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Did I ruin family day out

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Prinajdjd · 27/04/2025 15:45

DH, dc and I had just enjoyed a lovely meal and talking about future plans. We were on great terms and had a wonderful day. When we was driving home, we decided we didn’t want the day to end and would find something else to do. As we were driving DH asked for a tissue for his hands. I was distracted talking to dd and placed a handful of them gently on his knee. They fell down by his foot. He suddenly got angry saying “why would I do that? I should’ve placed them in his hand.” I apologised and said it wasn’t a big deal. He then picked them up, crumbled them together and when I looked in his direction threw them in my face hitting my eye. Even if it was meant playful (which it wasn’t due to the sheer amount of force and his tone prior to this), it really hurt my eye and I was upset about it. Dd even saw and demanded for daddy to apologise to mommy. I said instead I wanted to go home and he blamed me for ruining the day over something minor. It rubbed me wrong as he shouldn’t have thrown it at me at all, definitely not in front of kids and he shouldn’t have done it so hard. He keeps coming in the room and asking is this how I’m going to act- I say no I am no longer upset about this and if he apologises we can continue the day. He has stormed out now and refuses to help with dc. So confused and don’t see how this is my fault.

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faerietales · 27/04/2025 15:57

Maybe he panicked about them being down near the pedals while he was trying to concentrate on the road. If his foot had slipped on them he could have caused an accident.

Not an excuse to throw them at you but it all seems like a lot of drama over not very much at all, really.

Houseplantsaresoothing · 27/04/2025 15:55

He shouldn't have thrown them at you OP.
He shouldn't be throwing anything at you.
That is really aggressive behaviour and a big over reaction, even if he was driving .

How is your eye now OP?

Prinajdjd · 27/04/2025 15:51

Jabberwok · 27/04/2025 15:50

Who was driving, was he? It can be annoying and worrying if something falls down by the pedals when you are driving, especially at speed

Yes he was. It was an accident. Imo even if he was annoyed he shouldn’t of throw them at me.

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Jabberwok · 27/04/2025 15:50

Who was driving, was he? It can be annoying and worrying if something falls down by the pedals when you are driving, especially at speed

Prinajdjd · 27/04/2025 15:48

Sauvin · 27/04/2025 15:47

This isn’t normal behaviour. Is it the first time he’s done something like this?

Yes. I was so confused why he would do something so aggressive. He is argumentative but never violent.

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Sauvin · 27/04/2025 15:47

This isn’t normal behaviour. Is it the first time he’s done something like this?

amber763 · 27/04/2025 15:46

It's not your fault. He's a dick.