I recently split up from the father of my baby. We also saw his daughter each fortnight for 2 overnight stays. She is almost 5. He said he has chosen not to tell her about the breakup and that he’s just said that he is living with her Nana (his Mum) so they can find a new place to live. It hasn’t been explained to her why I’m suddenly not around anymore. Her Dad argued that she’s confused with staying at her Nanas enough and she wouldn’t understand so he’s breaking it to her slowly.
I disagree as it might be distressing for her that I am suddenly completely out of the picture with no explanation. I think he doesn’t want her Mum to know about the failed relationship but she might need support from her Mum and extra love if she’s feeling any rejection. Especially if she thinks I suddenly don’t want to be around her at all. Does anyone have any advice please? Should I pressure him to tell her himself or should I let her Mum know without the Dads consent? I don’t want to do that as it places the emotional labour on her Mum when it’s the responsibility of the Dad to have that difficult conversation