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To not be honest with someone?

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Twinboymum2010 · 27/04/2025 22:46

I was seeing a guy for 3 weeks. He had lots to give, he lived local, had his own house, good job, nice etc
BUT
There were vital things missing. He had really bad breath, he kept his toothpaste in the shower and didn’t shower before work so I don’t think he actually brushed his teeth in the morning? Also sorry for tmi but he NEVER went down on me, ever, despite me hinting numerous times, I would always go down on him every time we would have sex and if I ever insinuated that I wasnt going to he would essentially shove my head down there or suggest I do it. I was going to ask him why he doesn’t do it but honestly the bad breath was a deal breaker for me. But problem is he fell pretty hard, I ended things beginning of last week and just said I wasnt feeling it but he keeps asking why and that he thought we were perfect together. We were only dating for a few weeks and I don’t want to be mean and hurt his feelings. AITA for not owing him an explanation?

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NachoChip · 27/04/2025 22:52

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 27/04/2025 22:50

“Shoving your head down there” is absolutely not okay. You owe him nothing. He can fuck off. Selfish twat!

Good point, this would probably do it!

NachoChip · 27/04/2025 22:51

I think the moment to mention the issues you've raised was probably when you were together. These being the reason you've ended it probably isn't ideal. I think everyone deserves some form of explanation but "the feelings aren't there" is explanation enough.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 27/04/2025 22:50

“Shoving your head down there” is absolutely not okay. You owe him nothing. He can fuck off. Selfish twat!

HarpSnail · 27/04/2025 22:50

You were seeing one another for three weeks. I wouldn’t give it another thought. Next time, ask yourself why you kept seeing and sleeping with someone with dubious personal hygiene and poor sexual manners for three weeks!

Poppyseeds79 · 27/04/2025 22:47

No, you don't own him one and it's unattractive that he's hassling you for one.