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To think DH’s plans to career change are not wise

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NaomiFirstTimeMum · 27/04/2025 17:47

Hi all, DH has sat me down this weekend and told me he is unhappy in his job and is pro-actively seeking to change career once he completes qualifications he is taking alongside his existing job.

His current job offers him:
-a good salary and annual bonus
-hybrid working with a lot of flexibility
-generous sick pay/private health care
-generous holiday and pension contributions
-‘big’/recognised company so decent job security and he would have a good redundancy package if the worst happened.

He has been fed up for a while, he’s unfulfilled and there’s no real progression now (he has been unsuccessful in a few interviews over the past year).

He’s looking at an industry that would have earning potential in a few years which outweighs what he gets now, but he would definitely have to take an initial drop in salary and he’d lose the perks I’ve listed above including hybrid working so would have the cost of travelling each day, possibly out of our area.

I think we’d just about cope financially but we would have to put our plans to move house on hold until he was in a good position with any new job (not guaranteed of course that he will get into that position at all or for a while).

I know he’s fed up and not enjoying work but I just can’t get my head around him giving up everything I’ve listed.

For additional context, he is mid 30’s, we have one DC and I also work.

Any thoughts would be welcome.

OP posts:
HuffleMyPuffle · 27/04/2025 17:51

You would rather he be miserable? In a job which would continue to eat away at his mental health until he potentially has a breakdown?

Or support him in this change his being proactive about, which you can survive financially for the couple of years it will take to get him to a much better paid position?

Sounds like he has looked into it pretty carefully and knows what he's doing and you're just pissing on his chips tbh

Morningup · 27/04/2025 17:49

He is studying and pro actively taking steps op

I think you should support him

Lifeisinteresting · 27/04/2025 17:49

As someone to who stayed in my corporate job too long, support him, he’ll be a lot happier which benefits everyone in the long run.

Morningup · 27/04/2025 17:48

both work full time?
Is he the primary earner?
is this unhappiness with work seeping in to his general mood being unhappy and down?