Friends husband running the marathon tomorrow but she’s not going to watch him

I wouldn't go nor expect my DH to come to mine if I did one.
Horrific crowds and just standing around. A nightmare if you've got kids.

I do lots of charity hikes. My DH has dropped me off at a couple and picked me up after but certainly wasn't hanging round the finish line or anything like that.

Maybe if it's a young couple who have no kids or many responsibilities. You could go hang around the route cheering your partner on. Thats sweet.

But it's just not achievable for most people.
Marathons are LONG events.

I don't blame her. I can't think of anything more boring.

Fucking hell.

My ex-husband used to run - to stay in shape, never in marathons or in any races at all.
I felt bad for him running alone so I started going with him - at first it was tough but I got better & better & not soon I was doing better than him.
It made him furious, the macho shithead.
hahaha

I'm with her. If I supported DH at all his bloody races it would be hours of every month wasted for me! Watching a marathon is boring, sorry but once you've done one you've done your time - IMHO!

Heaven forbid she have her own life.

it’s a hobby.

she has likely supported him for weeks and months by taking on extra responsibilities so he can engage in his hobby. Standing in a crowd really doesn’t make a difference.

Do you want to go @OP?

London is a horrible place to be in on marathon day. Busy, noisy, transport is horrendous, hotels are super expensive, you'll never get a table at a restaurant. If it doesn't bother her husband that she's not going, I don't see the problem. At the end of the day, she'd just be standing in crowded streets on her own for hours on end, hoping to catch a glimpse of someone in a crowd of thousands. I don't blame her.

DH runs a lot of marathons, I have never watched him, it's his hobby not mine

It’s ok for people to have different opinions on how friendships work. Some people think devotion to one’s DH is vital and others don’t. The op could go and watch if she wants to. The wife of the runner can make up her own mind.

I’ve taken primary age children and watched my husband, a family member, and two friends. Always tracked and made sure to be in the right place at the right time and seen them at the point near the Tower of London where they pass nearby twice. Loved every minute, every time. Running that distance in the times they do is impressive as is their passion for their cause. I can’t afford to sponsor much but I can cheer them on at the top of my lungs.

Because you’re a judgemental arse?! Friends don’t tear each other down… 🙄

Do you not have much going on in your life?

How long have you had the hots for this bloke, @ML5 ?

My boyfriend and I are both runners. I am also a swimmer. We both agree that if either is in an event that the other isn't doing there is zero pressure to go. It is so so boring to stand about for ages to see someone jog past for 10 seconds.
We just celebrate / commiserate afterwards.

She’s probably got stuff to do, just like he’s got stuff to do, what’s the big deal

First post nails it as usual

I race a lot - 10k, half mara, mara, ultra & my husband & children (8 & 11) never come to watch. It's boring for them. They'd be forever stressing about whether they'd actually see me. I'd be stressing about if I'm going to see them (rather than focusing on my run). My running club are my running family. We either run or spectate lots of races together!

There is literally no point. I went one year to support a friend. Didn’t see them at all. Couldn’t find them after. Complete waste of time. I don’t blame her, she can cheer him on remotely.

Maybe you should go and cheer for him if you are so obsessed with what a DH of your friend does?
Guess she will start a MN thread in a year

Just because you’d want your partner there, that doesn’t mean everyone does. Plenty of runners wouldn’t be bothered, and the OP’s friend’s husband might be one of them.

The kids and I went to support Dh. Huge mistake. Never again. It wasn't easy with the crowds and the traffic and trying to figure out what time to be at various spots along the route. We were all cheering at the finish line but he wasn't happy with his time and was a grumpy, irritable, pain in the arse at the finish and all the way home. It was a miserable day.

What’s this got to do with you? Why do you assume her husband is bothered?

This is such a non-issue to be devoting even a moment’s thought to.

I went to 'watch' my husband run a city marathon. We saw him for about 5 seconds and he didn't see us - we'd said where we'd be and thought we'd chosen a spot that would be sensible for him to spot us, but he was at a point of the race where his brain had essentially switched off from what was going on around him, so he forgot to look out for us. I was needed to drive him home, but I could've just met him after and the benefit would've been exactly the same for him.