Offended by friend’s comments about party food

Jesus Christ Almighty God. It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks party food SHOULD be. There was simply no call for this woman to be so rude. Typical Mumsnet. Posters queuing up to distance themselves from the peasant food just in case anyone thinks agreeing the friend is rude infers that they would ever eat anything from an Iceland freezer.

id say to her tomorrow enjoy your maccy ds last night nothing like a healthy dinner

rude bitch

I wouldn’t have been too keen on quite such a random frozen selection - I think you maybe want to pick a continent and then provide some colour in the form of veg to go with it

but, a) there is no excuse to be rude when someone has provided food for you

and b) McDonalds is no better

Or invite better people.

What I think of as party food is Parma ham and melon, a few salads, cheese board with chutnies and grapes, hams, hummus, tapenade, coleslaw, baguette, breadsticks, olives…a baked camebert…

That isn't party food. It's "I can't be arsed cooking- are Waitrose or M&. S still open ? Here's my debit card, off you trot because I can't be arsed to go there" food. There's nothing in that list that shouts "Party Time !!!"

She sounds like an idiot, what was she expecting, it was party food / nibbles but she thought Mc Donald’s would be better!?!

My kids would have loved your hosting. This "friend" was extremely rude, snobby and unappreciative. If she had expectations to be met then it was on her to ask what you were putting out and then on her to say "I will bring a five bean salad etc etc" so that a dish of her liking were there to compliment what you put out. A friend would never be so rude. I'm pis*ed off for you. She belittled you. She isn't teaching her kids manners or respect. Even if my kids didn't like the food offered they wouldn't behave like that.

She's an obnoxious twat. I can't believe people here are commenting on whether they'd like the food as if that's relevant.

I don’t know if that’s what they were thinking of, I doubt it; I mostly just mean taste. Clearly they had different expectations of party food (as the thread shows) but under no circumstances should they have been so rude to a host.

She was incredibly rude.

It seems completely bizarre to look down her nose at food from Iceland but then go to McDs.

Personally, I'd eat either, but if you are so particular you couldn't possibly consider eating something from Iceland, then it would be very unlikely your "standards" could accept a MaccieDs.

Bizarre.
I'm not sure how you can bring it up, but I'm dying to know what she says, if you do manage it

I personally thing MacDs tastes better than Iceland, perhaps they do too. I don’t think the friend was necessarily passing comment on nutritional value, more just in general. I dont think frozen party food holds up well once cooked and then cooled, it probably goes a bit naff quickly. Point stands these people were bloody rude!

I did food like that once and because there were kids there it went down like a lead balloon. We ended up ordering pizzas for the kids (the adults like the buffet).

and genuinely if you look at the ingredients and processing of that food; it’s not good

It's not like they're eating it all the time though, is it?
It's putting on some party food for the football!
Pretty miserable to be thinking about balance and processed count at a party.

Even if I hated food at someone else’s home I would still thank them hugely for being kind enough to get it for us all! Especially if my husband and child were digging in! She sounds like an arse and I’d not be hosting them again.

My child wouldn't have eaten this because he's picky but I always bring snacks because I know he is picky.

I however would have loved everything you put out and even if I didn't I wouldn't have complained.

If you are that uptight about "party food", genuine question, why don't you host yourself?

If you have such "high standards", surely nothing will be good enough but what you are serving.

I just don't think people come across as superior as they think they are 😂

Still going on though, even after your comment! Alternative menus, I always do x and it's sooooo much better etc. I did smile at one poster who said her food "always goes down a treat" - i.e., her friends aren't rude and politely eat what she puts out.

Agree, but she went to McDonalds afterwards.

Crudités and dips are rubbish party food. You can eat the crudités without the dip [boring] but as a method of delivering the dip, they're rubbish so you end up with loads of uneaten dip. And then there's the horror of "double dunking".

I'd never serve them at a party [for purposes of demographics my party food comes from M & S , independent butchers , bakers and delis and very, very very occasionally Fortnum and Mason - not saying that to boast (ok maybe a little) just that I'd never serve crudités and dips]

Very rude! I would have scoffed the tempura prawns and mini pizzas if nothing else. It’s not like you were hosting a sit down dinner party. They wouldn’t be getting another invite from me.

This! Makes zero sense, just ignore!

They were rude and I wouldn’t have behaved like that but also a full deck of beige Iceland packets is quite shit and I wouldn’t want it either. That’s not snobby, it’s just like pp I also think party food includes sandwiches and crudités dip etc and genuinely if you look at the ingredients and processing of that food; it’s not good. I say this as someone who would eat it among other stuff from a buffet. However, nothing excuses such rudeness.

Thank you. I didn't mean it was raw, more that it might have cooled down. Some people serve sausage rolls, battered things, quiche etc cold, but cooked. Which I personally am not mad on.

I just thought that could be the only reason they had grounds to complain about it?

But I'm sure they were just arseholes and your food was lovely! X

Well great for you then gracefully decline the invitation and save the op going out her way to provide food for everyone....

Not sure if you can be snobby if you eat at McDonald's!