Did I ruin family day out

Dont be ridiculous. It is offensive to people who are genuine victims to claim this is abuse.

Is this genuinely a first from him?

Or do you normally tiptoe around him to avoid triggering him?

How did he even get the tissues off the floor while driving.

It's a horrible thing for him to do and I don't blame you for being upset.

Ask someone you know to throw a tissue at your face, and then a brick. I promise you, you’ll be able to feel a very real physical and emotional difference.

Oh, of course it matters 🙄
You can’t actually even throw a tissue at someone. They just sort of… float.

It’s not about him needing more tissues, it’s about the fact that ANYTHING in the footwell of a car being driven poses a huge risk of a crash.

Well as l said upthread itdoesn’t matter whether it was a tissue or a brick. The amount of emotional damage is the same. Or have you just not bothered to read OP’s updates ? It starts with anger issues. Then a minor incident escalates similar to this, and is met, as in OP’s case with ‘l’d never hit you’. Then pretty soon you’re at the stage where each beating comes with a promise that it’ll never happen again. But you carry on with your laughing emoji responses because it’s clear this has never happened to you - if it had you would have recognised the early red flags.

That's not a normal reaction. Is he always so quick to anger?

It all sounds toxic, but how on
earth could a few tissues have really hurt your eye?
It’s hard to take any of this nonsense seriously.

I can’t get over the fact he was able to bend down and pick up said tissues while driving with a seatbelt on, if I drop anything it stays there until I stop

He says he will never hit you. (My DH has never said this to me - it is a given.)

Until he "swats" his hand accidentally in your direction and your face gets in the way. Then he will deny that he hit you.

If he gets away with that, it will be the slap you had coming, and it will be your fault, as with the current tissue issue.

He threw something at you, aggressively, for ( in my opinion) a manufactured slight, making it your fault that he got physical. And now he's refusing to help with the children FFS, andis saying it's all your fault.

He's testing the water and escalating.

Physically assault…..with a tissue.. omg the hyperbole is lunar. They had a spat in the car that’s it.

He should not throw anything at you. When he is calm tell him that is not acceptable and he needs to work on his anger issues. Surely he should have either wiped his hands before driving or just ask you for more tissues. This would be a red flag as you say he has lost his temper before. Scaring his wife and children is not ok.

What a load of victim blaming codswallop !! OP doesn’t need to apologise for anything. She was dealing with her child at the same time and placed them on his knee. When they slipped he could simply have asked for more. Instead he chose to physically assault and humiliate the OP in front of their children.

OP has updated to say she’s worried because the incident represents an escalation in his anger control issues. She clearly fears him. So it might just as well have been a brick as a tissue for the amount of damage inflicted on the relationship.

Complete overreaction from you to be honest. What you did was dangerous whilst driving . In that moment it is annoying and worrying its by your foot by driving!. Had god forbid there would of been accident then what? It would of been your fault as you placed the tissue on his knee but im sure you would of blamed him ?.

Assault with a tissue!! 😂

This is starting to sound like a Monty Python skit. What’s next the comfy chair?

This, right here, this.

This is not normal or reasonable behaviour. It is dangerous and abusive behaviour if he was driving a car (with children in it!) and he clearly upset his children, too, while he was having an unreasonable rant.

If he was driving having something fall down by your feet is super dangerous. Be panicked. He didn't "hit" you with a "tissue" did he ?

Yep. It’s absolutely not about the tissues. It beggars belief how many posters are focusing on this in attempts to minimise what is actually not only assault, but an escalation from anger control issues to physical abuse. OP has updated to suggest she fears him. Time to leave.

I genuinely can't imagine DH, even if he was in some hulk state if rage, ever throwing anything at my face.

I can however imagine his face if he saw a man doing that to his wife in front of children. But I bet your DH wouldn't ever do something like that in public.

OP you know this deep down, no good man would ever do that to you.

You both ruined the day.

I don’t know why you’d balance anything on the knee of a driver while they are driving, a tissue in the footwell can easily get tangled in the peddles or end up resting on a peddle which can be the difference between him being able to break or not which I’m sure you can see is very important for literally the lives of everybody in the car and everybody around you on the road. A tissue on the pedal could easily cause his foot to slip off when he tries to break. No idea why you’d put anything on a drivers knee and doesn’t sound like you’ve apologised for that?

He shouldn’t have had a go infront of the kids but I think you’re being a bit picky about the tissues, he didn’t throw a brick.

You both need to apologise.

I read them all and I think the hive mind is colluding with OP to make a minor spat into Mount Everest and we have passed the LTB point.

The OP is still sulking after angrily cancelling the rest of the day out because a tissue bounced off her face.

If the tissues hadn't fallen he would have found something else. It's not about the tissues.

Such a complete over reaction on his behalf regarding some tissues on the floor

So now you have an escalation to violence.
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He threw balled up tissues- he probably didn’t expect them to hurt you. I’ve voted YANBU, but I think you both overreacted.