Friends husband running the marathon tomorrow but she’s not going to watch him

Is he one of those people who does marathons all the time though? If so it’s probably so boring for her to go. And maybe she doesn’t like huge crowds, London will be absolutely mental tomorrow which is utter hell even at the best of times

I can see both sides. But I would say the London marathon is slightly different from your average ‘long race’. As someone who has completed it twice and I am a novice, not a runner, seeing my friends and family around the course as I completed it was the most amazing thing and knowing people had taken time out of their days just to be there and support was so nice and it really motivated me. The supporters and the crowds are what makes London what it is and unless you’ve competed, you have no idea what it’s like to be cheered on by complete strangers.
However, you have not mentioned what she is busy doing and it is completely up to them what she does. He will have plenty of support along the way regardless.

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Is it his first marathon? I’d have been gutted if DH hadn’t come to my first (London) but I’ve done several now and generally don’t have supporters along the route.

Do you know how boring it is to watch someone run a marathon? Hours of standing around for 15 seconds of waving.

If her husband is like mine, he'll have bored the shit out of her talking about this, so she can't be arsed with it all

I’ve watched my husband in so many now. God it’s dull.

Dh had ideas of running a marathon once.

i was not supportive at all. Evenings and weekends fucked because he always needed to go for a run. Left me with the cooking, and clearing every night, and we couldn’t plan weekends cos that was long run day.

I have a colleague who regularly runs marathons. The amount of time he puts into it is insane. He’s single.

If this is the thing in Your life that you are most concerned about I envy you your easy life

The spouses of people I know who’ve run the marathon have put up with plenty while the incessant training and chatting about it went on beforehand. I imagine she’s been supportive enough. And with friends like you she doesn’t need enemies.

Does he actually want her there?. My BiL travels all over to run. He prefers to travel alone. I think he's just totally focused on himself on race day and the day before.

Are you the'friend'?

Husband is a runner. I don’t go and watch him. It’s boring. Only so many times you can clap and shout ‘keep going’ or ‘you’re doing great’
I stay at home while he goes off and I don’t expect him to come and watch my sporting events either. Couldn’t care less if he’s there or not

Depends. My friend’s DH runs at least 3 a year. Always training. Always out for a run and removing himself from family life. Running and training comes first.

No surprise that she rarely goes to watch.

Going to watch someone run something like that is hell on earth. You ultimately have to battle really busy public transport and hoarded of people to find a spot somewhere on the route for a ten second glance of someone you see all the time anyway. Then you either go back home again fighting the same crowds or you try and make it to the end, find them amongst several thousand other people then spend another three hours trying to get home. Stay home and make them a nice celebratory meal would be my advice!

My husband is running it and I'm not going 😂 I've gone before but he's done loads. If I wasn't busy i probably would have. The mile by mile analysis afterwards with his running pals is quite dull though! He's probably glad I'm not going so he can stay and talk about it for longer.
I do a hobby he's not interested in and I don't mind when he doesn't come to watch.

Okay so as someone who has supported friends as they ran by - it’s almost impossible to spot your friend as they run by. Everyone is red faced and looks the same and they are a lot of people deep and are going at a pace. They spotted me I didn’t spot them so suggestions of water and snacks are silly as you almost likely won’t spot them and unless they are on the side you are you won’t be close to them.

Romantic views but in reality much much different.

Watching a marathon for hours to catch a glimpse of someone sounds incredibly tedious.

Wow, you must be really jealous of her. With friends like you, who needs enemies.

If they're doing it for a sense of personal achievement then it shouldn't matter who's watching.

So you have no ideawhat she is doing tomorrow, but judged it to be unimportant?

He has probably been so busy training that she is throughly pissed off with it all.

Do you fancy him OP? You seem a bit over invested in how it might affect him. Have you thought “if I was with him I’d watch” or “he deserves better.”

My dd runs the school's marathon every year. Just a mile run once the adults half marathon finishes. I hate having to watch her because it's just hours of standing around to see her for about 4 seconds. But she's my daughter so I'm there with a banner and a smile and lots of encouragement even though it's crap. I'd rather mop the ocean than do the same for a man.

My husband runs half and full marathons throughout the year, I have been three times to see him in about 10 years.
It’s boring as fuck, you see them run past for about 5 seconds, after taking ages to get there, as it’s a ball ache to park, and then hang about till they finish.
Sure I’m proud of him, but it’s just not my thing, and I’ve better things to do with my time at the weekend, when we are both working all week.

I wouldn't go either tbh.