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Why do mums do this?

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sissygirl23 · 27/04/2025 17:32

Constantly talk about their parenting style, rules and beliefs online? It’s exhausting and so dull. I have no issue with the way anyone parents their own dc, but I just don’t see why they feel the need to tell everyone else about it. The Tik Tok trend of ‘controversial ways we parent’ which never are really controversial, it’s all within the realm of standard parenting. Or ‘things I judge other mums for’ which is just gross.

But even people I know are at it - long winded explanations on instagram stories about how and why they don’t allow their dc screens while eating in public - again, don’t disagree but why do you need to tell everyone your rules? Why do you assume they care? I know someone who is apparently on a one woman mission to educate the entire world about the dangers of forward facing and internet usage in the under 13s. I’ve had to mute her.

Has this always been a thing? Back before social media did mums stop each other in the street to talk about their particular parenting style? Often in a oneupmanship kind of way as well.

With the exception of obvious neglect I really couldn’t give two shits about how others bring up with their own kids. It’s one of many reasons im thinking of coming off social media.

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NotSafeInTaxis · 27/04/2025 17:42

Most of us don't. Some people are going to talk shite online, be it about kids or dogs or art or politics...it's what they do.

MyUmberSeal · 27/04/2025 17:41

Because being a mum has become the most rancid , self congratulatory, narcissistic, self admiring, egocentric thing of all. I despair at the drivel that some mums sprout.

sissygirl23 · 27/04/2025 17:41

vincettenoir · 27/04/2025 17:37

It’s a good point given that most mums don’t bore on about this when we get together. But I guess some mums are trying to make it as an influencer. Not my cup of tea but if you can make some money out of it then maybe it beats working for a living. Content that is any way controversial gets a lot of hits and that’s what people need if they want to make a few quid.

None of it is controversial though! It’s just big standard stuff about limiting screen time or breastfeeding or house rules and that sort of stuff. It’s essentially stealth boasting about their parenting style but I can’t imagine why they’d think anyone would be interested.

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clarepetal · 27/04/2025 17:39

It's not just mums though is it? It's people posting everything they do. It's the people cleaning that makes me laugh, why the fudge do people want to watch how someone cleans?

vincettenoir · 27/04/2025 17:37

It’s a good point given that most mums don’t bore on about this when we get together. But I guess some mums are trying to make it as an influencer. Not my cup of tea but if you can make some money out of it then maybe it beats working for a living. Content that is any way controversial gets a lot of hits and that’s what people need if they want to make a few quid.

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