Fed up of neighbours side door always open!!!

Joyce, I agree with Miriam. Your son in law is the devil incarnate and needs castrating.
Ken, blimey, you think Jerry would have learned his lesson after the last op, but he never listens to anything the consultant says, does he?
Hours of fun 😂

You Are Being Unreasinable (YABU)

You’re a nasty piece of work you ain’t ya! Good luck to them I hope they turn their radio up a lot louder this year!

The best thing you can do is accept that other people are allowed to live their lives. None of what you've described is anything other than the sound of people happily going about their own business. And you say they're nice people, too. Leave them alone, OP. They're not being inconsiderate but you're not being very nice.

If my Dmum and her mates are anything to go by you’ve a few years yet! Not sitting down is key. Her group are 81-88 and all like 69 year olds. One still skis!

I hope they have many healthy, sprightly summers ahead of them.

Would it be better if they were 30 something with young children running in and out? Or do you just want silence.

I can empathise OP. Have elderly neighbours one side. Always in their garden in summer and peer over our fence often as they’ve planted stuff that grows on their side of the fence and apparently needs constant watering / nurturing. They give us unsolicited advice about gardening and other stuff. My DH is much better than me at humouring them, but as a private person I just say “hi” and run in the house as fast as I can. Keep doors closed too. I’m a miserable cow - lol.

Seriously - they’re probably a bit lonely as they have no family locally…perhaps the same for your neighbours OP. I would willingly be there for the neighbours if they needed me in an emergency, but can appreciate your need for peace, quiet and privacy.

On a happier note (you’ll be pleased to hear 😂), I’m taking notes here, leaving back door open regularly for fresh air is obviously the life giving force here! They sound fabulously fit for 80 year olds! Sorry OP, looks like you’re going to have to buckle in for a while yet haha. I have 6O odd years olds next to my detached house and it drives me a little mad when everything is flung open and they’re playing extra loud with their young grandkids whilst I’m wfh so I can only imagine the annoyance of it being a regular thing! Poor poor you! 😅

Just move.

Your neighbours could soon pop their clogs and a new even noisier couple/family could move in their house.

I can’t imagine being this hysteric over my next door neighbours having their door open. What are you doing with your days? Do you work? Do you have hobbies? Or do you just sit and wallow from the sound of them talking?

Gosh maybe you live next door to my parents.
They have way more energy than me at 80. Garden is immaculate, home immaculate and they go out for walks and bike rides everyday. They are also a bit deaf.

if they are nice just tell them you can hear their entire life and the noise feels intrusive- could they close the door if they are on the phone or watching telly or turn down their volume. My parents wouldn’t mind being told if you said it nicely.

After your updates I don't think speaking to them would do any good.
If both your side doors open right opposite each other I'd put a radio on right next to the door when you have yours open (or even when it's closed) It'll cover some of the noise coming from them hopefully.

Nursery rhymes on loud might do it. Nothing more aggravating which it sounds like you might be about to find out :)

Is that not just normal life with neighbours? We live in a detached cottage with an older set of neighbours either side and I can hear them all the time in the Spring and Summer pottering about, listening to music, chatting while gardening etc. We all have our doors open all day. As long as they are not blasting rave music, have all day barking dogs or constantly screaming kids, I'd say it's a winner.

Get a mini WIFI speaker and put it near your own open doorway. Volume up loud! Lots of dance music and new stuff that they’ll hate. Maybe a bit of death metal too.

You actually sound unhinged now, not just nasty.
Shameful posts from you.

What a nasty thing to say

Not staying in was what made my parents live a long and active life. All the stay in not go out for coffee neighbours of the same generation moved to retirement flats and care homes.

my dm, in her 80s, used to get so annoyed with her much younger neighbour, always on the phone in the garden!
that is life i am afraid.
get used to it, sunny weather will cause the open door lifestyle

I suspect this will be DH in years to come. We’re 59, I can see him still playing Anarchy in the UK by the Sex Pistols on top volume on his Sonos sound system with the doors open.

My DH is 71 & getting rather deaf (too many hours spent at gigs with his ears pressed close to speakers!), he also has tinnitus. This is so him! Plays Pink Floyd, The Who, Ian Jury, David Bowie etc as well as the TV at full volume. He's also a fresh air freak so has back door & all windows open in all but the most inclement weather. I often come home from work & can hear his music blaring as I approach. I go into the house to turn it down & shut doors saying 'FFS DH I could hear that half way down the road!'.

I've suggested that he get his hearing tested, but he won't consider it saying that he doesn't have a problem, just likes his music loud.

But then we live on an estate for over 60's & most of our neighbours are fairly deaf anyway.

Sounds dreadful, I was more imagining a Mrs Bucket type thing in this situation, tbh from what op said.

I would laugh too, if I had not experienced myself from my vile drug dealing alcoholic neighbours. Just be glad you haven't experienced it yourself.

Can’t believe I’m reading that OP wishes her neighbours were more infirm and elderly? Because they inconvenience her?

Good grief.

"Perfomative neighbours", just laughed out loud at that one.