fleeing domestic abuse or he might report you missing.

His constant groping you is sexual abuse.
He does it in front of your children so he is emotionally and sexually abusing them too.

He sounds absolutely vile.

Call Womens aid for advice.
Leaving is a dangerous time so they will have advice.

Your poor children witnessing his awful behaviour.

Except he does know he does it. Because he says he ‘can’t help it’ and moans about his wife not liking him having unrestricted access to her body 24/7.

He absolutely knows. He just doesn’t care that she doesn’t like it.

So he continues to regularly sexually assault her.

He sounds very unstable and I totally understand your need to leave secretly. I had to and the last few months were definitely the worst.
Have you spoken to Women’s Aid? They might have safety tips you’ve not thought of. They can also advise you on your legal rights, strategies you can use to stay safe after you’ve left.
It’s horrible having to stay quiet for your own safety, I wanted to punch his lights out but knew anything I did put me in danger.
Plan carefully, stay safe and I hope you and yoyr dc can leave soon.

What are you hoping to achieve from this thread that you didn’t get last time you posted?

I swear this has been posted on here before.

Maybe have him checked out for a neurological condition?
some people can have these inhibitions with a frontal lobe problem. Not trying to scare but some people don’t know they are doing it .

Sorry, OP, I think you're being very unreasonable because you're posting to check if his behaviour is unreasonable in the full knowledge that his behaviour is massively out of order. So much so, that you're a month, or even less, away from leaving him and moving to a new house. The marriage is dead and buried in your mind already so what's the point of the initial post?

Hi @Muffinmam that’s completely disrespectful and, if you’ve made it clear you don’t agree to it or like it, it’s sexual assault.

Have you contacted a domestic abuse charity? Really recommend you do that as a first step. If you’re in England or Wales and have a child, you have a right to suitable accommodation. Speak to the council housing options teams, ask to speak to a woman and tell her about the domestic abuse. They’ll help you.

Sending strength.

My DP cannot walk past me without touching me in some way. I find it quite annoying but it’s just his love language and I like that he still wants to do that after all these years

Why has this been posted again almost word for word???

You’re being horrifically abused. Your husband’s behaviour meets the threshold of a number of crimes. He is committing crimes against you.

Your children growing up witnessing this dynamic is hugely damaging and unfair on them.

Please consider contacting Women’s Aid. You say you admire OP for having a plan to leave. You can make one too, with the help of professionals like them.

The long you stay in this relationship, the more likely it is that your children will replicate this dynamic themselves as adults and be either abused or abusers themselves.

Don’t let that be your legacy.

Is this new? Is he well? (Some medical issues can send people strange).

Sounds like he should be doing more household chores and less groping. He's not acting respectfully or responsibly. If everything else in your relationship is good try talking. If not make plans as he sounds selfish and a complete dork. I like touching my wife but I only do it if I think it might be appreciated. Otherwise I don't as it would be annoying. Ditto when she touches me.

The getting beyond gentle a welcomed touching sounds controlling and creepy to me.

Good luck.

Ask him if he realises he’s teaching his daughter that females don’t own the rights to their own bodies.

Just read your previous post from January. Considering you're on a career break to care for your DC, and weren't originally planning to leave until you return to work next year, you've done well to secure a new property of your own so quickly. I hope it all turns out ok.

Dear God OP I'm so glad you are making plans to escape.

Please consider speaking to Women's Rescue. This man is entitled beyond belief and profoundly unstable, I suspect.

Please don't underestimate what he's capable of. You speak of his rage and it's frightening even just to read.

He would get a nasty surprise if he tried it with me………..for some odd reason I create a lot of static and my OH always gets a jolt if he gets too near.

Thanks. I'll stop watching this one now. Unfortunately, I doubt if it's real. And even if it is, OP obviously isn't acting on the advice given. I hope she's ok.

Sexual harassment isn't weird? So in essence you are saying it's understandable to grope someone if their arms are soft? Would it be ok to do this to strangers as well? Or just your own wife..?

You've told him you don't want him to. You've told him not to. He's not respecting you. That's awful. I'd be angry.

Strange not to mention you’re leaving him but glad you’re taking the advice every single person gave you last time you posted this same thing.

If you are leaving that is fab news, but like other peeps on here was surprised you didn't mention it originally, just seemed odd the way opening and follow up posts were written until the reveal.

This man is a vile abuser.

He thinks you are his property.

Leave him before he totally fucks up your kids. They are your priority here.

Don’t ask. Tell.

Honestly op he sounds absolutely vile. Your children will thank you.

Is this a new behaviour?
please don’t be offended but… could he be seeing someone else? I only ask this because I didn’t realise my husband was cheating but he was doing stuff out of character,

Good luck op. In your op you sounded confused. I presume he had invaded your space for years and overstepped hugely. I saw a man in a supermarket recently groping his wife’s crotch as she leaned over. She was shocked and he didn’t care. I nearly shouted at him for her. It made me wonder what goes on in private. Your new home will be a relief to have your own space I expect.