Why do so many people get married at stately homes?

What an odd thing to say.

How many modern brides do you think are actually pretending that?

No really an answer, is it?

What a strange question!

Why do some people have quiet registry office weddings and then a reception at a restaurant?

Why are some weddings outdoors with a barn dance in the evening?

Why do some people get married on Brighton Pier and then go for fish and chips afterwards?

Why do some couples get married in an Art Deco cinema followed by a reception in a village hall?

Why do some people get married in Vegas?

I have been to weddings fitting most of these descriptions (plus church, stately home and country house hotel weddings) and all of them were lovely.

Quite simply: the couple chooses what sort of wedding they want to have, and the guests decide whether they want to go or not 🤷🏼‍♀️

I think it’s weird they are pretending to be virgins in white, though

I had mine in a stately home and honestly it was the easiest wedding ever - everything included and you just went to tastings for food/drink, were presented with decoration options, and turned up on the day with everything done. Included in the package was everyone staying at the venue too, so everyone had a nice room and could pop back whenever they liked.

My friends who have had marquee weddings have ended up spending more, had a nightmare organising everything, and a less attractive venue (imo - a marquee in a field usually).

I would highly recommend a good stately home for a wedding

I got married at a local hotel because we needed somewhere small enough, plus Mr Badknitter is more into alternative religions than Christianity.

It’s hard to find a venue big enough to host of you are from a large family. We had 80 during the day with 40 more at night. Plenty of marquees which I really didn’t want and a couple of hotels were our only reasonably local options but there were plenty of castles to choose from. The castle we chose was far cheaper than the hotels too. The photos are obviously better the generic ‘hotel wedding’ photos too.

We were married in a church so it was just a reception venue we were after.

They are nice, and you can have the whole day there. Ceremony, wedding breakfast then the party later on. Some have accommodation so people travelling can stay there too.
My sister got married to her husband at the private school he used to go to, so he had a connection to that venue. They also had the whole day there.

I have been to a church wedding where we then had to travel to a pub whilst the couple had photos done, go to another venue for food, then another again for the evening do. It was a pain in the bum.

Equally as a guest I would know in at least a year in advance where the wedding is and be prepared to pay silly prices if I want a drink

I guess because of the whole package offers however they are dull as ditchwater & next one same as last despite the bride & groom believing it to be unique to them. In the last 5 years I’ve been to 6 weddings at the same venue & I can’t remember which wedding was who’s they were all the same standard of bland

What a dumb question

Because they’re pretty and offer wedding packages 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don't know anyone at all who got married at a stately home.

I would imagine that the people who choose them like them because the surroundings are attractive and they offer good wedding packages and have lots of lovely places for photos. Not really any different from getting married in a country house hotel, is it, so I'm not sure what the issue is.

I loathe the concept of aristocracy, but ultimately stately home is simply a business with an owner and employees and I really don't think that a business that happens to be owned by a random lord is any worse than a hotel chain owned by a Russian oligarch or something.

And unless people visited them and/or paid for events there, they would just end up being sold off as hotels - and therefore hosting weddings anyway - or would fall into disrepair. Some properties would end up going up going to the National Trust but the NT's funds aren't unlimited.

Who says it has to be a princess style dress? Plenty of slimline white dresses?

Yep I was invited to a wedding at stately home, barely any food and had to buy all of our own hideously priced drinks.

If you want to posh wedding you need to actually be able to afford it and think about your guests not just the photos

I've never quite understood the allure of big, extravagant weddings. Even as a child, I never dreamed of one. To me, a wedding is an intimate moment between two people—a celebration of love, not spectacle. I always imagined something simple, perhaps just a small gathering with family and a few close friends.
When I got married, circumstances made that simplicity a necessity. As an immigrant, far from my family and without much money, we held our wedding in our tiny apartment, surrounded by a dozen dear friends. The entire affair cost around five hundred pounds, including my dress and my husband's suit. The only thing I wished for was my parents' presence, but beyond that, I wouldn’t change a single thing.

Do you think women wearing traditional wedding dresses are weird for pretending to be princesses?

Because they are pretty and have the wow factor many want these days, and they offer packages and do all the organising so couples don’t have to.
I’d never pay those prices myself but many couples want big weddings with beautiful photos

Why do you think it's strange for people to get married where they want ? I got married in an old stately home that is now a hotel with fabulous gardens. we were able to book the whole venue out it wasn't impossible to get too. 10 mins drive off motorway. most of our guests drove an hour max. plenty of room for everyone to stay and park. ceremony reception photos everything on site so allowed us to have it later in day and no travelling to different church and reception for guests. it was amazing. I specifically didn't want the generic church then hotel function room wedding which is more common where i live .

Because they want to and the local tip doesn't have a license?

I got married in a castle. It was local, familiar to most of the guests and easy to get to. We didn't get the whole package and had the meal and the evening do elsewhere. The upper classes didn't get a penny it went to English Heritage and we got some lovely photos.

They're nice settlngs for a nice day.

That's it. It's not complicated.

Registry offices don't include the meal, you can't get married in a church if you aren't religious and you can't get married in the pub. Meanwhile many big house-type venues have registrar arrangement and are licensed to marry people, plus they are used to catering for large numbers at once.

What a daft question.

They are big so have large rooms big enough to accommodate 100/150 people together.

They have large gardens in which people can congregate. Nicely designed gardens that are beautiful.

They tend to be very beautiful and build with design in mind.

They are available to book as the owners rent them out.