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Fed up of neighbours side door always open!!!

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exceptionale · 28/04/2025 17:40

This is the 4th summer we’ve lived in our bungalow now and I am really fed up of listening to the elderly couple next door’s noise.
they have their kitchen door open for 6 months a year and they seem to spend 90% of their day in the kitchen. They are both nearly 80 but they seem to have rediculous amounts of energy and barely sit still, the phone is always ringing, they shout down the phone when talking to people. The radio and Tv is on loud and it’s bloody annoying!!
the problem is they are very nice people but they are pissing me off because in my opinion it is inconsiderate but they clearly don’t think it’s unusual to hear neighbour noise all summer long. We bought a detached house thinking we would hear less of our neighbours but with these people we hear them more.
The thing is they probably wouldn’t mind listening to us all day but that doesn’t make me comfortable with it.
AIBU?

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Sofiewoo · 28/04/2025 17:51

They’re talking, answering the phone and watching tv. This is a you problem.

faerietales · 28/04/2025 17:50

exceptionale · 28/04/2025 17:49

They’re nearly 80. Crazy energy and I’m wondering when they’ll slow down which will improve my summers immensely!

Edited

Why should they ever slow down?

FIL is 80 and spends all summer with his door open pottering about the house and yard.

saveforthat · 28/04/2025 17:50

Wishywashylaundry · 28/04/2025 17:47

60 years old is not that old surely?!

Mmm that was op's point.

faerietales · 28/04/2025 17:50

Wishywashylaundry · 28/04/2025 17:47

60 years old is not that old surely?!

She means they’re 80 but act 60.

exceptionale · 28/04/2025 17:49

They’re nearly 80. Crazy energy and I’m wondering when they’ll slow down which will improve my summers immensely!

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BankHolidayBonanza · 28/04/2025 17:49

YANBU

start playing loud music. They might realise you can hear THEM and it's annoying.

Sadly, some people have no manners and no respect for anyone.
On the plus side, they are annoying but they could be so much worst!

faerietales · 28/04/2025 17:48

We have our back door open all day from about April to September and so do all our neighbours 🤷‍♀️

People are never going to live their lives in total silence. It’s just something you have to put up with when you live in a built up area.

Aizen · 28/04/2025 17:48

Train a rat to go in their kitchen door.

Wishywashylaundry · 28/04/2025 17:47

exceptionale · 28/04/2025 17:41

AI also BU to question when people that age tend to slow down a bit? Stay inside more? Feel the cold more? They’re like 60 year olds!

60 years old is not that old surely?!

MumChp · 28/04/2025 17:46

Put on your favorite tv programme and move on.

SunshineAndFizz · 28/04/2025 17:46

I’d find that pretty annoying.

HopingForTheBest25 · 28/04/2025 17:45

I don't think there's anything you can do here - it's one of the downsides to living in close proximity to other people. They have every right to do what they're doing, even though it's annoying.
You could return their noise level by having your radio on all day etc , which might distract you from their noise and also make them aware of how sound travels.

exceptionale · 28/04/2025 17:44

Iudncuewbccgrcb · 28/04/2025 17:43

Get some noise reducing ear plugs.

The best advice ever on mumsnet!

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CruCru · 28/04/2025 17:43

Honestly? Play some Vivaldi or similar so you don’t notice them as much.

Iudncuewbccgrcb · 28/04/2025 17:43

Get some noise reducing ear plugs.

exceptionale · 28/04/2025 17:41

AI also BU to question when people that age tend to slow down a bit? Stay inside more? Feel the cold more? They’re like 60 year olds!

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