Son being targeted

With a parent who bites other adults.
You think that wouldn’t be a concern?

Of course its normal. Just because some pp haven't experienced it themselves, doesn't mean it's not common. We are talking about toddlers who cant speak yet or control their impulses.

Don't speak to the parents, or 'teach your child to punch back'. Speak to the nursery and tell them that their approach isn't working, you're concerned that they can't appear to keep your child safe from a continued and known danger, ask them for a copy of their risk assessment for continuing to have a known biter in nursery, ask them foe next steps and also for plan b if those next steps don't work. Their staffing ratios are not your concern, it's their issue to work out.

One of mine had a biting phase at around 2, I was mortified, we worked with nursery and were consistent in our approach and it did work, but they were clear that if it didn't improve then they would have to take other measures and last resort looking at stopping the nursery place as the safety of other children is the most important thing

My husband was annoyed and upset then they banned him from the premises for saying he was going to take it further as we were on bite number 4 where he has come home with teeth marks in his nose. We removed him after that. Now looking back I wish i removed him earlier after bite 1. Nursery staff surely can be watching the biters and separating them, not leaving them all to their own devices to bite each other. We have two children and have used maybe 5 nurseries over the time when they were little and only had the biting issue in one place. I ca only assume they were lazy and not watching the kids

I would ask for a meeting as soon as they can tbh, and demand they either move the other child or your son to a different room immediately — enough is enough, they’ve had a chance to monitor behaviour etc and your son is still being bitten by this child.

And do you know what they'd find? Children who don't bite other children.

OMG, that thread has escalated. OP, it is obviously horrible for your child to be bitten, but please.... isolation???
My son was a biter till he was 4... we were the parents who were regularly told he had bitten again, they were monitoring etc. So glad that other parents' reactions as well as the nursery's were reasonable.
His biting suddenly stopped when the pre-school room moved to a new, much bigger room. I think he just felt very stuffy in the old room (it also got intolerably hot in the summer). He is now a early teenager who has never had as much of a warning in secondary school.
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Hopefully you’d then face criminal charges, and social services would investigate your suitability to parent a young child.

This happened to my son and he ended up with herpes virus and now has permanent cold sores for his life. We were so angry and ended up removing my son from there. Still anvry about it now.

There are not enough yikes in all the world.

Some of these replies are barking mad and acting like these are fifteen year olds, not fifteen month old children!

People saying ‘it isn’t normal - MY children never did it’ - just because your children happened not to, doesn’t mean it isn’t ’normal.’ It’s a stage of development and is usually linked to frustration when children lack the verbal skills to say what they want. IME it peaks at around eighteen months and tapers off then. Should have vanished altogether by the time the child is around three. My DS is now four and hasn’t bitten anyone since turning two and he was terrible!

The nursery need to get a proper grip on this. Even to the point of refusing his place. They will start losing custom if they are not careful.

Biting is not normal - it happens, but it is not standard behaviour.

I would be having a strong word with the manager.

I echo what others say, I don’t think it’s a normal part of development, certainly not my experience having two kids and friends kids.

Biting things is normal and lashing out and pushing or pulling another child if they have something they want is understandable and learning how to navigate situations, but to walk up to another child and bite them for no reason and to do this several times to several children I would say is more abnormal than normal.

The nursery have a duty of care you DS and I would be on the phone demanding a meeting and make sure they know this shouldn’t happen again. 1:1 if need be

Perhaps trust your instinct …

if my kid was bullied at school I wouldn’t really ask “up to what point is this acceptable?”

it’s worst for your kid as he can’t express how bad he feels! But effectively he’s bullied as it keeps on happening

if it doesn’t sound right, if it doesn’t feel right then it’s not right ! 🙂

Since when is biting normal?

I understand pp who have a toddler that bites might want to think it's normal but it really isn't.

There's a difference between "normal" and "it happens".

Op I would definitely ask for a meeting with the manager and ask how they plan on protecting your child.

Op ,you go in the nursery,for a meeting,you ask to see the safeguarding lead
You ask them what steps are they putting in place to keep your child safe
This biter is targeting your child ,so your child and the biter need to be kept separate.
How are they going to do this
Who is the point of contact for you to speak to each day to be assured your child hasn't been harmed .
You must go in like you mean business and that this situation is not acceptable

If you did that the teachers ot parents will call the police. Which is the right thing to do.

No, their parent.

Totally hear you
But we were all first time mums once
At some point he will start to not want to go ,that could spread to having problems with children in future and to problems with attendance at school.
Don't underestimate the damage mentally this can do .
You need to go in hard with the nursery
They are taking your money and not keeping your child safe

The police????

You'd bite someone else's child?

That’s what used to happen when we were kids (60s/70s). The kids never bit anyone again after that