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Pesto in lunch box - nut free school

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Franxie · 28/04/2025 17:52

I’ve got a friend who has twins my kids class, they are reception age. She doesn’t let her kids have school lunches as she doesn’t think they are healthy.

Today I asked her daughters what they had for lunch and they told me a croissant, mum clarified it was a croissant with pesto spread inside, chicken, mozzarella and tomato slices.

The school is nut free so I said oh doesn’t pesto have nuts in it, she said it was fine, I said it’s really not allergies can be deadly and she insisted it was fine, school never pays attention, it’s healthy and if school ever do ask she will say it’s nut free pesto.

WIBU to report this to the school?

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helpfulperson · 29/04/2025 18:58

NeurospicyMummy · 29/04/2025 18:47

Where on earth have you read that allergy charities don’t think it’s helpful? Utter nonsense

School Nursing Service advise. It most certainly isnt utter nonsense. It creates a false sense of security.

Dinosaurshoebox · 29/04/2025 18:54

NeurospicyMummy · 29/04/2025 18:47

Where on earth have you read that allergy charities don’t think it’s helpful? Utter nonsense

Allergy UK being 1.

Pesto in lunch box - nut free school
minnienono · 29/04/2025 18:49

Most shop pestos do contain other nuts unless she’s buying premium products. I only released there were cashews in the brand I buy when I thankfully checked before cooking for a child with nut allergy

NeurospicyMummy · 29/04/2025 18:47

Notanyreason · 28/04/2025 17:57

Not even the allergy charities think nut bans in schools are helpful. My dd school tried to tell us what our dc could have for breakfast !!! Asked all parents to avoid anything with nuts.

Where on earth have you read that allergy charities don’t think it’s helpful? Utter nonsense

Grammarninja · 29/04/2025 18:22

Coffeeishot · 28/04/2025 17:57

Yeah pine nuts are seeds it's fine.

Aren't loads of nuts actually seeds though? Cashews, almonds etc.

KeepTalkingBeth · 29/04/2025 18:14

Or maybe you need to read the thread @Meltdown247

Meltdown247 · 29/04/2025 17:52

Franxie · 28/04/2025 17:52

I’ve got a friend who has twins my kids class, they are reception age. She doesn’t let her kids have school lunches as she doesn’t think they are healthy.

Today I asked her daughters what they had for lunch and they told me a croissant, mum clarified it was a croissant with pesto spread inside, chicken, mozzarella and tomato slices.

The school is nut free so I said oh doesn’t pesto have nuts in it, she said it was fine, I said it’s really not allergies can be deadly and she insisted it was fine, school never pays attention, it’s healthy and if school ever do ask she will say it’s nut free pesto.

WIBU to report this to the school?

You need to get out more. Or maybe you need to get out less and educate yourself on what a pine nut is.

saffy2 · 29/04/2025 17:41

You can buy nut free pesto, the expensive sacla one I think it is. I used to buy it for my daughters packed lunch at forest school because they were but free. It looks and tastes exactly the same. People would have looked and assumed it was the one with cashews in but it wasn’t and I knew it was fine. If someone had said what you said I would have responded with ‘it’s fine’.
its very very easy to buy pesto with only pine nuts in. So I would assume you were being a busy body to be honest and wouldn’t elaborate when you were insinuating I am behaving badly.

CasperGutman · 29/04/2025 14:33

Most commercial pesto is made with cashews rather than the traditional pine nuts, for cost and availability reasons. Belazu and Garofalo are two brands that use pine nuts, but it's actually surprisingly unusual. I've just checked products from Filippo Berio, Mutti, Sacla, Barilla, Ocado, M&S, Daylesford Organics and Realfoods by Organico and they all use cashews.

In fact it doesn't sound like it matters either way as pine nuts can still be a problem and if nuts aren't allowed schools would be wise not to allow pesto as obviously they can't check the ingredients.

Obviously the above brands are mentioned for illustration only. Check the labels on any products you buy if you need to avoid cashews.

MrsMitford3 · 29/04/2025 14:14

I also have a tree nut allergy and am very very allergic to pine nuts.

I take exception to the posters saying that they are seeds and so it is fine.
I was told tree nut allergies often include pine nuts-they are one of my worst triggers.

You only have to google to read horror stories of ppl dying because of other ppls cavalier ignorance.

@Franxie I am disappointed that your friend is so selfish & unconcerned about putting pesto in a school lunch.
Obviously if the rules are inconvenient for her then she doesn't have to follow them.
I assume if it potentially impacted her DC she might be bothered...

Plumberneeded · 29/04/2025 07:28

Even though they were absolute classic symptoms of anaphylaxis I might add…

Plumberneeded · 29/04/2025 00:56

CassandraWebb · 28/04/2025 23:46

@WhereIsMyJumper this screenshot may also help illustrate the point.

It is also sobering that 20% of severe reactions at school happen to children with no prior history of anaphylaxis.

It's worth all school staff getting training to identify the signs of anaphylaxis and what to do. For instance I have had to explain countless times that you don't move a child with an allergic reaction. Even walking can make their reaction much worse. Bring the EpiPen to them

The lack of knowledge extends to hospitals unfortunately. I had an anaphylactic reaction to medication which was being administered in hospital. The nurse asked me to run across the room to the oxygen! They also refused to administer an epipen even though I repeated asked (gasped) for one.

Luckily all was okay in the end. I read medical reviews on the topic and apparently my experience is (frighteningly) common even in a medical setting. I did know what was happening as I have an allergic child and knew the symptoms but they weren’t so obvious to the medical staff.

caringcarer · 29/04/2025 00:29

With do many other foods the kids could eat it's stupid and selfish to take the risk. I'd be telling your friend this. If one of her kids had the allergy she would think differently. She could put another DC at serious risk.

hoarahloux · 29/04/2025 00:25

Redhotspicywine · 28/04/2025 23:18

Pine nuts are seeds so this is a non issue. Plenty of brands don’t contain cashews - and plenty of parents make their own pesto!

Oh please, please read the fucking thread. I posted the very first post saying "well, they're seeds so not usually an allergen" and was very quickly schooled by a number of pine nut allergy sufferers who I hope are campaigning for schools to include pine nuts in their widespread nut ban.

Manxexile · 29/04/2025 00:23

Sainsburys Taste the difference pesto contains pine nuts and no cashews. the only allergen listed on the ingredients is milk.

However, the ingredients also states that the product is unsuitable for people with a nut allergy because of the method of manufacture.

CassandraWebb · 29/04/2025 00:13

CassandraWebb · 28/04/2025 23:46

@WhereIsMyJumper this screenshot may also help illustrate the point.

It is also sobering that 20% of severe reactions at school happen to children with no prior history of anaphylaxis.

It's worth all school staff getting training to identify the signs of anaphylaxis and what to do. For instance I have had to explain countless times that you don't move a child with an allergic reaction. Even walking can make their reaction much worse. Bring the EpiPen to them

Forgot to attach the screenshot!.

Pesto in lunch box - nut free school
StarTwirl · 28/04/2025 23:48

I mean how would you both feel if a child died because of this stupidly selfish woman feeding her DC pesto at school.

People underestimate how dangerous this could be

CassandraWebb · 28/04/2025 23:46

@WhereIsMyJumper this screenshot may also help illustrate the point.

It is also sobering that 20% of severe reactions at school happen to children with no prior history of anaphylaxis.

It's worth all school staff getting training to identify the signs of anaphylaxis and what to do. For instance I have had to explain countless times that you don't move a child with an allergic reaction. Even walking can make their reaction much worse. Bring the EpiPen to them

CassandraWebb · 28/04/2025 23:41

WhereIsMyJumper · 28/04/2025 18:43

I do wonder, if someone has an allergy to nuts so severe that a child in the same school as them eating pesto could cause a threat to their life, how on earth do they manage to navigate being in other public places?
How would you know that the packed lunch the family brought to the farm trip on the same day didn’t contain nuts?
What if they were in the cinema and someone had some salted peanuts on the go a few rows back?
Can they ever set foot in a supermarket? Or is it ok as long as they avoid the aisle that sells nuts?

The distinction for me is that when I am with my child I can monitor them for any reaction, and at the first sign of any reaction they can tell me easily. And I have don't lots of training on and learning about anaphylaxis and will feel very comfortable to make the decisions that need to be made

Whereas when my daughter had a reaction (to milk) recently in school, she first had to realise she was having a reaction, then get a friend to get help (because of course she shouldn't move), then it was a horrible stressful time for the school staff while they waited for the ambulance.

The rules (for all allergens) need to be extra tight at schools not just to protect the children with allergies but also to protect their peers and teachers from a horribly stressful situation (at best) and a fatal tragedy and the intrusive investigations that go along with it at worse

I cannot imagine what it must have felt like, and still feels like for the staff who cared for Karanbir Cheema (Milk allergy -died), Benedict Blythe (milk allergy-died), Maizy Harman (egg allergy -severe anaphylaxis but survived) and those are just a few examples. What I do know is how scared my daughter's teacher sounded when she rang me. And how relived they were when I said I could get to school quickly.

CassandraWebb · 28/04/2025 23:31

nyancatdays · 28/04/2025 20:56

@CassandraWebb Ah v interesting- I take back my comment about milk being less anaphylactic then! I guess a lot more more kids have a milk intolerance, so a smaller proportion of them will be anaphylactic, but that still produces a greater number of fatal anaphylactic reactions than the ones who have the same from peanut allergies.

I wonder if that’s because peanut allergies are better known about, so it’s more likely that kids and caregivers will have an EpiPen and know what to do in an emergency? Plus of course peanuts are much easier to avoid than milk, less risk of mislabelling than if you’re trying to avoid milk which is in everything, etc.

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I don't understand why you think people with nut allergies are more likely to have EpiPens?
Heaps of children (and adults) carry EpiPens for all sorts of allergies
My children are anaphylactic to milk, egg, kiwi, lentils

I am anaphylactic to lentils and seafood.

Some people have intolerances to lactose in milk (for instance) but that's not the same as having an anaphylactic reaction to the milk proteins

SkiAndTravelTheWorldWithMyDog · 28/04/2025 23:23

I have a nut allergy and can eat pine nuts and pesto.

Slightlyperturbedmummy · 28/04/2025 23:20

WhereIsMyJumper · 28/04/2025 19:00

Everyone keeps repeating the ‘pine nuts are seeds’ bollocks and the ‘pesto has cashew nuts in it’
Yes, we know. This has been said a dozen times already.
But can’t someone answer my question above please?

It's a constant risk but it's nice to think kids can go to school without worrying they might die that day!

Redhotspicywine · 28/04/2025 23:18

Pine nuts are seeds so this is a non issue. Plenty of brands don’t contain cashews - and plenty of parents make their own pesto!

Caerulea · 28/04/2025 23:12

Takersandgivers · 28/04/2025 21:39

My son is specifically allergic to pine nuts, had a reaction to just eating pasta that had been mixed in a bowl with pine nuts. As they are classed as a seed and not in the top 10 they do not need to be listed in bold on the back of packaging (in Ireland). It’s scary to think parents think it’s okay to send their child in with pesto to school and we had this exact problem when he was in his first year of school and the school had to send out a message to the parents in his class. So yes I would definitely report to the school

It's so stressful isn't it! Pine nuts didn't used to be common at all but they are on the increase. DH bought a pizza with them on by accident - thankfully my son re-read the ingredients & caught it before I ate any.

Once had a meal out & when the chutney arrived it had bloody pine nuts in it! Probably the only time I hadn't let them know about my allergy lol. Typical.

Crispynoodle · 28/04/2025 23:12

Throwaway75 · 28/04/2025 18:00

Ive been a lurker on Mumsnet for several years and created a profile JUST to reply to this.

Absolutely yes - I'd you have a nut allergy you can go into anaphylaxis through eating pine nuts.

I have a tree nut allergy.
I am severely allergic to pine nuts (in fact it's one of the "worst ones for me, only behind pistachio and cashew)
I have had a severe reaction to pesto (yes SPECIFICALLY pesto on pasta) that resulted in hospitalisation.

Thank you you were right to post I’d have never known otherwise