Finding it hard not to resent friend on benefits

She wont be on UC though. Her DH earn too much for her to be able to claim it. PIP is not means tested and is nothing to do with what her DH earns. If her PIP has just been reassessed and she is still getting the high rate, then she is still in need of it and also still disabled.

She is being supported by her DH. She is doing nothing wrong at all.

I am sure she wishes she didn't have the accident and had to have multiple operations. You sound like an awful friend.

My friend had a terrible accident and had to have several operations to repair it. She’s not worked for at least 3 years. She is well recovered now could definitely work but chooses not to as she has been on full pip & it’s just been renewed for another two years at the highest rate. It’s insane. She readily admits she’s lazy; she is a stay at home wife no children: hubby earns £150k plus a year so fully supported there. Plus PIP for pocket money. She also got 10’s of thousands in comp for the accident on top of PIP. This fact. I do wonder what to say sometimes to her. I really don’t think it’s for people like her who have savings, can physically buy chooses not to as her a husband to also support her

Will it stop though? I know people getting it as their kids are at university. And I don't begrudge it to them, the kids are working hard to build careers for themselves. They'll be high rate tax payers in the future.

Easily done init OP
Pop out 2 more kids and if you're in a relationship, kick them out.
Drop your hours to 15 hours a week and go live your amazing life.
Holidays to Egypt and amazing clothes off vinted 👏
You've really found the secret to wealth and happiness.
What are you waiting for?

They've been spouting the same nonsense all over the place. I'm glad it's not just me who's noticed.

Or brownie points from the patriarchy.🤨

All of their comments have been shocking TBH.
Totally empathy bypass. I am sure they could claim PIP for that.

I am going to start a punk-rock band, and call it that...TV, Tatts and Takeway! Fingers up to the system!

Thanks for that. I'm seeing a mile wide streak of misogyny there too, along with zero understanding of human relationships.

TV, tattoos and takeaway

Does channel 5 still exist? Sounds like a great name for a new benefit-bashing show.

Do you actually bet or are you just imagining things and then believing they are true because you imagined them? There's a lot of that on the internet.

Solipsism is shite. Get with reality.

As I said, just likes to be controversial.

So? That should certainly be doable. I bet they spend more on TV, tattoos and takeaway in that same period of time.

What's the alternative? Expect the taxpayers to provide ad infinitum?

There is little career progression for most careworkers. What would happen to all those in need of care, if all careworkers moved onto higher paid jobs at age 30?!

People can end up needing care at a cost of £250,000 pa (the most I have ever heard of is £600,000 pa). I am curious to know if your insurance policy covers costs on that scale for the rest of your life at £50 - £100 pcm?

£50 a month from age 20-35. That's 50x12x15. .I make that £9000. And double that for the other one.

A lot of jobs are not entry level. They are dead end. They also tend to be the ones most vital to the efficient running of society. The ones people clapped for during Covid.
The job I was in had no room for progression at all apart from up to supervisor. Much more stress for very little more money. A few of my colleagues went up to supervisor, just to come back down again after a year or so.

Some people are just not cut out for anything other than the lower paid jobs. And that is fine too.

I just want to know how much you would of hated me who had a child at 16 and didn't get a job till they started school 😂 I'm glad I was too stupid to know people thought this way it would of been a little depressing.

Also what would you of done if you had a child when you were young and dumb would you of killed yourself to not inconvenience anyone else? Just curious

People can do entry level work early in their working life, and move up, leaving the entry level jobs for junior workers.

To be honest, I’m not sure this poster even believes what she’s saying. She just likes being controversial.

It really sounds like that is what they are getting at, doesn't it.

If everyone has a ‘career’, who does the low paid jobs like retail work, nursery workers, carers etc? Or do those people not get to have children?

Not everyone is capable of a career. Or are you suggesting that people who do the vital but low paid jobs not have kids?

And in the case of OP's friend, she does have a career. She is still working, albeit less hours.

It's called "a career."

You don't have to work or look for work if you have a child under 3 (OP's friend's youngest is 2). She is working 15 hours though out of choice.

I am sure your friend would prefer not having to rely on benefits. She no doubt has to go to meetings about working more hours. Not every firm wants staff to be on more hours. It can be difficult for claimants.