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Offended by friend’s comments about party food

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LinsMum22 · 28/04/2025 20:45

We hosted my friend, her husband and three kids yesterday afternoon. Our sons are in the same football team and we said we’d put some food on at ours after and watch the Liverpool match who they both support. My friend agreed to party style food being the best option as everyone could pick at it as and when.

Amongst other things, there was - Indian selection, tempura prawns, sausage rolls, mini pizza’s, mini sausages, chips, breaded chicken. So a good mix all from Iceland where we’ve had positive comments on the food before.

I could tell my friends’ youngest looked unimpressed when they tried one of the items, and pulled a face to my friend. She made no
attempt to get them to try another item and basically said ‘I know’. I noticed five minutes later she had barely ate anything herself either.

15/20 minutes later, the youngest moaned again and this time my friend said ‘don’t worry, we will stop at McDonald’s on the way back as I’m hungry too.’

I text her after they left to say sorry if they didn’t enjoy the food. She replied to say they didn’t realise it would be that sort of food and that they’d have got something else before coming round if they realised!!

AIBU to find this really snobby and ungrateful? The fact she then took the kids to get a McDonald’s makes no sense!!

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PyongyangKipperbang · 28/04/2025 22:34

Iceland are the best for party type food, I love that they put on their packaging of multi foods how to cook it so it is all ready at the same time! More recently they seem to have adjusted their recipes so all of the stuff can be cooked in the same oven, at the same temp, for the same time.

ETA Just had a thought....probably expecting you to order in Dominoes. Seen that before at parties, would explain the McD's comment.

Holeypyjamas · 28/04/2025 22:34

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 28/04/2025 20:49

If it's good enough for Kerry Katona it should be good enough for everyone.

Hahahahahha 🤣

Pushmepullu · 28/04/2025 22:34

OP, big boast coming up! I am legendary amongst my friends for putting on a great buffet. Worst party food comes from Waitrose, followed by Asda then Sainsbury’s. Best M&S, Iceland then Tesco. Thing is people don’t know where my food has come from, it’s taken out of the packaging before they arrive, and I get lots of great comments about how good it is. My guess is that she wants to appear more upmarket than she is. Don’t feed her again.

Firefightress1 · 28/04/2025 22:34

Sortofdontwantto · 28/04/2025 22:32

I think the clue for you in your post is ‘canning factory.’ I’m not sure people who like good food eat much other than baked beans and tuna out of cans

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Well good for them but a lot of us unfortunately rely on this as we are skint. I'd rather pay i eland prices for the same food.

Neodymium · 28/04/2025 22:33

ConstanceM · 28/04/2025 22:28

What's your point? Do you read every fruit and veg label to see country of origin? No one does that. The UK snobbery around where you shop is bonkers.

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Agree.

all our supermarkets vie each other to be seen as the cheapest. Coles even wrote a song ‘down down prices are down’. With singing and dancing and a giant red finger pointing down.

Sortofdontwantto · 28/04/2025 22:32

Firefightress1 · 28/04/2025 22:14

My dad used to work in a canning factory, all that changed was the labels. The food was exactly the same! We used to laugh about it alm the time, the only difference was the price!

I think the clue for you in your post is ‘canning factory.’ I’m not sure people who like good food eat much other than baked beans and tuna out of cans

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 28/04/2025 22:31

ruethewhirl · 28/04/2025 22:28

What a puerile comment.

I'm from a working-class background. I don't watch sport because it bores the crap out of me (yes, all sport) but why you'd assume someone is what you'd presumably call 'posh' just because they don't watch sport is beyond me.

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Agreed. MN reverse snobbery is just as irritating as the common or garden variety.

ProfessionalOverthinker1 · 28/04/2025 22:31

To all saying "I wouldn't want Iceland food either"

If I put in front of you mini sausage rolls from various supermarkets I highly doubt you'd be able to tell which one was from Iceland.

Op - maybe food was very cold inside? That would put me off even if it was the finest food under the sun, I like room temperature for this kind of spread. Maybe it was texture, since it was defrosted?

Regardless, extremely rude of the other mum to make comments out like even if she thought that. Honestly, some people are just rude pricks.

Firefightress1 · 28/04/2025 22:30

IdaPrentice · 28/04/2025 22:29

This thread is peak mumsnet!
They should have served carrot sticks, a big bowl of salad, fruit, feta cheese...
while watching the Liverpool game 😂

Howling... 😂

IdaPrentice · 28/04/2025 22:29

This thread is peak mumsnet!
They should have served carrot sticks, a big bowl of salad, fruit, feta cheese...
while watching the Liverpool game 😂

Strangeworldtoday · 28/04/2025 22:28

Odd as most people will nibble any sort of party food. Like i would go to a party and just eat whatever it was, high end canopes through to kids party sausages. Just eat some of it and then eat later as well if needed, but I wouldn't insult the host!

ruethewhirl · 28/04/2025 22:28

KindLemur · 28/04/2025 21:09

You don’t ’watch sport’ ??

not even the boat race with some organic strawberries for Jacinta and Araminta?!!

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What a puerile comment.

I'm from a working-class background. I don't watch sport because it bores the crap out of me (yes, all sport) but why you'd assume someone is what you'd presumably call 'posh' just because they don't watch sport is beyond me.

ConstanceM · 28/04/2025 22:28

Sortofdontwantto · 28/04/2025 22:25

Same manufactures as….fruit and veg???

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What's your point? Do you read every fruit and veg label to see country of origin? No one does that. The UK snobbery around where you shop is bonkers.

WigglywagglyWanda · 28/04/2025 22:27

IdaPrentice · 28/04/2025 22:25

And crudites apparently 😂

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You've forgotten brocoli! That's just what you want cheering your team on😀

Firefightress1 · 28/04/2025 22:27

IdaPrentice · 28/04/2025 22:25

And crudites apparently 😂

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Any footy match I've actually gone to has pies and hot dogs and chips! Never seen any crudires thank feck!

Crystalmae · 28/04/2025 22:27

She’s not a friend op- friends aren’t that rude.

Sortofdontwantto · 28/04/2025 22:26

I think the ad on this page sums up the general appetising nature of Iceland food 🤢

It looks like plastic pretend food!

Offended by friend’s comments about party food
IdaPrentice · 28/04/2025 22:25

Gemmawemma9 · 28/04/2025 21:05

Fruit! While watching the footy
Fucking hell 😂 😂 😂

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And crudites apparently 😂

WigglywagglyWanda · 28/04/2025 22:25

Newnameforaday88 · 28/04/2025 22:11

I’m choosing my favourite smug comment as we speak 😆 unintentionally funny thread.
Op I love an Iceland buffet, can I come to the next one?

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It's so funny isn't it. Someone above mentioned Abagails Party which had me howling.

It's exactly how I'm picturing some of the scenarios 🤣

Sortofdontwantto · 28/04/2025 22:25

ConstanceM · 28/04/2025 22:23

It wasn't the last supper FFS. Get a grip, her spread was absolutely fine. Iceland is good stuff. Same manufacturers, different labels.

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Same manufactures as….fruit and veg???

Sortofdontwantto · 28/04/2025 22:23

McDonald’s is way better quality than Iceland generally.

Everyone knows Iceland is just beige/ brown cheap mass produced UPF. I wouldn’t be overjoyed at that as a buffet but I would have eaten it.

Maybe she was thinking more M&S party food. Which, whatever way you look at it, is a different ball game to Iceland!

Icanttakethisanymore · 28/04/2025 22:23

Everyone making the point that the party food was a not fresh etc seems to be missing the point that the alternative was to stop at McDonald’s. The Iceland buffet doesn’t sound great to me but if my friend invited me and my kids to their house to watch the football I’d have eaten it and been grateful.

lavendarwillow · 28/04/2025 22:23

I can honestly say McDonalds is far superior to Iceland. My grandparents always put on an Iceland buffet and it’s absolutely dreadful. The chicken was from China!!

ConstanceM · 28/04/2025 22:23

Trovindia · 28/04/2025 21:18

Honestly I would expect something fresh on there, some fruit and salad veg, but it was ok and I would just give the kids something healthy at home to make up for the lack on the buffet. They would eat pizza and chicken and sausages, not the rest of it though. I wouldn't allow them to be rude about food provided for them by a host.

It wasn't the last supper FFS. Get a grip, her spread was absolutely fine. Iceland is good stuff. Same manufacturers, different labels.

Perx · 28/04/2025 22:22

I wouldn't like to give my kids excessively processed beige food, sorry. And I wouldn't want to eat it either, so my kids and I would be hungry. I'd have to be actually starving to go to Maccies as an alternative. I think I would have said beforehand, "ooh yes what sort of party food, if you get meats and veggies, and I'll bring the cheeses and olives" Then if you said "no, mums go to Iceland" I'd know to feed the kids first.