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To throw DD(2) knickers away when she has an accident?

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GingerLiberalFeminist · 26/04/2025 19:20

That's it in a nutshell.

She's 2 and 4 months, she initiated potty training a month ago so we went with it and she is broadly dry. However she has stopped doing poos on the potty and is doing them in her knickers 🤢

She seems to wait to do an enormous poo and it's often quite soft (she eats a lot of fruit) and it goes everywhere 🤢

I'm honestly sick of scooping sh*t out of tiny little knickers and then them still coming out stained from the wash. The pair today I put in a nappy bag, poo and all, and binned.

NB we do put her on potty routinely (going out potty, coming home potty, after dinner potty) but her poos have lost all routine (maybe she's withholding?!).

Am I being unreasonable?!!! And any advice?!!

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GingerLiberalFeminist · 26/04/2025 21:25

Thank you all! I feel marginally less bad now. Not sure I could have coped with cloth nappies tbh, precious idiot I am!

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LegoLandslide · 26/04/2025 20:36

usererror57 · 26/04/2025 20:07

the really bad ones I throw away - one thing you could try if you can’t afford to keep spending on pants is to hold the pants in the toilet whilst you press the flush (obviously not with your hand in the water too!) and let the water flush the worst away then wash them as usual

Just hold them tight if you do this, I've lost a few pairs of pants as the flush was much harder than I expected!

I would never chuck, always wash, but then I did do cloth nappies and wipes so probably have a high tolerance.

sesquipedalian · 26/04/2025 20:34

When my DD was potty training her son, not only did she dispose of poo pants, she told nursery to do so as well. She says they’re cheaper than nappies and life is too short!

hazelnutvanillalatte · 26/04/2025 20:34

Yeah always. Didn't happen often, maybe 5 times in all. Life's too short

Pippinsdiary · 26/04/2025 20:33

I used to bin them 9 times out of 10, sometimes I was tempted to bin the child but we got there in the end 😂

redbusbeepbeep · 26/04/2025 20:31

Ffs just bin them you don’t need to ask strangers on the internet

TeflonMom · 26/04/2025 20:30

A Fairy liquid pre scrub before machine washing is really good for getting poo out for the ones you can save. But I don’t blame you binning the very bad ones

IVFmumoftwo · 26/04/2025 20:18

My toddler has very soft poos so I would chuck them. Only a harder poo would I keep and just wash them. Same for wee.

Muchtoomuchtodo · 26/04/2025 20:17

get the worst off, soak them in a bucket of napisan and put them through the washing machine.

Providing you have a washing machine I think it’s completely wasteful to just bin them - especially as it sounds like it’s happening fairly regularly atm

crumblingschools · 26/04/2025 20:16

As an aside does she have toddler diarrhoea?

longapple · 26/04/2025 20:13

Get what you can off then cold rinse in the washing machine before a normal cycle, or at 60 with towels. Hang them to dry in the sun and the stains vanish.

Cloth nappies I did at 60, accident pants go at 40 with a normal load.

Cherrytree86 · 26/04/2025 20:13

Rowen32 · 26/04/2025 20:06

How ridiculously wasteful, no would never do that

@Rowen32

nah life is way too short! Save yourself the grimness 🤢 and get them binned!

Disastrouspottytraining · 26/04/2025 20:12

DD1 went through a regression around 3y 2m (after DD2 was born) where every day at nursery she did a poop in her pants. It was so frustrating and went on for about a month. The day that I opened the nursery wet bag to put the dirty things in the washer and a turd rolled across the kitchen floor was the day that I told nursery just to bin them from now on 😅🤢. So no, YANBU in my opinion!

Lovelysummerdays · 26/04/2025 20:07

I chucked too. Life is too short for sorting out poo pants. Tbh if I pooed my own pants I’d probably ditch them too.

usererror57 · 26/04/2025 20:07

the really bad ones I throw away - one thing you could try if you can’t afford to keep spending on pants is to hold the pants in the toilet whilst you press the flush (obviously not with your hand in the water too!) and let the water flush the worst away then wash them as usual

Rowen32 · 26/04/2025 20:06

How ridiculously wasteful, no would never do that

Everydayimhuffling · 26/04/2025 20:06
  1. I salvage when I can, but throw away if they are too grim or get stained.
  1. When we were going through that I initiated a time to sit on the potty for 5 minutes each day. That helped with withholding and regulated things a bit.
BlueTitShark · 26/04/2025 20:04

I imagine you wouldn’t have coped with reusable nappies then 😁😁

Just put them in the wash, after showing them over the toilet to remove the worst. They’ll come out clean

likerede · 26/04/2025 19:58

I've always washed them and the poo has always come out. But it only happened a couple of times - they stayed naked until they learned to poo on the potty.

muggart · 26/04/2025 19:53

absolutely bin the pants.

I’ve recently gone through this stage and altered my LO’s diet to avoid slushy poos. highly recommend doing this!

IchiNiSanShiGo · 26/04/2025 19:47

Oh Christ, yes, bin the poo pants! Life is far too short to be cleaning them.

Nicklebox · 26/04/2025 19:42

Its ok to bin the pants, but if you hold them in the toilet and flush the poo will come out and flush away

stargirl1701 · 26/04/2025 19:40

I used cloth nappies so poo never bothered me. My girls now use period pants and I wash them.

Espresso25 · 26/04/2025 19:38

Yes that’s fine.

TheMAFSfan · 26/04/2025 19:33

They ALWAYS go in the bin. The nursery couldn’t believe it when I told them I didn’t want little packages of shit sent home in my little one’s bag every day.