AIBU to be annoyed neighbour put spikes on the fence?

I think YANBU OP. Weird to put spikes on a fence. I have cats, but I have also not always had cats and never known my garden to fill up with cat poo to the extent experienced on MN.

You bought a cat that shits in her garden - I less your words were “let me know whenever the cat shits on your garden or causes any problems and I’ll sort it out” I guess she isn’t interested in any chat

Are these the plastic spikes or large metal ones? If the plastic ones they didn't deter our cat 😂 we made our garden secure - best thing ever.

I am fed up of constantly having to clear cat poo out of my garden, having to check it before my children play in their garden.
currebtly my newly planted flower bed has been used by cats and needs sorting.

it takes time and is an unpleasant job.

You've said "I'm really sorry our cat's upsetting you" and she's ignored you?

It must be to stop your cat getting into her garden.

I recently got two cats - when I started letting them out I noticed they were in the neighbours garden a lot because it’s so exciting - very mature and lots of hiding places - I immediately knocked on his door to tell him and to discuss and invited him to soak them with water to stop it if he didn’t like and keep me informed, he is a cat lover, but I didnt assume he would be ok with this

I also made a outdoor cat litter in my garden for them to use so I know they are not pooing elsewhere and annoying neighbours

I think you could have done more to help the situation - she probably doesn’t know how to say she hates it but you seem like you know so be more proactive and neighbourly

It's your fence?? She needs a few words for doing it regardless of how pissed off she is with your cat.

I'd be getting a claw hammer and ripping them out.

I imagine having neighbours who you've gone out of your way to be nice, to letting their cat destroy your garden without any discussion, is pretty upsetting, but she hasn't spoken to you because she doesn't want a scene. Afterall, you must know what it's doing, if you are reasonable and able to stop it, surely you'd have already done it.

If you’d be willing to keep it in for shitting why did you not just cat proof your garden to start with to keep it in.

And if she talks to you, what can you offer to her? Practical suggestion which would improve the situation, not just a polite chat expecting her to say "no problem"?

You decided to bring a nuisance to your neighbourhood, not everyone will love you for it.

Not necessarily - on our estate fences between properties are shared ownership & only boundary fences have one owner - found that out when our fence blew down in a storm.

If it is definitely your fence, take the spikes down if they pose an actual threat to your cat, and replace with a suitable cat proofing option.

If it is not your fence, still put up a sensible cat proofing option.

Safe cat spikes tend not to be effective - rollers or netting (put up by you!) are - dangerous cat spikes (ie close together and actually sharp) can cause injury to an unsuspecting cat and are not appropriate, regardless of whose fence it is (similarly you can't stick up broken glass or razor wire on a shared boundary or a boundary to which the public have access to and the legal methods like anti-vandal paint or electric fencing must have warning signs every few metres).

She is a dick for not speaking to you and just asking you to put up something to stop the cat coming across to her garden. But if you know your cat wanders and likely shits in others gardens, you're also a dick for not pre-empting this.

You're bothered and now irritated with her that she won't just raise the issue with you, but you are also an adult who could also just raise the issue with her. You're the one who brought in the source of the issue. She's wound up about the cat, obviously (given the spikes) but doesn't want the confrontation about it. Maybe she feels outnumbered, given that there's two of you and she lives alone. Honestly she might also just be resigned to the shitting cat, given that they have right to roam in this country and there's nothing she can do about it.

Send a card perhaps?

Preferably not a feline-themed one.

Did you tell her warn her you were getting a "garden destroying shit machine". Looks like she's just matching your silence.

It didn't come out of nowhere it came out of the introduction of the cat which she clearly doesn't like. It was inevitable the cat would visit her garden, but you didn't give it consideration at the time

I am actually planning the rollers for my garden. I love cats, but they don't even come for a cuddle. Just shit, trample over things when quickly fucking off. Would probably be more forgiving if they were friendlier.
It can also get really ridiculous when you have few cats trying to claim your garden sadly

She's decided to grey rock you, and I don't blame her.

Some neighbours here next door let their dogs shit on my front garden every day, regardless of requests from me and the people on the other side to leash them. They also put up a basketball net about eight feet from my living room windows, several years ago. The noise was to the point I couldn't hear my own televsion or audiobooks. They knew it and didn't care. It was as though I didn't exist. What they and their kids wanted was priority.

I never spoke to them again or acknowledged their existence. The husband tried to talk with me a few times and I just walked away. Thankfully everyone else hated them too, and they finally moved.

One reaps what one sows.

Presumably then there were lots of opportunities before you got the cat to say "hi neighbour we're getting a cat, if it becomes a nuisance in your garden as they so often do let me know".

But you didn't.

Sorry OP but if you lived next door to me I would be doing exactly the same as your neighbour with regard to keeping your cat off my garden! There is nothing worse than working in your own garden and either standing in or putting your hand in cat poo! It carries disease and stinks!

She's entitled to put spikes on her fence. She doesnt want to speak to you so just ignore her.

If your cat is pooing in her garden then she knows you can't really stop it, so she's taking her own measures rather than getting into confrontation.

Just accept that she's no longer friendly and don't have any contact with her.