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The utter despair of losing something

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kindnessforthewin · 26/04/2025 20:34

I realised I had misplaced brand new expensive sunglasses today, around mid morning, I just thought I hadn’t seen them in a while, so checked the last place I remember having them (the car).

DH almost 100% I brought them un as we know not to leave anything in the car.

When we arrived at a soft play (of all places) I took them off and left in central reservation of car as I didn’t want to take them in. That was 10 days ago, I just knew they weren’t in the house as I’d have seen them. I have a couple pairs and just got stuck on the other pair recently, as you do.

I don’t understand it at all. It’s ruined the entire day. Taken over. I can’t stop wondering where they have gone.

anyone else get obsessive like this?

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kindnessforthewin · 26/04/2025 21:36

@Symposiumyes moved them both forward. It’s such a mystery. And misery haha

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Symposium · 26/04/2025 21:35

Have you looked under the seats in the car?

TokyoSushi · 26/04/2025 21:34

kindnessforthewin · 26/04/2025 21:15

I found my AirPods in the glovebox 4 months after I lost them. I really hope the sunglasses show up. Did any of yours @TokyoSushi?

Nope, all still missing 🫠

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kindnessforthewin · 26/04/2025 21:33

@User415373i really hope I find them, did you find them?

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kindnessforthewin · 26/04/2025 21:33

@MathsMum3what if you just don’t know whether you lost them out or inside the house. That’s what’s upsetting me the most. If they’re in the house just WHERE. I’ve looked almost everywhere but I guess my AirPods turned up several months later.

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User415373 · 26/04/2025 21:30

Yes I get this. I literally don't stop looking though. Tipped the house upside down yesterday to find my sunglasses and totally resented having to go out once without them. I will look for days! I haven't actually lost lost many things though, they nearly always turn up!

MathsMum3 · 26/04/2025 21:30

Totally empathise. I can't bear losing something, and it's not about the cost. If I lose something in the home, I search and search until I find it. If I lose something away from home, I feel so sad and irresponsible! I'll always go back and search if I think I might find it.

NeedSomeComfy · 26/04/2025 21:24

I once went on a trip to New York, treated myself to a pair of expensive (for me) sunglasses from there, and promptly lost them a week after we got back. I'd only worn them once! I was too ashamed to tell my DH about it. Luckily we moved house a year later and I found them fallen down the back of a big chest of drawers. If we hadn't moved I think I'd never have found them.

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kindnessforthewin · 26/04/2025 21:23

100% I took them off in the car before getting out and put them in that compartment because DH even said they won’t get scratched in there.

my theory is I left them in the car and I live in London, so we left car unlocked for a second and someone pinched them (happens a lot here) but we are usually careful to lock the car. They weren’t in there when we drove to PIL on Saturday of Easter (3 days later). Short time to leave car unlocked and someone take them.

I went to newsagents to drop off a Vinted of all things so DH wonders if I left car unlocked then or left in newsagents but they said not.

it’s so annoying because I’ve even question the cleaner who came last week (had never met her before she was sent my the woman who manages our usual cleaner who was away)but I just don’t know where they were to wonder. It would be pretty brazen to just pick up Chanel glasses and walk out with them.

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Dollshousedolly · 26/04/2025 21:20

Would you phone the soft-play place, just in case you wore or brought them in with you and lost them there ?

I think when you lose something you can convince yourself that you left them in a specific place/last had them somewhere, etc but it’s just you’ve convinced yourself of that because it’s what you believed happened. Then you’d find the item somewhere else completely and recall that yes, that’s where you actually left them.

ExtraOnions · 26/04/2025 21:15

I left my Chanel soap in a hotel last week … gutted

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kindnessforthewin · 26/04/2025 21:15

I found my AirPods in the glovebox 4 months after I lost them. I really hope the sunglasses show up. Did any of yours @TokyoSushi?

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TokyoSushi · 26/04/2025 20:53

Yep, in the last year I have done this with sunglasses, ear buds and a yoga bolster(!), they were all ‘nice things’ and it’s driven me a bit potty ruminating over where they are/I left them!

Liz1tummypain · 26/04/2025 20:36

Well yes if I lose something expensive it would bother me definitely.