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To ask how to get DD off an escort agency?

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CKapron · 28/04/2025 18:41

Does anyone know how to fix this? DD(22) is being bombarded with phonecalls and WA messages from men asking what her rate is and if she's still working.
One of them said he'd found her number on a website so she googled her own number and found it on an escort agency. We're assuming it's a typo 😕 (she isn't an escort, she has a job).
She doesn't want to change her number, what else can she do?

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itsmeits · 28/04/2025 21:01

Ihateboris · 28/04/2025 19:09

Why doesn't she want to contact the agency? Why does she think it would cause trouble for her? Surely they'd be grateful you got in touch as it must be affecting their business?

DD set up the account to make extra cash.
It will cause trouble as she may get blacklisted from other escort sites.
DD is losing business (and money for her first house deposit) as DM read/heard/saw something on the phone, and offered to help the situation. DD fibbed it must be a mistake to throw DM off the scent.
@CKapron In all seriousness she needs to do something as this won't go away. They will change it if it's an honest mistake.

LudvillasCave · 28/04/2025 20:58

megacat · 28/04/2025 19:40

I would have thought this is the most obvious reason, since when did having a job stop someone escorting on the side? You’re being naive OP.

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This was exactly my first thought!

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CKapron · 28/04/2025 20:56

Arghh!

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CKapron · 28/04/2025 20:56

CKapron · 28/04/2025 20:55

Contacting the agency does seem the obvious response, but Gen Z generally interacting in unknown situations. She's much happier to email - she was assuming it would have to be a phonecall and didn't want to have to talk to yet another sleazy bloke.

Oops, that should hi ace said generally dislike.

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CKapron · 28/04/2025 20:55

Contacting the agency does seem the obvious response, but Gen Z generally interacting in unknown situations. She's much happier to email - she was assuming it would have to be a phonecall and didn't want to have to talk to yet another sleazy bloke.

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GiroJim100 · 28/04/2025 20:51

The daughter’s response is baffling and does suggest that she has worked for them before. There is no reason why you wouldn’t just contact the agency to advise them of this. Having the number changed would be a mutually positive outcome for all properties. So why would she not want to raise this? Unless……

ChickenBananas · 28/04/2025 20:51

Don't you find it sus that you haven't seen the advert yourself

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CKapron · 28/04/2025 20:49

She's fine, not scared. She's going to set up a temporary email address to contact the agency.

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OctopusFriend · 28/04/2025 20:47

If she's been doing this as pp have said, and has changed her mind or is scared for any reason, then she needs help.

Ihateboris · 28/04/2025 20:46

ChickenBananas · 28/04/2025 20:44

But have YOU seen it? Cos me thinks it's her tbh

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Me too.

ChickenBananas · 28/04/2025 20:44

CKapron · 28/04/2025 20:41

According to DD it's a woman in her 30s, photo nothing like DD.

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But have YOU seen it? Cos me thinks it's her tbh

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CKapron · 28/04/2025 20:41

ChickenBananas · 28/04/2025 20:39

Surely there's photos with the listing? Or stats like height bra size etc??

According to DD it's a woman in her 30s, photo nothing like DD.

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ChickenBananas · 28/04/2025 20:39

Surely there's photos with the listing? Or stats like height bra size etc??

Genao · 28/04/2025 20:28

CKapron · 28/04/2025 20:18

I think she's watched too many films where things escalate from something tiny.

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But what would be the escalation? They will want to actual receive the calls and get business. It’s in their interest to resolve it

AlertCat · 28/04/2025 20:27

CKapron · 28/04/2025 20:24

Yeah, I did. Some sort of blocker kicked in so I couldn't see the results, which speaks for itself.

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Come off your WiFi to get round that

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CKapron · 28/04/2025 20:24

DrUptonsGardenGnome · 28/04/2025 20:13

Have you googled her number yourself? Is it on an escort website? I would do that - it should help clear up what’s happened.

Yeah, I did. Some sort of blocker kicked in so I couldn't see the results, which speaks for itself.

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CKapron · 28/04/2025 20:20

Addictforanex · 28/04/2025 19:48

Maybe I have a suspicious mind but I wouldn’t be so quick to believe it is a mistake, especially since she doesn’t seem to want to have the agency correct it - that’s very odd.

Funny how the error turned out to the be the number of a 22 year old woman…. And not a 65 year old man.

But if you do genuinely believe her - then could she have an enemy who has done this to her maliciously?

Hmm, that's a point - maybe it is malicious. I do believe her - not just because she has a job, there are plenty of reasons.

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OctopusFriend · 28/04/2025 20:20

CKapron · 28/04/2025 20:18

I think she's watched too many films where things escalate from something tiny.

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Well, she needs to either stop watching films or learn to separate fact from fiction. It's a serious issue, but it's easily resolved. She needs to resolve it.

Game0fCrones · 28/04/2025 20:20

If she doesnt get it removed soon, the internet crawlers will be all over it and post it to all sorts of 'punter' directories.

TY78910 · 28/04/2025 20:19

CultureAlienationBoredomandDespair · 28/04/2025 18:58

The number of people who come on here moaning about situations where they’re not prepared to do the most basic thing to change baffles me.

This but also thinking the phone number is a typo is such a slim chance. Someone likely put it up out of spite. Has your DD split up with anyone recently? Has she looked at the escort ad?

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CKapron · 28/04/2025 20:18

CultureAlienationBoredomandDespair · 28/04/2025 18:58

The number of people who come on here moaning about situations where they’re not prepared to do the most basic thing to change baffles me.

I think she's watched too many films where things escalate from something tiny.

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OctopusFriend · 28/04/2025 20:17

Has she done this yet?

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CKapron · 28/04/2025 20:16

PinotDragon86 · 28/04/2025 18:56

Are you sure someone hasn't done it maliciously? Because if that's the case I'm pretty sure that's illegal. If its a genuine mistake then contact the agency and speak to them about the typo and have the number removed.
I know you said she doesn't want to change numbers but I would seriously reconsider as god knows how many people have now got access to her personal number....

I did ask her that, but she couldn't think of anyone. There's no way of telling for sure.

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Ponderingwindow · 28/04/2025 20:14

She needs to both contact the agency to get it taken down immediately and she needs to change her number.

With internet searches and archiving, a phone number links to a person almost like an id number. The longer this goes on, the more chance someone will search her in 20 years and get a link that suggests she might have spent time as an escort.

the only reason I’m not convinced she is lying to you is because I would hope most women would be smart enough to get a second phone number for escort work.

DrUptonsGardenGnome · 28/04/2025 20:13

Have you googled her number yourself? Is it on an escort website? I would do that - it should help clear up what’s happened.