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To not be happy that my new work lanyard has “she/her” on it without me asking?

264 replies

TheNavyAnt · 29/04/2025 09:03

I’ve just started a new job and noticed that my staff lanyard/pass automatically has my name and “she/her” printed underneath it. Nobody asked if I wanted pronouns added - it was just assumed and put there by default.

I don’t have anything against people sharing pronouns if they want to, but personally, I wouldn’t have chosen to have it printed on my pass. It feels a bit forced, like I’m being made to take part in something I didn’t ask for and I’m not sure why it needs to be there at all unless I choose it.

AIBU to feel slightly uncomfortable about this? Or should I just let it go as one of those “modern workplace” things?

OP posts:
Flightfromhell · 29/04/2025 09:08

I don’t understand why your chosen pronouns need to be publicised?

Pawse · 29/04/2025 09:07

Go back to HR and get a new one issued!

The more people stand up to this nonsense the better.

Maybe once you've done it others will follow suit.

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 29/04/2025 09:07

xanthomelana · 29/04/2025 09:05

I feel the same, we had to add our pronouns to our signature on our work email. As you said it feels a bit forced and I don’t see what difference it makes having it there.

Legally you don’t have to…

skippy67 · 29/04/2025 09:06

WhatDidIComeInThisRoomFor · 29/04/2025 09:06

Go back to HR and say you’re very upset that someone made an assumption about your preferred pronouns.

Love this!

CaptainAwkward · 29/04/2025 09:06

It's the equivalent of being ascribed a religious title when you're an atheist in my opinion, drawn into a belief framework without consent.

And just silly

Scousemousey · 29/04/2025 09:06

My first thought was Sharpie, too.

skippy67 · 29/04/2025 09:06

I'd Sharpie over it.

WhatDidIComeInThisRoomFor · 29/04/2025 09:06

Go back to HR and say you’re very upset that someone made an assumption about your preferred pronouns.

Xiaoxiong · 29/04/2025 09:05

If asked, you could say that it's against the Yogyakarta principles to force people to disclose their pronouns.

Smittenkitchen · 29/04/2025 09:05

Were you even asked what your pronouns were? Had you put it on a form? Seems incredibly misguided, it could even out somebody unintentionally?!

xanthomelana · 29/04/2025 09:05

I feel the same, we had to add our pronouns to our signature on our work email. As you said it feels a bit forced and I don’t see what difference it makes having it there.

DiaAssolellat · 29/04/2025 09:04

Hell would freeze over before I wore this.

Xiaoxiong · 29/04/2025 09:04

Sticker over it?

redphonecase · 29/04/2025 09:03

Sharpie.