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what would you do 72 years old farmers wife

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farmerwifesfriend · 30/04/2025 04:19

I live on farm with husband who inherited everything. So I don't have to worry about relatives living with . We don't have any money worries like others have either. I have never had a vacation!! My husband has no desire to go anywhere, even to ocean. He says he has everything he needs right here, and does not understand why I would like to even go away for a weekend... I am in major depression, I live about 100 miles from the ocean and have never been there. I fear I will never see any of the country, any suggestions.

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HoppingPavlova · 30/04/2025 05:01

Go on your own or with friends. My DH doesn’t have an interest in most places I want to go and things I want to do, and ditto for me with him. Occasionally there is something we both want to do/go but it’s probably an 80/20 rule where we holiday apart due to different interests. If none of my friends are interested either, I go on my own, which in some ways is better as it’s all to your own schedule without having to take others into account. Some countries/places, I’ll join a tour for certain sightseeing if it’s hard to get to or I think a tour guide will add to the experience, but I make sure I get small ones (like 15 people or less in a mini van, not the big coach type tours).

ApolloandDaphne · 30/04/2025 05:00

Where do you live? I'm assuming not the UK because I don't think anywhere is as far as 100 miles from the sea. Do you drive? If so then 100 miles isn't too far to go by yourself or with a friend. Seize the day and go see the ocean.

Peripop · 30/04/2025 04:56

I'd just go by myself. Life aint a dress rehearsal!

Bingbopboomboomboombopbam · 30/04/2025 04:52

Do you have access to finances?

If so, go without him. This is really sad. I couldn’t cope with a world so small.

InWalksBarberalla · 30/04/2025 04:47

Book a cruise or a tour and just go.

notatinydancer · 30/04/2025 04:45

Have you got any children ? They will be adults ? Can you go with them ?

MaggieBsBoat · 30/04/2025 04:44

Yes please go @farmerwifesfriend is this possible? Do you drive? Have you someone you could go with? This is not asking for much in life. Maybe go once and if it helps go regularly. I live by the sea and when I am feeling down, I go and sit by myself on the beach and just breathe and stare and I always come away with my heart a little lighter.

DecemberBackIn63 · 30/04/2025 04:42

Can you go with a friend?

I think it's sad that your husband doesn't want to visit places, if it would make you happy, BUT I think that I'd ask a friend or something, & still go.

latelydaydreams · 30/04/2025 04:39

Go on your own, or with a friend?

There’s nothing stopping you and life is too short.

Just say, darling, I want to see the ocean. I’m going on X day, want to come? If he says yes, then great. If not, pack nice food and a good book and make the most of it!

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