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New partner over 40 grand debt

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Dontwanttobeapinkponygirl · 28/04/2025 10:48

My daughter has just found out that her very new partner has over £40, 000 of debt. There is nothing to show for the debt. No property, no car. Nothing. Would you advise her to end the relationship, which she’s wanting to do. My instinct is to tell her to run a mile.

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404ErrorCode · 28/04/2025 11:08

How did she find out? Did he volunteer the info?

Just wondering why he would disclose this in a new relationship - is he after money from your daughter?

orangegato · 28/04/2025 11:08

Run, fast. Sounds a liability. Make sure she keeps an eye on her valuables as well, sounds like a gambling addiction if he doesn’t actually own anything.

Hankunamatata · 28/04/2025 11:08

Yikes.
Does he have a very high paying job?

Roselilly36 · 28/04/2025 11:06

Doesn’t sound a keeper does he.

MinnieCauldwell · 28/04/2025 11:06

Been there, done that with an ex, get rid now!

toomuchfaff · 28/04/2025 11:05

Nothing to show for the debt - so he just spends outside his means then?

Yep run, and run very fast.

BeLimeTiger · 28/04/2025 11:02

Sorry to say this, but yes. Do you know where the debt came from? Failed business? holidays? addiction of some sort?

Packcold · 28/04/2025 10:57

If she wants to she should, regardless of what you tell her.

KrackerPolly · 28/04/2025 10:55

Yes of course. Where’s her self-respect?

Oreosareawful · 28/04/2025 10:50

She can end the relationship for any reason she wants. Why is she hesitating?

AllMyExesWearRolexes · 28/04/2025 10:50

Run. Like the wind. To the hills. Don't look back.

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 28/04/2025 10:50

Less run a mile, more get in a fast car and go 10 miles!
He may be a lovely chap, but this woud be a no-no for me

rubyslippers · 28/04/2025 10:49

😱😱😱
£40,000 of debt
yes - I’d be telling her to run a mile

TokyoSushi · 28/04/2025 10:48

Yep

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