Division of household labour

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Darknightsdarkmoods · 30/04/2025 20:22

Have had some comments from friends recently that the division of labour in our house is ‘unfair’ and would love some unbiased opinions.

Person A: Cooks and washes up 100% of the time. Mows the lawn.

Person B: Does everything else. Broadly the mental load, laundry, dusting and hoovering, general kitchen and bathroom cleaning.

Do you think either of these roles is unfair (Yes you are being unreasonable) and which would you rather be if so? I’m very curious. We are DINKS both work full time.

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PinkyFlamingo · 30/04/2025 20:27

CaptainFuture · 30/04/2025 20:24

Double income no kids...

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Thank you

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Darknightsdarkmoods · 30/04/2025 20:26

Both parties are equally physically and mentally capable of the housework, and jobs are similar (office based). Currently no children (hence DINK).

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LoveWine123 · 30/04/2025 20:26

If it works for both of you then it’s fair.

dammit88 · 30/04/2025 20:25

I think friends comments are irrelevant - how do the two people involved feel? Do they have vastly different jobs for example that mean one might be in a better position to do more? There's a lot of things to consider.

CaptainFuture · 30/04/2025 20:24

PinkyFlamingo · 30/04/2025 20:24

What is DINKS?

Double income no kids...

CaptainFuture · 30/04/2025 20:24

Do both work to an equal level? Hours/stress/Physicality/commute?

PinkyFlamingo · 30/04/2025 20:24

What is DINKS?

Radra · 30/04/2025 20:23

Assuming the cleaning is done to a reasonable standard, person B is doing loads more.

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