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More of a WWYD.. Daughter's friend

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mezzetables · 29/04/2025 14:06

My daughter aged 13 has friend who comes over every morning before school. Waits in the dining room whilst my DD gets ready, then they head off to the bus stop. They've been friends since early primary school and this girl is from a good family.
However.... This is the bit I'm struggling with... Money (only small amounts like the odd pound coin here and there) has started going miss from a shelf in our home. Shelf is is in the dining room where this friend waits each morning. Last night, my DD confided in me that she'd actually seen the friend taking money.. Apparently walked in an caught her red-handing. DD was too shocked to say anything, so acted normal. The friend also didn't say anything but looked very gulity, went bright red and look embarassed.
How do I approach this? I personally don't want to tell her parents because, all in all, she's a good kid.

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HolidayAddict23 · 29/04/2025 14:27

The responses saying don’t leave money lying around are crazy. It’s your home, you should be able to leave money where you want and not have to worry about it going missing. As others have suggested, I would make her wait outside in the mornings until your daughter is ready.

ScaryM0nster · 29/04/2025 14:24

I think I’d be tempted to very deliberately orchestrate a ‘catch’ and then have a gentle conversation with her about what’s behind it.

It might be temptation, it might be need, it might be wanting to be a rebel……

HeyCooper · 29/04/2025 14:24

Just tell her kindly she can wait inside but mustn’t take anything. If she does, she will need to wait outside

KrisAkabusi · 29/04/2025 14:22

Don't leave money lying around. Other than that, I wouldn't do anything else for now. She's been caught, so will probably be on best behaviour for a while.

I wouldn't lie like the poster above who says to tell he that all guests must wait outside because that would be obviously untrue.

BMW6 · 29/04/2025 14:20

Well don't leave money lying about for starters!

Stressedoutforever · 29/04/2025 14:09

Don't leave money out- tell the girl due to things going missing all guests now wait outside? Make it a blanket ban not personal

Bluevelvetsofa · 29/04/2025 14:09

Don’t leave money lying around where it’s obvious.