Offended by friend’s comments about party food

I'm afraid I'd have struggled with that kind of food and wouldn't have eaten it. I find that processed breaded/fried food often makes me feel queasy and some of it (to me) has a horrible smell which is really off-putting.

So you would say "Yes I know darling, we will go to McDonalds later" loudly enough for the host hear when your child pulled a face?

Because this isnt about the food, its about the rudeness. Are you rude?

It’s all very dry and with a similar mouthfeel. And the dehydrated oven taste of it’s all the same.

i suppose McDonald’s has more than one texture but is very much the same salt taste.

I wouldn’t take it personally it’s not like you made it from scratch. Next time she can host

Same here!

"Here is the food its...."
"Dont care"
"But do you like..."
"If I didnt have to cook it, then I bloody love it, thank you!"

Straight to the point. Ignore all other comments (including mine).

@SunnyViper nails it

I don’t watch sport. Not everyone is interested in it.
The food was fine though. If I was going to do sandwiches I’d say I’d do sandwiches. If I said party food I’d mean nibbles like Iceland do.

This is true, my autistic son loves Iceland mini sausage rolls which have actual meat and they are genuinely better than the mushy mess version of mini sausage rolls that Sainsbury's serve up. UK people's are not experts, they just think paying more means better. Same as those idiots that ponce around in Land Rovers, anyone with half a brain who reads What Car, Parkers and Autocar will know utterly unreliable and facile they are.

Iceland food is shit but so is McDonalds so I don’t get her response.

I have reached a stage where I will happily scoff anything that I have not had to shop for , prepare and dish up, seems to taste so much better no matter what it is!

I would have loved to have come round to watch the footy and eat that buffet. Give me a shout the next time Liverpool are playing!
Seriously though, when someone has been kind enough to provide food for you, the correct response is 'thank you'. Every time.

Iceland party food wouldnt be my choice but it I were being hosted by someone else and this is what they had supplied I would eat it and be grateful to them for supplying food. My kids have also been taught that if you are at someone else's house you eat what is put in front of you without complaint as anything else it down right rude.

Don't host them again and supply food. If you do it again go for a pizza takeaway and share the cost!

What I think of as party food is Parma ham and melon, a few salads, cheese board with chutnies and grapes, hams, hummus, tapenade, coleslaw, baguette, breadsticks, olives…a baked camebert…

I’m sorry 😔 I wouldn’t eat Iceland party food, but I would just fake that I wasn’t hungry and my kids certainly know not to be impolite.

but so very odd that she would go to McDobald’s afterwards… so I think she is a rude cow and don’t invite her back.

I was a very fussy child, and I still struggle to eat fried food so I also would have not eaten anything.

But obviously not your fault and her response should have reflected that.

Your friend was extremely rude and encouraged her child to be also. Whether or not she liked the food, you do not say something when someone is hosting you.

Im personally interested to know what her issue was - although this isn’t really the issue. I wouldn’t invite someone round again who had ever behaved like this to me in my home. The child is different - I’d tolerate one of my child’s friends being ungracious and still invite them again. But a parent who is supposed to be grown-up and civilised? No way - they can find other churlish, entitled friends to be unpleasant with.

So mcdonalds is a healthy alternative...

As a small child, part of my 'social training' - if you like - involved learning to keep my gob shut and my opinions to myself when eating at someone else's house.
I must only have been about 5 when I made a rude comment about an elderly aunt's home-made rice pudding .I still remember it now-as well as the ensuing fallout when we got home🤦🏻‍♀️😂

It's the ultra processed beigeness that's off putting, not snobbery from where it is bought. Sainsburys and M&S sell shitty ultra processed sausage rolls too. I agree that people shouldn't be openly rude, and should not allow their kids to be rude, but forcing your kids eat crap for the sake of manners isn't right either. Normalising unhealthy food, saying it's OK to eat it so as not to offend, when you can just politely decline.

You need a second mortgage for a weekly shop in there! I travel 2 hours to shop at lidl and morisons and it's so much better!

There is no way I would go to a house and not bring some of the food. She was rude. They wanted a free dinner.

very rude, I would be more than happy to eat that given I didn't have to shop for it, pay for it, lug it home and get it all ready. Iceland might not be my first choice if I was catering but it is good manners to show appreciation when others have gone the trouble to entertain you

nice to add some crisps and cucumber /carrot sticks and maybe French bread /part baked rolls

but does sound like she’s a snob esp if going to M for chicken and chips

I have to admit I haven’t lately! I must pop in! 🤣 When I was at uni (ahem) years ago, it was definitely not top quality haha.

Abigail's party.

I live on a Scottish island and we avoid the coop at all costs! They have a monopoly and are expoiting rural communities. They bully the bigger supermarkets that want to come here. Aldi and lidl tried to open but were rejected due to complaints from the coop. It's a disgrace!

Exactly. Many hosts would have provided sandwiches, crisps/nibbles, drinks and that's it, or else ordered takeaway pizza. The op went to more trouble than that and Iceland food is fine, absolutely nothing wrong with it - some of it is actually very good. I'm speaking as someone who does the rounds of the supermarkets depending on what I fancy.