Son being targeted

How many times will you let him be bitten before you move him .

Biting isn't normal
Mine have autism,they would not of bitten,I would of not stood for it .
Standards are to low these days
The nursery need to assure you your son is safe
They need to have a member of staff with the boy at all times,or they ask the biter to leave .
Failing that you remove your son from the nursery

Your child could have PTSD from this

Already replied but I just wanted to add something to the posters who are commenting on whether this is normal or not. Firstly it is quite common, just because you haven't experienced it doesn't mean others haven't either. Secondly it's of no relevance if it's normal or not. The fact is a child is biting OPs child. If that was the first baby in the history of the world to bite another baby, the predicament remains the same.

They absolutely should provide a 1 to 1 for the biter, however that messes with their staffing.
It’s a constant, known risk to
the other children.
It’s not unknown for some children to bite, but not all the bloody time.

I've been on both ends of this - one DC was a biter and one was a bitee. What I reminded myself was that although it was not nice for my children, biting is a common development phase and part of the normal pattern to learning how to communicate and explore.

I think you are currently doing all you can. Raising the issue with the nursery, asking what they are doing about it and allowing them time to resolve it. Make sure you are following it up with nursery and ensuring they know you hold them responsible not the other parents. They can't isolate the other child and that isn't resolving the problem or teaching the child the right methods of communicating and development. But they can put things in place to split up children that are being targeted from the biter etc.

My youngest was the one being bitten - similar situations. She'd be playing and the other child would bite her for no reason, or walking passed and bitten. It was never the same situation so very difficult for the nursery to predict. 1:1 was impossible but they usually had one member of staff shadowing and responsible for the child at any time - prioritising supervising the biter over other tasks. I think it went on for about 6 months - probably one bite a month to 6 weeks ish. It took until my child to bit the other back before it stopped. Not really what we wanted but it worked.

They can't disclose the child's identity, and rightly so, given the tone of some of the replies here.

All you can do OP is keep pressure on the nursery. As you seem to already understand, they are in a very difficult position and have a duty of care to both. Your child should not be injured but they can't isolate or punish the child who is too young to understand. If only your child is being targeted they should be able to keep them apart at all times by making sure different staff oversees different children in separate groupings and never have them in the same group. They have a more difficult situation if other children are targeted too but as PP say, that's their problem and not yours. They will simply have to find a way as your child needs to be protected.

Yes but that’s not your problem

1:5 doesn’t mean safety is compromised .. is safeguarding compromised too ?

wth? I’d escalate , if that was my kid I wouldn’t be so relaxed

Is the biter around the same age as your child?

I don’t think biting is normal either, especially not so prolonged and targeted as you’re experiencing, my DD was never bitten or a bitter at nursery and none of my friends or family children were either.

I think it’s gone on long enough, I’d be asking for a formal meeting with the manager to discuss how they’re going to safeguard my child.

Of course!
I get why - and I’m sure I would too. I’m just saying that the way to get it handled is focussing responsibility squarely on the nursery .
who is biting your child is not relevant when it comes to making sure the nursey keep your child safe. The distraction will just let them dodge the point.

my son went through special schooling and lots of his peers had explosive or potentially aggressive behaviours. That taught me that you completely focus on the school meeting your child’s neeeds and not on how why or who is hurting them
I hope that makes sense

My DS (now 17) actually did that when he in reception. There was a boy who continually kicked him in the back during carpet time. DS would move, this child would follow. DS is autistic and so gentle and non confrontational, but one morning he just snapped, turned around and punched the boy hard in the eye. The kicking never happened again. DS has never hit anyone again.

I'd have spoken to his parents by now. If their child bites mine again then I'd bite them and see how they like it.

I second that and I actually think if he did, it would be a natural reaction if someone bit me, I’d punch them

How horrible for you and your son. It's horrible to see our little ones hurt isn't it.

Your poor son. Bites are so painful, especially hard enough to break the skin.
I think you are currently doing all you can as a parent- however if it happens again I'd have to consider taking him out. I know it is hard to constantly monitor biters and they can be quick as a flash, but I couldn't continue to allow DS to be put in that situation.

It isn't acceptable and I would be asking why they aren't keeping your child safe. Frankly if the biter isn't going to stop biting and the nursery are not in a position to monitor and police it they should be asking the biter's parents to make other childcare arrangements.

I don't think biting is normal. I have 3 children, now past the toddler stage and have only experienced 1 of my children being bitten, once. Not a single one of my children have bitten.

The first time, I could let go, but 3 times isn't ok. I would be calling a meeting for sure.

Then they need to monitor the biter like a hawk, 1 to 1 if necessary. If they can't do this, they should kick the biter out.

I think you’re getting distracted by the child doing the biting.
The only issue here is that your child has been hurt, the nursery are fully aware of how and why he was hurt and are continuing to fail to protect your son.

Go and see them / write and say exactly that and ask what they are intending to do to make sure your child isnt injured again given that the are currently failing in their obligation to take all necessary steps to keep him safe.

the other kid isn’t the issue, nor is he your problem. The nursery is.