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Baby name drama

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ThisBrickCritic · 27/04/2025 16:05

So myself and my partner are undergoing IVF and we have just had our first (and only) embryo transfer. We are waiting to find out if the transfer was successful.
Myself and my parter have discussed baby names and have decided that if it's a boy, he will choose the name and if it a a girl I will choose. My partner is a different ethnicity and cultural background to me and has chosen a name that aligns with his culture if it's a boy. I'm not overly keen on the name, but it's not terrible. It's import to my partner so I'm happy to go along with it. No issues, anyway the name Ive chosen for a girl is a nice name that I feel is suitable for both baby, child, adult stages of life. My partner likes it too. Anyway the issue is my mother. She keeps making a point of saying how much she dislikes the name Ive chosen. As far as I can tell the only reason she doesn't like it is it's because it's the same name of my step dad's ex wife's Neice, it's quite a popular name and is not considered 'out there' or anything. It's honestly ridiculous. My mother has always been very critical of me and there is a part of me that feels I could of chosen any name and she would of made a point of telling me how much she disliked it.
Anyway, after the second time this week of telling me she doesn't like the name I've chosen and shaking her head at it, I snapped at her. I honestly do not care if she likes the name or not and quite frankly I'm not going to change my name choice.
I just don't know if I'm being overly sensitive. I'm on lots of hormones currently and I am quite sensitive and emotional. I feel a little guilty for snapping at her, but also feel I don't need her to tell me every time we bring up baby names how much she dislikes the name. Am I being overly sensitive about it?

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ExpressCheckout · 27/04/2025 16:14

I honestly do not care if she likes the name or not and quite frankly I'm not going to chance my name choice.

Good luck with the IVF.

You are not being over-sensitive. You are being bullied. If you and your partner are in agreement then that is all that matters!

You and your partner may need to also consider how you are going to manage the behaviour of your mother once the baby is born.

MadamCholetsbonnet · 27/04/2025 16:13

Oh dear! You NEVER TELL ANYONE THE NAME!!!

There will always be someone with “an opinion” and it’s generally not positive.

YANBU, but there’s nothing you can do now other than tell her to STFU.

TheOccupier · 27/04/2025 16:10

Kindly, yes I think you are being hormonal and over-sensitive. But under the circumstances, it's understandable. Hope the IVF succeeds 💐

LadyKenya · 27/04/2025 16:10

No Yanbu. Your Mother will at least have plenty of time to get used to the name, if you do have a girl. It is rather unfair of her to keep showing her displeasure at your choice, but unfortunately you cannot make her find the name acceptable.

ThisBrickCritic · 27/04/2025 16:09

Thanks for really helpful comment. Not really what I asked though....

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DownWhichOfLate · 27/04/2025 16:08

Bit odd to announce the name of a not yet conceived baby

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