Why do mums do this?

I was actually going back further and perhaps should have quantified "back in the day" in my post. The 70's was certainly the start of the discussions/explorations you mention but prior to that it really wasn't a thing for "ordinary" people. Although I'm sure there was a small section of society (bohemian, intellectual perhaps?) that ascribed to it.

If there was one foolproof, perfect parenting strategy, we would all know it by now and then everyone else trying to make money out of parenting techniques would effectively be redundant. But there isn't. We have two children, 2 years apart, we are the same parents for both.

When we had our second we were cocky, we know how these babies/toddler things work, this one will be easy we thought.

Oh how we were wrong. Completely different personality, even very young, time out techniques, discipline, all the techniques that worked with the eldest, pah forget it rip up the instruction manual and start again!

And that's the thing isn't it, parenting is trying to be effective whilst adapting to the child you have not the one you think you should have.

And our two are the most genetically similar related people to each other in the whole wide world, and they are still so different in personality, and how to approach them to get the most effective result.

Yeah it’s all crap. Just don’t watch them OP

Time to wise up and stop wasting your life on Instagram or whatever bollocks. Influencers? Such crap. Why do you want someone influencing you? Earning vast amounts for utter rubbish.
And as for the one supposedly dressing her children in white and chucking paint etc. round to show us how well Fairy washes…. trot on dearie!

I’m criticising the need to broadcast your choices, I don’t understand the need for it.

Perhaps they are getting constant cristism for their choices and this is the reaction to go on about how superior their choices are.

I BF in hope of reducing allegries in my kids mostly - did stop periods for years and tehy came back much more noraml - but allergies it didn't work and many years after stopping the glee some family members had to my kids developing potentially life threating conditions was horrifying - oh look shouldn't have brothered bf. Few years after that it well it's your fault they have asthma - in both sides of family - as you didn't bring them up on a farm - none of us are farmers.

I wasn't a militant BF - just did defend my choice from family but it was mentioned more than it would otherwise have been just because so many people felt need to share their opinion.

It's possible this is for a few some extreme reaction to similar situations - god knows parents and mothers especially can often do no right in wider society and everyone and their dog has a view on how other people's kids should be brought up - maybe they are getting in first and not realising they are part of the problem.

Some people don't have a life outside their children/partner/house so it would be the only thing they talk about

But i don't get the feeling judged/angst over it 'some celebrity mentioned their child eats chickpeas and they have showed a video of their clean kitchen now i need to feel judged that i am a terrible parent my life is over now'

But i also think it is odd you having a problem about how people comment on MN a site designed for people to discuss things

This.

Most of us don’t.

Some people do some things. Nothing you can do about it except click away.

TikTok and the like is for folk that like talking about themselves.

And its rubbish

Just don't look at the videos. Plenty of funny cat ones to watch instead!

This. I only ever really view Instgram or Tik Tok via what my kids want me to look at. I don't think I've seen a single parent wang on about them being the first person to ever have a child.

We have easy, instant access to technology that means we can all make content of a reasonable..quality. Some of us are too humble, or too lazy, or too busy, or too self-aware and don't feel the need to share our opinions with the world. Some people probably think "my shit is just as worthy as half the stuff on TikTok"

And MN is about a lot more than parenting.

Perhaps you missed the bit where I said " built upon Mums connecting and discussing parenting......"

It isn’t just Tik Tok, it’s people I know IRL on Facebook and Instagram.

I said "Tik Tok and Instagram "
But the same applies with Facebook - you choose who you follow on Facebook.

If you think the content is ridiculous, why have them in your feed ?

Because nowadays people don’t talk to each other, and they just want to vent, or let their opinions be known somehow I’d guess some may even be hoping they’ll find kindred spirits

Why the fudge?

I assume the same reason some people have Instagram feeds that document cleaning their grout, or their ‘weight loss journey’?

So many things about social media aren't going to date well.

'Back in the day' parent was a noun, not a verb!

God knows OP.
.I have a 10 month old baby, I joined a few June 24 baby groups on Facebook thinking it would be nice to see other babies the same age growing up and seeing what is normal for babies the same age as mine as she is my first.

FUCK ME! I've never seen such childish behaviour from women who are actually raising child and should be more grown up. The constant crowing about their 'hot takes' and 'controversial opinions' the arguing in the comments, endless posts about their routines and how everything is tracked on apps even nappy changes!

It was mental. I left all of them.

I also work with a woman who we have all nicknamed mother superior because she's so holier than thou all organic blah blah blah as if the rest of us need to be educated.

I don't get it, I find it so childish, it's highschool behaviour which is ridiculous considering they're actually in charge of raising children.

"Mums" don't do this.

A small minority of people who like to post on Tik Tok and Instagram do this.

Then you choose to watch it.

I mean, I use both those platforms sometimes, but I have never seen that content. The algorithms are strong and you have obviously watched and reacted to them, so you get more of them.

However, it does seem ironic to post this on a site completely built upon Mums connecting and discussing parenting......

This is a very well known engagement tactic OP and it’s used in every genre of social media content.

“Controversial make up opinions from a professional make up artist”

”Controversial takes on interior design trends from an expert”

& none of them are controversial. That floods the comments with people saying they agree and/or it isn’t controversial. & some of it is rage baiting.

I don’t know any non influencer who post the long winded Instagram stories you mentioned. None of the Mums I know IRL post anything like that whatsoever.

As for who would be interested in that type of content…you could say that about absolutely anything. Why did you bother making this thread? Why did I bother replying to it? None of it matters & it’s not even very entertaining.

I disagree.

i remember my mum and her friends discussing the latest advice to minimise gender roles in their children.

who would buy young Kevin a doll. Would an action man do the job? I don’t want him having a Barbie. Jane down the road got an emergency vehicle set for her birthday, it’s supposed to be good for them to play with “boys” toys.

shame we’ve gone backwards.

my mom also remembers a lot of talk about how formula was better, it was more scientific, more hygienic, and you knew baby was getting enough. Discussion around how to suppress your milk supply as well.

also remembering when “hyperactivity” came into general parenting awareness and discussions around which E numbers to be careful of.

also a lot of talk about weight and if you should start your daughter on a diet.

that would be the 70’s.

^this! Definitely not just Mums

People love talking about themselves and oversharing online. So many podcasts which aren’t bringing anything new to the table