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What should I have done? (almost hit horse and rider with my car)

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Redstorm2807 · 30/04/2025 12:06

Posting for traffic as feeling really shaken up by this incident and honestly not sure what I should have done differently.

Driving yesterday afternoon, come out of a village with a 30 limit onto a country road section which is a 60 limit. Accelerated out of village so probably doing 40 ish when I come round a corner and find a large horse with a rider walking very slowly in the road in front of me. There is a car coming in the other direction so I do an emergency stop and thankfully come to a stop a few metres away. The car behind also has to do emergency stop.

The horse thankfully was not spooked by this and continues walking on but the rider is very angry, shouting and waving his hands at me.

I slowly drive past the horse and continue on my way. I always drive very slowly near horses

I don't speed, I'm one of those people who do 30 until the speed sign in a village (we live fairly rurally so lots of journeys are short stretches of 30 through villages then stretches of 60 between).

Thinking about it I'm not sure there was anything else I could have done differently apart from drive at slowly all the time which obviously isn't a sensible option. I could have been doing 50 or 60 by that point if I had accelerated harder in which case I would have likely killed the horse, rider and possibly myself.

I'm still feeling quite shaken the day after and worried about it happening again - is there something I'm missing or is this just the risk we take when driving??

OP posts:
Sweaterbag · 30/04/2025 12:16

You should be going slowly enough around a blind bend that you can stop for any obstruction. It could have been a breakdown or an accident?

Trickabrick · 30/04/2025 12:16

MaryBeardsShoes · 30/04/2025 12:14

You should have been going slower round the corner if it was so tight you couldn’t see what was ahead.

This and it’s slightly concerning this wasn’t obvious to you.

Redstorm2807 · 30/04/2025 12:16

Lacoutine · 30/04/2025 12:14

You should always be able to stop in the distance you can see to be clear (have just checked the Highway Code and it is rule 126):
https://www.gov.uk/guidance/the-highway-code/general-rules-techniques-and-advice-for-all-drivers-and-riders-103-to-158
You were clearly going too fast - the speed limit is a maximum not a guide.
Sorry, I probably sound a bit harsh but I am a rider and fed up of people coming round corners too fast.

And I totally understand why now, well, lesson learnt. Thankfully managed to learn it without causing any damage to anyone.

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SnowflakeSmasher86 · 30/04/2025 12:14

Yeah it sounds excessive but I drive like there’s a horse or a bunch of cyclists round every blind bend. Because often there is!

One memorable journey with my DS driving had him muttering “please don’t be a cyclist” round every corner!

MaryBeardsShoes · 30/04/2025 12:14

You should have been going slower round the corner if it was so tight you couldn’t see what was ahead.

Redstorm2807 · 30/04/2025 12:14

Yogagrandmum · 30/04/2025 12:10

Be aware there could be an obstacle around a bend. Pedestrians,tractors cyclists…

I suppose that summarises it pretty well! I think I've become too familiar with these roads - alarmingly I see so many people take corners as fast as they can rather than as fast as is sensible. Thanks

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Pinkmagic1 · 30/04/2025 12:13

You need to go slower around bends, especially on these types of roads.

NovemberMorn · 30/04/2025 12:13

If you can't see what's in front of you, you drive with caution.
Obviously you could not see what was round the corner, so you should have been driving slower than you were.
Thankfully no one was hurt.
I knew a girl who was horse riding and a carless driver knocked down the horse, killed it, and the girl was badly hurt.

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 30/04/2025 12:12

The speed limit is irrelevant you weren't driving for the conditions. If you have a blind bend you need to slow down just in case.

Yogagrandmum · 30/04/2025 12:10

Be aware there could be an obstacle around a bend. Pedestrians,tractors cyclists…

RhiWrites · 30/04/2025 12:09

Sorry that happened. It sounds scary. It’s the corner that’s the issue. Sounds like a blind corner and you need to slow more (regardless of the speed of the road). I had a similar experience with a massive lorry on a 60 road last week but I’d slowed to about 25-30 for the corner and could brake more when I saw it.